Tyri0n wrote:
Cafeaulait wrote:
You´re on an aspie forum, so a lot of people actually have the same problem...
A lot of people have this problem because of off-putting behaviors and lousy social skills. I have some of that, too, but my relational ability significantly lags my social functioning skills, even relative to other aspies, who are much lower-functioning but have close friends.
I was actually told "why are you here?" in a CBT group for people with Asperger's because my surface-level social skills were apparently fine. But then everyone else in that group has close friends, and I don't. I'm just sort of close with the person I happen to be sleeping with at any given time.
Where does it say that you should automatically be like everyone else?
Everyone varies
If you see yourself as being unable to maintain a connection to people and often think 'Oh no I bet this is going to go wrong like the previous time', the chances are it will as you'll be projecting a bad vibe which others will subconsciously pick up.
Focus on what you want, not what you don't want.
The less you focus on 'how am I doing?' the better, as you'll be more 'in the moment'.
06 Mar 2013, 1:03 pm
