You're not being manipulated when a friend wants to date you

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no but there are society trends which the majority follow. There is always the minority though. Which is my only hope really.
I can't really do friends with girls turning into romance. I'll either see them as friends forever or go into it with a crush/attraction. Either way I'm going grow deep emotions turning into love be it a family/friend love or the romantic love. I'm a odd ball It's lead to some painful situations. I've learned its best to not share emotions with friends.

I've dealt with this sort of situation a few times, with the most recent one rearing its head last weekend. I don't feel manipulated or bitter, but it is frustrating and upsetting. I'd valued this person's friendship and that's pretty much lost at this point, since he made some comments about how maybe my feelings towards him would change in time and I'd be concerned he'd view any time we'd spend together from now on as a stepping stone.

It's frustrating because it makes me feel stupid for not reading the signs and being caught off guard. It just served as a reminder of how socially inept I am sometimes. It's also quite awkward. So, anyway, there are plenty of reasons other than feeling manipulated for women to avoid someone for a while after something like this comes to light. And, for whatever it's worth, it's likely that some of these reasons have more to do with ourselves than the other person.

We (men) are kind of d*mned if we do and d*mned if we dont. On one hand women tell us not to be too pushy and not pressure them to date us right away. But on the other hand women tell us we are manipulative and sneaky if we take things slow and try to be friends at first.