Males - Would you wear a ring?

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I have no idea if I'll ever consider marriage again, but when my ex proposed to me I told him I would refuse to wear the ring unless he wore one as well.

He wore it.

Aww, that's what I was going to say!



Jeez, it's been years since I've bought a guy flowers. I kind of miss doing stupid stuff like that. The one guy in particular I used to give flowers to a good bit seemed to like it, despite anything his friends said to him, so I don't think it's just you.

I don't think engagement rings are that necessary. 1ce your engaged officially your expected to start planning for the wedding. The engagement ring gets replaced by the wedding ring durring the wedding ceremony; you can still chose to wear the engagement ring if you like but the wedding ring should be worn as well sense your married & are therefor no longer engaged. Getting an expensive engagement ring that only needs to be worn for a while before another ring needs to be bought seems silly & impractical to me. The money spent on the engagement ring could be used for a more expensive wedding ring, the wedding or starting your married lives together. Engagement rings are generally worn a lot more by women than men & sense they can stand out a lot there is a stigma about men wearing them.
The only time I wore a ring was my senior class ring & I haven't worn that sense I graduated. I'd be OK with wearing a wedding ring but would be concerned that an engagement ring would be heaver & stick out more because of the stone. I'd be willing to wear it thou if it wouldn't cost much & wouldn't be any bigger, heavier or stick out much more than a wedding ring would.

I probably should have phrased my question better - if it was an engagement watch or necklace etc would you wear it? I.E. Would you wear any symbol of your engagement at all?

Most people will see a ring on a necklace as a purity ring or something that is done in Christian tradition to represent innocence instead of a symbol of matrimony.

That might be a good idea though as many women would be turned away by a purity ring on a man, a wedding ring might attract home wrecker types.

This is a really good point/question.

One the one hand you see an engagement ring as a loving gesture, then you say you HAVE TO wear it, like it's an obligation. I'd say a man who sees it as a loving gesture might wear it, but a man who sees it as an obligation probably would not.

The cheater is the home wrecker.

I was more shattered that my act of love had been rebuffed than that he wouldn't wear it to mark him as property. And in a way also hurt that he didn't want to be marked as mine, like I was property and he was my owner.

The two reasons intertwine, I can't really explain it. I didn't dump him because of the ring issue though (his mother and his lack of contribution around the house was reason enough!).

So you didn't like the idea of property and owner, but you did like the idea of property and property? Or owner and owner?

I dunno why anybody would want to be "marked" as anybody's but that's a whole other thread

I always saw an engagement ring as a symbol of commitment, and I reasoned that if I was supposed to wear it for the world to see, he should as well. Otherwise, there's no commitment on his part, just mine.

Personally, though, I find the whole ring deal quite silly and ridiculously expensive.

I felt like he wasn't proud of me, or proud to be linked to me and just proposed because that was the natural order of things and he wasn't able to get a girlfriend until I asked him out.

I know I wore that ring (and other jewellery he got me) with pride that I was his and that he loved me. Probably comes across as sad and sappy, but that's how I felt.

Perhaps a Schwarz ring from Cracker Jack Box.

Its rather the opposite way. Because of wearing the marriage ring every day, its not wise to spent more on it than the engagement ring. The engagement ring you wear afterward only for special occasions, so if its big and has edges because of the stones, its not that disturbing. While the marriage ring, is the one you wear every day, and the bigger it is (means more gold material) and additional has stones on it, the more it is disturbing you every single day. It may be something else for people, owning housekeepers, but as standard woman, being forced to do my work myself, I choose my marriage ring pretty tiny, thin and small and without stones, so that its not that disturbing.

I agree on the argument, about saving the money for the engagement ring for houses and more important stuff. So there was a small classic stone on my engagement ring, but the material of our engagement rings (it is common here, that both wear one, but the one of the male being without jewels) was stainless steel. May sound weird to some people and specially my france relatives were a bit shocked about it, but one of our common hobbies, that helped us meeting each other were about historical data due to midi-age roleplaying. In ancient roman it was custom to gift your partner a golden ring, if the marriage was out of family-reasons (or politics, tradepartners, ...) while an iron ring meant that you were willing to engage with your partner out of emotional reasons, and so will stay with him, anyway what comes. So the iron ring is harder then the golden one, and is more robust. (And it saves us a good amount of money, we could spend on a kids room in our house. ^^)

No, as I tend to react to wearing metal on me. Happens with watches, they need something covering the metal at the back or I'll get a bad rash.

Clear nail polish on the parts that touch the skin.

By my early twenties I figured out that I don't like to wear a wristwatch or jewelry of any kind. It was never suggested that I should wear an engagement ring, as it's not the custom here. Now that we're married I do choose to wear a wedding band, although I guarantee I'm more aware of it than the average person. The symbolism is more important to me than the very slight discomfort.