What do you talk about in a relationship?

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I wouldn't know how to keep a conversation with a random woman at any given time. But if I'm in a relationship with someone, it means we are compatible with each other, and I can just talk to her without forcing the issue. Whenever I realize I just spent several hours with someone I am first amazed at how I managed to talk about something during all that time, but really, when I am with those persons finding something to talk about becomes the last thing on my mind, as compatibility and knowing each other well allows me to just go with the flow and not overthink things much and other things that get in the way of a normal conversation.

Being able to comfortably be in silence is a big one, too.

With the women I've been in a relationship with we've talked about books we've bot read, psychology, recent events both national and related to common friends and acquaintances, sometimes talking about old times too, or what I am thinking anout at any given moment which may be quite random sometimes, or teasing each other, and other stuff so automatic I can honestly not remember, or some rather deep things too because it is a relationship after all

That sounds awesome!

OP: Honestly, it's not hard to find stuff to talk about. Pretty much anything - I only keep a very few subjects off limits, and lately, even those have been included so.

The real challenge is getting them to shut the hell up when you want some peace and quiet.
A lot of people are really uncomfortable with silence (many NT's are), and therefore do everything they can to avoid it - and others just monologue a hell of a lot. (yes aspies, I'm looking at you )

Wow! I wake up the next morning and I´ve get 18 replies! Awesome!

Because of the NTs need to chat with each other to feel comforted and me being unable for normal social chat, it is really important for me to share hobbies and interests with my partner. Because talking about that is easy for me. ^^

It's your cat avatar, no one can resist it.

ahahah you're hilarious

But can you keep conversations going with other people as well?

I can't even keep conversations going that long with friends..

Thanks. Really, I think it's a sign of a good healthy relationship when silences don't need to be avoided. When you can just enjoy being near each other without having to say anything.

You asked not just what people talk about in a relationship, but what they do all day too. We do the same stuff we did when we were single (except try to pick up chicks, obviously), only we do it in close proximity to each other. It's nice, I highly recommend it.

^^^
Pretty much.

It depends on the person. Friends yes, mostly. Strangers are hard. With acquaintances it is possible.

Once, I did keep one WP member up all night (literally) chatting accidently (due to time zone differences) and had to be given a certificate stating that my apology was accepted and that I was forgiven.

This is exactly why you enter a relationship with someone you have things in common with, and not just someone who's attractive..
But honestly, if this is a problem, you're beyond doomed in a relationship.
If this happens once in a while it's perfectly fine.
Just remember; when in doubt, blowjob.

Well if it makes you feel better, my problem is that I can have a somewhat conversation with my friend but I cannot talk to my girlfriend to save my life. We're happy and enjoy each other's company, however, the conversations that are had with her are usually with her and my parents or with us and my parents. We have small conversation now that we are watching Buffy the the vampire slayer though. xD

Aspie powers go! Hobbies, likes, interests, life, magic, sports, video games, flowers, etc. The cool thing is that we aspies know so much about a lot of things that sometimes our significant others feel like every single time they see us, it's like opening up a book without a book.

Autistic people: Glorified books without being books. * Raises right fist*

I’ve sometimes talked with someone for several hours at a time (never a woman in real life, of course), without making any special effort. It was completely spontaneous and felt natural to me. In retrospect, however, I shudder when I remember it, because it was really pathetic and full of Aspergian slips. I can only wonder how I managed not to alienate those people as quickly as I must have done with everybody else.

If I had a girlfriend, I think I’d want to be hugging her all the time whenever we talked, sort of to avoid misunderstandings. On the other hand, this is probably one of the many reasons I’ve never had a girlfriend.

maybe you could talk about your pets or maybe you could talk about dinner plans like making spaghetti together. Sometimes it's ok to talk just a little bit.