Does anyone find they get obsessed with people easily?

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I'm same with this girl I knew from college, was in same class as her for two years, we left college a year ago and I still think and talk about her to this day, her bf is mates with some of my mates and they know about how I feel for her and i've been told stories of how their relationship is going and just hoping that I could still have a chance even though thats unlikely but as they say "Good things come to those who wait". I get picked on about it they think I like her for her looks or her boobs (typical) but its not that when I first saw her something clicked in my head and I've always found a special something about her.

Good to hear there are others out there with similar problems. those who said "I used to but don't anymore", any advice on how to get over it and not let one person consume your mind every minute of the day?

To recognize that this person is no more special than any other person, except in your own mind, is a step in the right direction.

Yeah... one of the biggest annoyances to deal with. No real solution. I'd be a lot happier if I could come up with one.

"Hello, brain?" "Yeah, what's up." "You need to get off of that one subject, you know, the one person." "No I don't." "damn it......"

lol this happens to me quite often.. it's pretty annoying since i'm aware of what kind of response i'd get if someone were to realize how much i've been looking at them etc. but yeah, atleast it goes away after awhile..

I don't know anyone who is obsessed with me, and I'm not obsessed with anyone else. Should I be grateful, bored, miserable or nicely content?

Yes, again. I try not to, fail pretty good, get shot down, it hurts, gimme another week, if I don't get some, I'll be doin it again...

The pain is funny, in afterthought. This time was the worst, cuz this girl got with my best friend, and he knew I was into her... DAMMMIT its infuriating.

I kinda wanna just run away. The effed up part is we started as friends, she wants to maintain that, I dont know if I can, as much as I want to. I fall in love way too easy, and it hurts...

Hah this sounds way too familiar. Did you have your friend apologize afterwards, or was it more than a drunken one-night thing? Lemme tell you, the whole apology thing, if you didn't have to deal with it, less than pleasant. He wanted me to punch him. So tempting, but I knew it wouldn't be right, and it wouldn't solve anything. He then wanted a friend of ours to punch him, at which point I felt like punching him because he only wanted it to happen so he could feel like things were "even." He felt bad about it, he felt like he had slighted me, this is all well and good. Well, its good that he gave a s**t. bleh.

See I was gonna hook them up for the Global Orgasm[.org]. Ihad only just met her, and then I fell hard. I didn't see it coming, but he knew... He goes to Hawai'i in two days now. Long story, and I just got tired... I'll tell you more in the AM.

~S

This is absolutely a problem for me, and the biggest problem may be that there is still a part of my mind that doesn't consider it a problem.

On the one hand, on those incredibly rare occasions (in retrospect, I'd say it has happened twice in my life, and 10 years apart) where I meet someone and feel that there is a very strong and true connection I fall incredibly hard and fast. In both cases (one incredibly intense, short and recent) I thought I was keeping level in mind, but I wasn't. In both cases the girl involved got swept up in her emotions as well, and I allowed that to make me believe that the woman felt the way I did (in spite of the fact that in both situations I was warned by the girl in question that I seemed a little caught up). I think the real issue is that I hear what a woman says, and I imagine what I would feel that would make me say such a thing. Their feelings change, mine don't.

But why do I question if it's truly a problem? It's who and how I am. The happy times that did come with each of these instances came because I let myself simply feel what I felt. I don't know how to be another way. I don't think the wonderful times could have happened if I didn't let myself go. So now I hurt, and I hate it and I'm trying to work on my ability to cope with disappointment. Not sure if I'm doing well, but I'm doing much better than I have in the past.

Yeah, this is a problem for me, far more often than I'd like.

I got major feelings for a friend of mine, and spent ages trying to suppress them and make them go away because I thought they'd only ruin our friendship - and I thought I'd managed it... until she told me that she'd only recently realised she was gay (after having dragged out of me the fact that I liked her). At which point the feelings clawed themselves deeply into my mind and wouldn't leave - and this was in July! I still haven't fully got over her - in fact, she's probably the first girl over whom I ever wept uncontrollably

I also seem to have developed another little crush on another lesbian friend, except this time I seem to be consciously keeping it to just that - a little crush, which is less soul-destroying and more... well, more fun, frankly. She seems to have a similar attitude to the whole deal, which is nice(we flirt quite a lot, even if she IS all about the ladybits ).

I have had always the problem that I am shy and have no selfconfidence, but in the same time I want the person I feel interested in to know the depth of my love, because it seems to me so beautifull, and it would be a pity if he would never even get to know. So I am too shy to smile for a man I like or to speak any small talk. I do not even look at him, but then I may write to him a philosophical long love letter where I tell all my big feelings towards him and in the same time I worry he might start to feel uncomfortable because of my sudden expression of strong feelings of love, so I finish the letter expressing clearly that I do not want or need anything from him. Maybe they just think I am crazy, but I do not care, because I feel selfconfident that my motivs were pure, nothing selfish...
I just wanted him to know somebody sees so much beauty through his being that he maybe could never even imagine, that is all.

This have not worked, but it is my style

Yes, that describes me perfectly.....I had a crush on a girl from 6th grade all the way up to 12th grade.

We were pretty good friends, but I was too shy to say that I liked her up until the summer before senior year when I asked her to homecoming, she said "no".

I've only been obsessed romantically a few times... but intellectually, that is another story.

I was like this a lot of times.

Tim