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Rorberyllium
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29 Sep 2012, 3:36 pm

You mentioned having been in an open relationship with someone in the past, are you in an open relationship with your current partner?

Typically an open relationship involves being open and honest about other people who are are talking to or are interested in. He has a right to privacy (as do you) but you do have the right to know what's going on, especially when it comes to other people.



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29 Sep 2012, 4:05 pm

Flirting is one thing, treating another girl the same way he does to you is wrong. I would also be upset.



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29 Sep 2012, 4:34 pm

The whole Flirting others thing while being in relationship is wrong.


Here I said it, call me a close minded middle-eastern.



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29 Sep 2012, 4:48 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The whole Flirting others thing while being in relationship is wrong.


Here I said it, call me a close minded middle-eastern.


You close minded middle-eastern!



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29 Sep 2012, 5:14 pm

starryeyedvoyager wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The whole Flirting others thing while being in relationship is wrong.


Here I said it, call me a close minded middle-eastern.


You close minded middle-eastern!


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30 Sep 2012, 9:08 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
starryeyedvoyager wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The whole Flirting others thing while being in relationship is wrong.


Here I said it, call me a close minded middle-eastern.


You close minded middle-eastern!


Next...


Dammit!! He beat me to it. I agree though, I don't want my GR/Fiancee/Wife flirting with other men. Women on the other hand...


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30 Sep 2012, 11:33 am

It is easy to delete and move incriminating information when you know someone will be checking.

Honestly, the password is a barrier. A barrier in a relationship is never a good sign. If he had the password before this all started it would be one thing. But ask him, if he has nothing to hide, why does he need a password?

The whole thing seems suspicious to me. Flirting with other girls while in the same ROOM as you, while you're talking to him, is a serious thing.


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30 Sep 2012, 12:21 pm

Blammo wrote:
Flirting with other girls while in the same ROOM as you, while you're talking to him, is a serious thing.


Ya, thats a real dick move, even for an "open" relationship :x


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03 Oct 2012, 3:44 pm

Maerlyn138 wrote:
Blammo wrote:
Flirting with other girls while in the same ROOM as you, while you're talking to him, is a serious thing.


Ya, thats a real dick move, even for an "open" relationship :x



^^ all of this


WOW! That was pretty bold of him. I'd have a problem with that. I don't know if I could get past it either. And I agree that if he had nothing to hide he wouldn't need a password.

He could easily turn this on you and say it was because of your snooping-which while I do agree wasn't right. If you had found nothing you would have felt bad for doing so but since you found something you kind of feel justified.