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20 May 2013, 2:32 pm

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If girls sense that you are somewhat proud of being single they are unlikelier to approach you(he is proud of his singledom so he will reject me).

There is a certain amount of truth to that. I feel like 2 guys I know are so happy with being single, or rather, so against having a relationship that might ruin their freedom to watch or play soccer or have a beer with their friends that they are abhorrent of single women even talking to them. (they are obviously extreme exceptions to the norm though or just very bitter...) So they are 2 men whom I will never ask on a date.

Reads like the male manifestation of boredom (involves beer). They can't categorically avoid all attention, and nobody wants a relationship getting in the way of their routine, but any personal routine alots for romantic opportunities, should they arise. That could just be their way of conveying being simple guys, not solitary ones.

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20 May 2013, 3:57 pm

support groups take the sting out of being lonely/bereft of companionship.

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20 May 2013, 5:31 pm

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support groups take the sting out of being lonely/bereft of companionship.

There's a difference between support groups and pride groups. What you guys want is like AA for singles. Not an AA pride group

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20 May 2013, 5:53 pm

MXH wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

support groups take the sting out of being lonely/bereft of companionship.

There's a difference between support groups and pride groups. What you guys want is like AA for singles. Not an AA pride group

but support groups also help to develop some invididual/group pride. pride is what the doctor ordered for all the low-self-esteem unwanted masses, "all the lonely people" as it were.

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20 May 2013, 6:27 pm

PsychoSarah wrote:

What is the point of being pround about that? It's fine that you're not butt hurt about being single, but it isn't really something to pat yourself on the back for.

sure it is, hey it could be worst.

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20 May 2013, 6:31 pm

so us chronic single guys, so what are we suppose to do then? we can't get a girlfriend, so are we suppose to mope around,
be angry, yelling on top of our lungs, and throws rocks threw windows?

why can't we just be happy, and find a hobby, an interest, and enjoy life. why do I need a wife to be happy, why do I need a girlfriend.
it's not like I have a choice, folks, I don't have magic powers, I can't use magic powers to make a lady fall in love with me.

that how it is.

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20 May 2013, 6:50 pm

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so us chronic single guys, so what are we suppose to do then? we can't get a girlfriend, so are we suppose to mope around,
be angry, yelling on top of our lungs, and throws rocks threw windows? why can't we just be happy, and find a hobby, an interest, and enjoy life. why do I need a wife to be happy, why do I need a girlfriend. it's not like I have a choice, folks, I don't have magic powers, I can't use magic powers to make a lady fall in love with me.
that how it is.

but I will say, that if I could get somebody to love me, then at least a LOT of other people [if not everybody] can. I believe strongly that YOU can, as well. I am the poster boy for long-term singleton unwanted hermits. you have the benefit of youth that I no longer have, and probably lots of other positive traits as well, that I had to find workarounds to compensate for the lack thereof. I believe that you will find somebody sooner than I did, nobody should have to wait 5 decades.

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20 May 2013, 8:16 pm

auntblabby wrote:

MXH wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

support groups take the sting out of being lonely/bereft of companionship.

There's a difference between support groups and pride groups. What you guys want is like AA for singles. Not an AA pride group

but support groups also help to develop some invididual/group pride. pride is what the doctor ordered for all the low-self-esteem unwanted masses, "all the lonely people" as it were.

What support groups give is not pride, but reassurance.

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20 May 2013, 8:45 pm

^^^
but what's wrong with reassurance?

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20 May 2013, 8:46 pm

MXH wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

MXH wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

support groups take the sting out of being lonely/bereft of companionship.

There's a difference between support groups and pride groups. What you guys want is like AA for singles. Not an AA pride group

but support groups also help to develop some invididual/group pride. pride is what the doctor ordered for all the low-self-esteem unwanted masses, "all the lonely people" as it were.

What support groups give is not pride, but reassurance.

I think just a hint of ambiguous positivity is needed. All it takes is a nudge in the right direction to either end the state of loneliness, or shift one's perception of it. Every minute you spend away from human interaction stretches the limits if your optimism, but the idea is that it's not mandated to break. I'm going to sip tea rather than split hairs.

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20 May 2013, 10:08 pm

auntblabby wrote:

billiscool wrote:

so us chronic single guys, so what are we suppose to do then? we can't get a girlfriend, so are we suppose to mope around,
be angry, yelling on top of our lungs, and throws rocks threw windows? why can't we just be happy, and find a hobby, an interest, and enjoy life. why do I need a wife to be happy, why do I need a girlfriend. it's not like I have a choice, folks, I don't have magic powers, I can't use magic powers to make a lady fall in love with me.
that how it is.

well, thanks for the kind words.

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20 May 2013, 10:21 pm

We should have unemployment pride too!

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20 May 2013, 10:22 pm

^^^
i'd buy THAT for a dollar

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20 May 2013, 11:25 pm

Fnord wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

but the pride groups are useful interim step between the now of pain and the bright shiny future of acceptance.

No, sir. The interim step is to not give a fornicative act about what other people think. Once you stop letting other people decide for you that you have no worth unless you're in a committed relationship, then you will start feeling pride for making your own choices!

I love and absolutely love how there apparently is only one answer to this problem. *Cough Cough Sarcasm*

What a silly thing to bicker about.

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