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14 May 2014, 9:11 am

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I have a habit - at least this is what I was told - of being overly formal in both my manner of speech and in my prose so when one of my exes asked me to come up with a 'pet name' for them, I - just couldn't.

Embarrassingly, I agonized over it over the course of that particular relationship to the point that when I finally told them that I couldn't, I was in tears.

Some things just don't happen; this was - and is - definitely one of them.

Sad, but of course your right. There are certain things that some do not experience, and autism usually generates at least a few of them. It is hard to not experience what others do, and some things can be faked more easily then others. You were honest though and that is I would think the best way to get an NT to understand, and forge a truer relationship.

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14 May 2014, 9:14 am

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I never use those terms for anybody except for a comedic effect. I don't make up nicknames either.
I might use a short or longer version of their name depending on which one sounds cooler.

I do that as well. Language has too much potential for humor to resist.

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14 May 2014, 9:25 am

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Yuzu wrote:

I never use those terms for anybody except for a comedic effect. I don't make up nicknames either.
I might use a short or longer version of their name depending on which one sounds cooler.

Just for fun, try calling your guy "Stud Muffins."

I have in the past. He laughed.

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14 May 2014, 9:29 am

Yuzu wrote:

SoftwareEngineer wrote:

Yuzu wrote:

I never use those terms for anybody except for a comedic effect. I don't make up nicknames either.
I might use a short or longer version of their name depending on which one sounds cooler.

Just for fun, try calling your guy "Stud Muffins."

uh ... NO.

What about "Snookums"?

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14 May 2014, 10:13 am

ReverieMe wrote:

SoftwareEngineer wrote:

Yuzu wrote:

I never use those terms for anybody except for a comedic effect. I don't make up nicknames either.
I might use a short or longer version of their name depending on which one sounds cooler.

Just for fun, try calling your guy "Stud Muffins."

I have in the past. He laughed.

I got the same response.

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14 May 2014, 10:44 am

It happens with me.

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14 May 2014, 2:07 pm

There was that annoying woman in a nature trip who kept handing me her phone to take photos of her in every corner/tree/rock and kept calling me "habibi, take a pic of me here" - at the end I told her "Find another habib".

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15 May 2014, 7:04 am

For those not in the know 'habibi' is an Arabic word meaning 'my beloved' and is the rough equivalent of 'friend' or 'darling' in English.

I knew my eight years in Saudi Arabia would come in useful one day

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15 May 2014, 9:07 am

My girlfriend used to absolutely melt if I called her Jessssska-chaaaaan and tacke-hug her :lol:

We were young and she was really into Japanese culture and art.

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15 May 2014, 10:29 am

Ain't nothing wrong with affectionate names.

Snookums is cool and retro.

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11 Jun 2014, 10:41 am

Yes it feels too odd. I used the phrase "my love" once when parting for a long time, but pet names I can't do; it's something I feel as the non-dominant one it would be out of place for me to do.

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11 Jun 2014, 10:23 pm

When I'm really, REALLY happy in a relationship, I call my partner whatever adjective comes to mind. "Beautiful", "Wonderful", "Amazing", and things like that.

Otherwise, I just avoid referring to people in second person, because it feels weird.

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12 Jun 2014, 12:57 am

I use 'em on a regular basis. I was in a relationship where our language of communication was English, and I threw around a lot of 'sweetie pies', 'darlings' etc. I'm pretty much used to them.

(Currently not in a relationship)

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