Have you been alone so long that you just don't care anymore

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12 Feb 2013, 2:43 pm

I'm sorry you feel that way. Maybe you like me, are simply in the wrong ecosystem?

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12 Feb 2013, 3:05 pm

Which begs the question: is there really someone for everyone?

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12 Feb 2013, 3:05 pm

wtfid2 wrote:

Jerricko wrote:

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I've been in this state for almost a year. I thought to myself "Do I really want to keep looking for a girlfriend?" and decided that I just don't care anymore. I'm content with my relationships and the search just kept depressing me.

Have you been alone so long that you just don't care anymore?

lol, A year isn't very long at all for this subject despite your statement to the contrary.

I think we're misunderstanding each other. I haven't been looking for a year, I gave up nearly a year ago; at least, that what I think you mean. I was trying to get a girlfriend for at least 7 years.

7 yrs is a lot but most people here go 20-30 :p

Give me a break, it wasn't long before that that I still thought girls were icky

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12 Feb 2013, 3:17 pm

See, when I was in school it was very uncommon for people who I spent time with to be dating.. there were two, both of whom had what to me, is very very low standards.. but both of whom seemed happy. So it really didn't impact much that we never really went out with girls. But today.. at least from what my friends younger siblings and nephews and neices have said.. highschools seem to be like berkley in the 60's. You can chart complex webs of sexual interaction amongst the people and if you're either being excluded from that or purposefully excluding yourself from it.. just constant hook ups and breakups that no one seems to get upset about since no one got attached in the first place. I can sure see where that would be really freakin' frustrating.

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12 Feb 2013, 6:39 pm

rabbittss wrote:

yeah, i've seen a lot of that too, and i think it's disgusting. there seem to be a lot of people out there who don't have any feelings these days and they just lie and lie and lie. and as for me, i'm going on 3 years of being single. minus a brief abusive and fake-relationship that left me traumatized. honestly wish i had kept on my single streak and missed out on that loser.

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12 Feb 2013, 7:03 pm

it's a better thing to not care and let it go than to let yourself be taken advantage of. ppl who want to use ppl rather than form a genuine connection see loneliness and pounce. they can manipulate NTs, let alone aspies.

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12 Feb 2013, 8:20 pm

bluerose wrote:

i don't really care what males think of me anymore because i know they won't look at me as a human being because of my face so i don't consider them human beings anymore either. about to give up on lesbians too. god knows it's been a long time coming. i'll never so much as kiss anyone ever.

Blatant misandry right there, but of course, nobody is bothered.

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12 Feb 2013, 8:23 pm

MCalavera wrote:

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Blatant misandry right there, but of course, nobody is bothered.

One thing I've learned is that pointing out misandry means you're a misogynist. You have been ousted sir!

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12 Feb 2013, 8:25 pm

MXH wrote:

MCalavera wrote:

bluerose wrote:

Blatant misandry right there, but of course, nobody is bothered.

One thing I've learned is that pointing out misandry means you're a misogynist. You have been ousted sir!

:roll:

You need more learning then. Anything a man says is considered misogyny around here.

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12 Feb 2013, 8:27 pm

And then some wonder why there are real misogynists out there :roll:

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12 Feb 2013, 8:28 pm

I just plain gave up right after I got out of high school, and didn't look back until very recently. In that period, though, I was able to transform and improve myself tremendously.

My recommendation would be to not bother with it, and focus on personal growth. Once your efforts reach you to a point of heightened self-efficacy, the confidence boost from it can increase your prospects and relationships will likely be far more rewarding in that state as well.

Just look at all the miserable souls wandering in and out of relationships, directionless, and stagnating into poor health and misery. Relationships in of themselves are useless without a solid foundation to build them from.

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12 Feb 2013, 8:35 pm

Not yet but I've come pretty close. To me I feel like I'd have better odds winning the lottery then ever getting actual human companionship.

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12 Feb 2013, 10:29 pm

Jerricko wrote:

Have you been alone so long that you just don't care anymore?

It's better not to care anymore. From observing people, it looks that relationships are not that great as society paints it.

redrobin62 wrote:

Which begs the question: is there really someone for everyone?

No, there isn't.

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12 Feb 2013, 11:56 pm

MCalavera wrote:

You need more learning then. Anything a man says is considered misogyny around here.

Pretty much anything, including butt-kissing, is... but that's society's norm now. Get used to it or prepare for a helluva' fight to set the scales back to even.

Me... I've had the love of my life. I don't think there will ever be another.

I'm just going to continue living my life in a way that makes me healthy and happy... I've pretty much already given up on searching. If someone comes along purely by chance - so be it. I just want to get some proper time with my kids and my life will be complete enough to be on the positive side.

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13 Feb 2013, 12:30 am

I've never given up on anything in my life and I don't plan on starting now. I'm a very goal-oriented person and apart from dating, I've never failed at anything I've set my mind to. I'm not ready to throw in the towel yet, nor do I think I ever will be.

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13 Feb 2013, 7:59 am

Pabalebo wrote:

I used to say that. I'm not a quitter and when one of my good friends gave me the advice, "just stop looking and you'll find someone." I was like, what!? When I was searching for a job while unemployed I didn't stop looking and then find magically find a job without applying for it, I had to put alot of effort into it.

That was a while ago. I have given up now. Not so much given up, but stopped actively looking and I'm very used to being on my own now.

And she was wrong... now that I've given up no one did magically appear. Worst most stupid piece of advice ever!

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