How to get over nerves of first time sex,, 22 year old man?

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I agree actually, and was very hesitant to even suggest it since I have the same religious beliefs as he does...But at least I don't think he could end up in a hospital afterward...this lady he is about to visit could be crazy.

So if he is determined to do something like that, it may be the slightly safer option...Although I hope he stays home, and finds a dating site for his religion instead.

I don't know the man but, my guess is, he would end up being much happier sharing this experience on his wedding night with his future wife, instead of this sex-mad stranger...To be honest I'm surprised his dad is going along with it but, maybe he is figuring similar to what I've done and thought he can somehow mitigate the damage if he can't derail the process entirely.

Mike I really do hope you don't go.

I thought id be so bad, i thought i wouldn't even get it up due to anx hahaha but everything went fine.. your brain has auto pilot for this stuff

We don't know this is some sex-crazed maniac. It may be someone from a christian dating site, or someone he met through a common intrest forum, or anything. As long as he takes precausions, and I think he has, seeing that his family is in the loop, he may be quite safe. I have done my fair share of online date meet-ups, and most of the people out there are not psychopaths and sociopats.

If you are to avoid every potentially dangerous situation, you would never leave your house. Indeed, you'd never even go into your own bathroom!

Of course I realize all of that but you said it yourself - he doesn't know and neither do we.

His dad will be in a separate hotel, not sure how much good he can do, but, at least will be in town if things go wrong.

Physical hurt isn't the only type of hurt.

Not putting down online dating but it's still a shot in the dark. There are other ways to date and this isn't dating anyway it's traveling for sex. It wouldn't be the first time a person overlooked a lot of red flags when sex was being promised at the end of it.

I have known of cases in which someone from an online community traveled to meet someone and they didn't come back, ever. The risks do go up the more miles apart the two are, in my opinion. Traveling adds another aspect of potential danger. But it does seem the younger someone was when the internet came to being, the less they consider its risks.

I can't find the original thread but in that one he was going to this alone.