Needy men

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It's the same way vice versa.

I agree with ComradeKael and Taverson.

People agree with me? YAY!

I'm needy, and I ask too many questions because I cannot read between the lines, I cannot read body language properly and I take too long to process what should have been obvious. I go back and become a stalker or creepy guy. Once the person knows me, I bounce a lot of things of them, that too can be seen as needy. I won't win and I accept that

yes but it is a thousand, million, billion, trillion times worse for a man to be needy, clingy, desperate, than it is for a woman, unfortuneately, a man has to have things going for him in his life, have a life, has to have something he is into like a passion or hobbie, goal, that gives his life meaning above and beyond a relationship, if he is trying to get his validation in life through his interactions with women, women will always notice it and be repulsed by it, reject him instantly(god damn that 6th sense that women have!!), men too, also won't respect him

Well I didn't have that sixth sense when I took up with my ex. He turned out to be extremely bad news and nearly ended my life. You must be referring to NT woman, though.

yeah since most women are NT

One of my ex boyfriends was needy and then I met my husband and he acted needy too. But he stopped. Needy men are high maintenance. Nothing is ever enough for them nor good enough.

much worse for men obviously

She does have a point though

Nothing wrong with being needy.

yeah, men have to be like perfect everything

Yeah, another negative thing that women can get away with lol. If a woman is needy, it's "cute" but if a man is needy, he needs to be put on death row, basically.

yeah it just pisses me off, always angers me

Wow Judgmental much folks?

My ex always wanted me to be with him, he never wanted me to be by myself. He acted like a control freak and would make me feel guilty like for example if i wanted to go to bed, he get upset I wouldn't stay up with him. I would try and give him affection but when I do it, it was never good enough for him because he still thought I sucked at it and didn't do it enough and still had a problem with me doing it. Also when I would try and think about him, it still wasn't good enough because I left him some oatmeal for him and he said it was barely any (there was enough in there to fill up a bowl) and would accuse me of being self centered. So much for thinking about him and caring and that is what I get in return?

My husband on the other hand, he wouldn't stop touching me (sensory issues sound familiar folks?) and then it started to overwhelm me because he wouldn't stop and he did it too much.

So thank you for your support folks, not.

I also saw the irony here, we always feel what we do isn't good enough for our NT partners (even though my ex was aspie but he acted none spectrum) no matter how hard we try and we also don't like touch. How common is that for us huh? Then I get judged for what I post for all this? Wow , just wow. Why the hypocrisy folks?

I get why you're upset, but I also see where they're coming from. So many times on dating sites, I've gone thru profile after profile of some lazy dumbass with no job, no car, no anything; These women who had NOTHING, but then the section where it said what they were looking for in a man had salary requirements, sometimes even specific cars he had to drive or certain careers he had to have, in order for them to even consider dating. I think it's wrong for either sex to expect everything from the other. A relationship should be a mutual exchange of love and affection that works for them. It shouldn't be one party being used by the other.

Also, I wanted to say, for the record, I LOVE touching and being touched. I literally can't get enough of it... But at the same time, if I'm not expecting it, like if it's someone I wouldn't expect to touch me, it's extremely awkward, but I don't run away screaming or anything. I'm just not sure how to react to it.

So misunderstanding then?


I don't know what others are thinking so I can't really understand their perspective nor their post. I speak of my own experience with my needy ex and my husband touching me too much. And my post was offensive? I never said anything about men needing to be perfect. I said nothing is ever good enough for them. No matter how hard we try, they still want more and my husband felt the need to touch me all the time and it was like it wasn't enough for him.


I guess everyone here has their own idea of what needy is while I was thinking of needy as about my ex and my husband and how hard it was for me. Needy is a relative term I guess.