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16 May 2014, 6:10 pm

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The relevance this has towards love and dating is that we can apply it to relationships as well. Should you buy a convertible sports car to please the opposite sex when you could be saving for investments? Should you have children if they are going to be a liability simply because society says so? Should you buy a big house just to please society or your wife or girlfriend? The answer is no. The sooner you free your mind from the demands and pressures of others and start living for yourself, the sooner you see long term rather than short term, the sooner you can be free to pursue the life you want. Even many women feel pressure to push out a few kids before their biological clock runs out but I ask myself why? There are other pursuits in life other than having children, especially if you are struggling in other areas like financially or spiritually.


Like having an affair with a boy who is a decade younger than her?

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Recently I have been applying investment theories towards every aspect of my life so that I can achieve the lifestyle I truly want instead of one that society demands.


It sucks that you can't buy her a convertible and maybe you're afraid that she would dump you and go back to her husband because she wants to have kids. I could see how you came up with a coping mechanism to deal with your fear and frustration (i.e. the original post).



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16 May 2014, 6:22 pm

Yuzu wrote:
Archdevilius wrote:
The relevance this has towards love and dating is that we can apply it to relationships as well. Should you buy a convertible sports car to please the opposite sex when you could be saving for investments? Should you have children if they are going to be a liability simply because society says so? Should you buy a big house just to please society or your wife or girlfriend? The answer is no. The sooner you free your mind from the demands and pressures of others and start living for yourself, the sooner you see long term rather than short term, the sooner you can be free to pursue the life you want. Even many women feel pressure to push out a few kids before their biological clock runs out but I ask myself why? There are other pursuits in life other than having children, especially if you are struggling in other areas like financially or spiritually.


Like having an affair with a boy who is a decade younger than her?

Archdevilius wrote:
Recently I have been applying investment theories towards every aspect of my life so that I can achieve the lifestyle I truly want instead of one that society demands.


It sucks that you can't buy her a convertible and maybe you're afraid that she would dump you and go back to her husband because she wants to have kids. I could see how you came up with a coping mechanism to deal with your fear and frustration (i.e. the original post).


Ah, the penny drops. Good catch.


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16 May 2014, 7:05 pm

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*woooooosh*

that is the sound of my joke going over your head. apparently you failed to detect my irony. it happens.

On a forum full of autistic people it is pretty much a given.



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17 May 2014, 4:47 am

Yuzu wrote:
Archdevilius wrote:
The relevance this has towards love and dating is that we can apply it to relationships as well. Should you buy a convertible sports car to please the opposite sex when you could be saving for investments? Should you have children if they are going to be a liability simply because society says so? Should you buy a big house just to please society or your wife or girlfriend? The answer is no. The sooner you free your mind from the demands and pressures of others and start living for yourself, the sooner you see long term rather than short term, the sooner you can be free to pursue the life you want. Even many women feel pressure to push out a few kids before their biological clock runs out but I ask myself why? There are other pursuits in life other than having children, especially if you are struggling in other areas like financially or spiritually.


Like having an affair with a boy who is a decade younger than her?

Archdevilius wrote:
Recently I have been applying investment theories towards every aspect of my life so that I can achieve the lifestyle I truly want instead of one that society demands.


It sucks that you can't buy her a convertible and maybe you're afraid that she would dump you and go back to her husband because she wants to have kids. I could see how you came up with a coping mechanism to deal with your fear and frustration (i.e. the original post).


Nice approach, that's exactly it, you said it like someone who doesn't understand the complications of situations or the realities of modern dating. Actually she is a successful independent business woman, she doesn't require anyone to buy her anything and neither does she desire any more children.

Nice attempt at being a psychoanalyst though, maybe you should listen before you speak, you might find it helps.

Your negativity will get you very far in life.



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17 May 2014, 3:34 pm

Archdevilius wrote:
Yuzu wrote:
Archdevilius wrote:
The relevance this has towards love and dating is that we can apply it to relationships as well. Should you buy a convertible sports car to please the opposite sex when you could be saving for investments? Should you have children if they are going to be a liability simply because society says so? Should you buy a big house just to please society or your wife or girlfriend? The answer is no. The sooner you free your mind from the demands and pressures of others and start living for yourself, the sooner you see long term rather than short term, the sooner you can be free to pursue the life you want. Even many women feel pressure to push out a few kids before their biological clock runs out but I ask myself why? There are other pursuits in life other than having children, especially if you are struggling in other areas like financially or spiritually.


Like having an affair with a boy who is a decade younger than her?

Archdevilius wrote:
Recently I have been applying investment theories towards every aspect of my life so that I can achieve the lifestyle I truly want instead of one that society demands.


It sucks that you can't buy her a convertible and maybe you're afraid that she would dump you and go back to her husband because she wants to have kids. I could see how you came up with a coping mechanism to deal with your fear and frustration (i.e. the original post).


Nice approach, that's exactly it, you said it like someone who doesn't understand the complications of situations or the realities of modern dating. Actually she is a successful independent business woman, she doesn't require anyone to buy her anything and neither does she desire any more children.

Nice attempt at being a psychoanalyst though, maybe you should listen before you speak, you might find it helps.

Your negativity will get you very far in life.


negativity towards women seems to have done wonders for you--i'm sure it will continue to do so. :lol: (btw, insulting someone personally because they disagree with your poorly-formed ideas is not really the behaviour of a "gentleman".)



