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13 Jun 2013, 12:01 am

I'm sort of the reverse of this - I'm a girl who prefers the friendship of men, especially gay ones. They're more fun to talk to IMO than women, although one of my best friends is a lesbian.For some reason most straight gjrls I've known were vapid and self-centered, if not just plain weird. I'm less self-conscious around the people I listed because I know they probably wont s**t talk me behind my back and think I'm cool for who I am. :)


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13 Jun 2013, 12:07 am

It’s probably better than not talking to anybody.


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15 Jun 2013, 12:46 am

I do have a range of female friends especially those that I go to and I am also a dateless guy as well. Still seeking for love whether she has Asperger's or not.



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15 Jun 2013, 2:06 am

EmoGlambertAspie wrote:
I'm sort of the reverse of this - I'm a girl who prefers the friendship of men, especially gay ones. They're more fun to talk to IMO than women, although one of my best friends is a lesbian.For some reason most straight gjrls I've known were vapid and self-centered, if not just plain weird. I'm less self-conscious around the people I listed because I know they probably wont sh** talk me behind my back and think I'm cool for who I am. :)


Wouldn't say you're the opposite. Actually, the same. You, too, have an easier time interacting with the opposite gender. I think this is true for many people with rough/unusual backgrounds, which includes having Asperger's.



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15 Jun 2013, 4:53 pm

Glowz44 wrote:
That's good billiscool, but don't write yourself out of the dating game straightaway. The Question is do Girls enjoy talking to you? If they do, you never know that a girl might take interest in you, you just don't know. But enjoy other aspects of them.


It is often young women (or at school teenage girls) that enjoy talking with me. Sometimes I have no time and then I have to literally say so. If it is about adult women, it is possible that they enjoy talking to me, but for me it is just that. I don't care why they enjoy so, they just do. I have quit the idea that they might be interested. I got rid of that wishful thinking.



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15 Jun 2013, 5:19 pm

Tyri0n wrote:
EmoGlambertAspie wrote:
I'm sort of the reverse of this - I'm a girl who prefers the friendship of men, especially gay ones. They're more fun to talk to IMO than women, although one of my best friends is a lesbian.For some reason most straight gjrls I've known were vapid and self-centered, if not just plain weird. I'm less self-conscious around the people I listed because I know they probably wont sh** talk me behind my back and think I'm cool for who I am. :)


Wouldn't say you're the opposite. Actually, the same. You, too, have an easier time interacting with the opposite gender. I think this is true for many people with rough/unusual backgrounds, which includes having Asperger's.


Been there, done that. Weird thing happens: I become friends with a girl, and they fall for me. I like a girl, bet's off. I have friends of both sexes, but I've either friend-zoned them or they've done likewise to me. I think dating for me might be easier if a) I forget about liking a girl until I know her, b) know that there are some girls I just won't ever go out with because of the different worlds syndrome and c) try a new idea: pretend to be sure or not if I like a girl, have a mutual good friendship and if I do like said girl, hope for the best.

Then again, my tastes in the opposite sex are problematically stereotypical.



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15 Jun 2013, 8:30 pm

EmoGlambertAspie wrote:
I'm sort of the reverse of this - I'm a girl who prefers the friendship of men, especially gay ones. They're more fun to talk to IMO than women, although one of my best friends is a lesbian.For some reason most straight gjrls I've known were vapid and self-centered, if not just plain weird. I'm less self-conscious around the people I listed because I know they probably wont sh** talk me behind my back and think I'm cool for who I am. :)


I think gay male friend is very common for alot of women.



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15 Jun 2013, 10:35 pm

well you must be doing something right if you can actually have back and forth conversations with women. Women will generally ignore guys they don't like talking to like the plague, at least that's been my experience. As for me I have tried to make friends with women but they always give me the cold shoulder. The most I'll get from women is the occasional smile and hi , but most of the time I don't even get that.



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15 Jun 2013, 11:26 pm

alien91 wrote:
well you must be doing something right if you can actually have back and forth conversations with women. Women will generally ignore guys they don't like talking to like the plague, at least that's been my experience. As for me I have tried to make friends with women but they always give me the cold shoulder. The most I'll get from women is the occasional smile and hi , but most of the time I don't even get that.


I have no idea what I do, I just go up to them and talk to them. I do run into women who don't want to talk to me.
so I am not batting 100%. I have no real tips, I can go up to any women and talk to them, and it's up to women if she
wants to talk to me or not.



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16 Jun 2013, 5:52 am

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I enjoy talking to women when I know they're married or in a relationship. Available women give me anxiety that I'm gonna blow it or act like an idiot (which is most of the time), so I'm learning to just avoid the situation altogether, and just focus on being a friendly person.

Yeah I end up in this situation a lot! I would prefer to be better with women, but it generally seems better to have a few friends and live a stress free single life.