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17 May 2014, 5:07 pm

Archdevilius wrote:
Yuzu wrote:
Archdevilius wrote:
The relevance this has towards love and dating is that we can apply it to relationships as well. Should you buy a convertible sports car to please the opposite sex when you could be saving for investments? Should you have children if they are going to be a liability simply because society says so? Should you buy a big house just to please society or your wife or girlfriend? The answer is no. The sooner you free your mind from the demands and pressures of others and start living for yourself, the sooner you see long term rather than short term, the sooner you can be free to pursue the life you want. Even many women feel pressure to push out a few kids before their biological clock runs out but I ask myself why? There are other pursuits in life other than having children, especially if you are struggling in other areas like financially or spiritually.


Like having an affair with a boy who is a decade younger than her?

Archdevilius wrote:
Recently I have been applying investment theories towards every aspect of my life so that I can achieve the lifestyle I truly want instead of one that society demands.


It sucks that you can't buy her a convertible and maybe you're afraid that she would dump you and go back to her husband because she wants to have kids. I could see how you came up with a coping mechanism to deal with your fear and frustration (i.e. the original post).


Nice approach, that's exactly it, you said it like someone who doesn't understand the complications of situations or the realities of modern dating. Actually she is a successful independent business woman, she doesn't require anyone to buy her anything and neither does she desire any more children.

Nice attempt at being a psychoanalyst though, maybe you should listen before you speak, you might find it helps.

Your negativity will get you very far in life.


Oh I think you have told us plenty about your complicated situation in this thread already.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt257291.html "Is it cheating?"

So you're a boy toy for an older rich married woman. You seem to be proud of it but I feel somewhat sad for you.
What are the "the realities of modern dating"? Is it "no one cares about morality as long as you're having fun?"



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17 May 2014, 5:58 pm

Yuzu wrote:
Archdevilius wrote:
Yuzu wrote:
Archdevilius wrote:
The relevance this has towards love and dating is that we can apply it to relationships as well. Should you buy a convertible sports car to please the opposite sex when you could be saving for investments? Should you have children if they are going to be a liability simply because society says so? Should you buy a big house just to please society or your wife or girlfriend? The answer is no. The sooner you free your mind from the demands and pressures of others and start living for yourself, the sooner you see long term rather than short term, the sooner you can be free to pursue the life you want. Even many women feel pressure to push out a few kids before their biological clock runs out but I ask myself why? There are other pursuits in life other than having children, especially if you are struggling in other areas like financially or spiritually.


Like having an affair with a boy who is a decade younger than her?

Archdevilius wrote:
Recently I have been applying investment theories towards every aspect of my life so that I can achieve the lifestyle I truly want instead of one that society demands.


It sucks that you can't buy her a convertible and maybe you're afraid that she would dump you and go back to her husband because she wants to have kids. I could see how you came up with a coping mechanism to deal with your fear and frustration (i.e. the original post).


Nice approach, that's exactly it, you said it like someone who doesn't understand the complications of situations or the realities of modern dating. Actually she is a successful independent business woman, she doesn't require anyone to buy her anything and neither does she desire any more children.

Nice attempt at being a psychoanalyst though, maybe you should listen before you speak, you might find it helps.

Your negativity will get you very far in life.


Oh I think you have told us plenty about your complicated situation in this thread already.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt257291.html "Is it cheating?"

So you're a boy toy for an older rich married woman. You seem to be proud of it but I feel somewhat sad for you.
What are the "the realities of modern dating"? Is it "no one cares about morality as long as you're having fun?"


Ohohoho! It's him!

If there's one thing that's not a 'complication of modern dating', it's wanting to have sex with someone's spouse. That's old. Frankly, Mr Archdevilius, it's pretty passe.

I suppose there's room for serious savings, because why try and spend to attract your own romantic partner when you can just sleep with someone's wife, no? That's using your noggin.


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17 May 2014, 7:27 pm

OP makes some great points.

People ought to invest their time in things that improve them, their health, their wealth etc.

No different when it comes to friends & relationships, either. Who you're around greatly influences everything that you are. What you do, what you eat, how much money you make etc. I've read that people tend to make within $5-10K/year of those in their social circle. Think about it and I bet it holds true for you and whatever socioeconomic position you're in, as well as whatever income levels you used to earn - whether higher or lower - in the past.

For those reasons I choose to spend my time more and more around healthy, active, fit, happy, and sometimes wealthy people. I'm fortunate to have some high income earning friends and get greater value from their influence than hanging out with financial "losers," who I can't really learn anything from that's going to improve me or my situation in any way.

No, life isn't all about money and personal gain. But it is important. There's no sense in associating with people that can only possibly bring you down in life/love/finances/health etc if you have the ability to spend your time more wisely with people that are a better influence on you all around.

This thread reminds me to be grateful for those in my life that (continue to) bring me up. :) I've been more and more open to expressing my gratitude to those people the past couple of years, but this thread is a nice reminder for me to keep that at the front of my mind and act on it even more often. Thank-yous, compliments, appreciation, gratitude, thank-you cards etc all go a long way in terms of friendships/relationships but in also keeping me (you?) on track with a attitude of gratitude for all the value that others add to my life, and in turn that attracts greater value and so on as the cycle continues.


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