Bad experience with girls last night

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20 Jul 2014, 2:29 pm

goldfish21 wrote:

Probably a bit of both.

Sounds like she was overly sensitive, but also that what you said was likely perceived as rude even if you didn't mean to be rude. She likely took it as a bit of an insult by saying he was friendly and she wasn't.

No no no what I meant is they 'looked different'

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20 Jul 2014, 2:58 pm

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"you and your boyfriend are oppossites. Some nights I go out women are much friendlier to me but last night just not the case.

I don't understand this comment, are you telling her she was unfriendly? If so, she probably wouldn't appreciate it.

Basically what I said was "you and your boyfriend are opposites" and she took slight umbridge against the comment I made.

Do you think she was being too sensitive or was that a rude thing of me to say.

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No no no what I meant is they 'looked different'

Well any comment that begins with the words "you are ..." can't end well socially. It implies a judgement on your part that is probably about something that is not your business. People don't like to be told what they are and are not.

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20 Jul 2014, 3:28 pm

What exact words did you say?

Now you're saying it was about looks, but what you wrote didn't indicate that.

So, were you saying that he was good looking & she was not? That would be insulting...

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20 Jul 2014, 4:55 pm

goldfish21 wrote:

What exact words did you say?

Now you're saying it was about looks, but what you wrote didn't indicate that.

So, were you saying that he was good looking & she was not? That would be insulting...

What I was implying was that she was good looking and he was not.

I think last night was just a disastrous evening for me lol

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20 Jul 2014, 9:44 pm

Jamesy wrote:

but still girls should chat me up.

The rest of this post isn't needed. lol.

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20 Jul 2014, 9:48 pm

Jamesy wrote:

goldfish21 wrote:

What exact words did you say?

Now you're saying it was about looks, but what you wrote didn't indicate that.

So, were you saying that he was good looking & she was not? That would be insulting...

What I was implying was that she was good looking and he was not.

I think last night was just a disastrous evening for me lol

You don't tell people their boyfriend is ugly. People don't generally warm to strangers insulting them and/or the people around them.

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21 Jul 2014, 1:03 am

Man, you still have a long way to go in how to talk with people.

Tell us about your parents.

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21 Jul 2014, 3:36 am

Jamesy wrote:

DukeJanTheGrey wrote:

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but still girls should chat me up.

Maybe the girls were shrewd and were fully aware of your unpleasant attitude towards them.

I used to have a good attitude towards girls

But then they kept refusing to chat you up!

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21 Jul 2014, 4:49 am

Who_Am_I wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

DukeJanTheGrey wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

but still girls should chat me up.

Maybe the girls were shrewd and were fully aware of your unpleasant attitude towards them.

I used to have a good attitude towards girls

But then they kept refusing to chat you up!

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21 Jul 2014, 5:50 am

Actually they did used to chat me up

Going on hale bopp laugh because u girls always stick together against us guys. Pathetic.

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21 Jul 2014, 7:50 am

Looks like this thread can be summed up easily:

1) Try having a good attitude towards women (they used to be girls?they aren?t anymore) again.

2) Don?t take them for granted. They should nothing. Either a woman is interested in as much as chatting you up or she isn?t. If you think her reasons not to be interested in you are stupid, that?s all the more of a reason for you to lose any interest in her, so stop wasting your time worrying about her.

3) Keep going with your life. Try to find out what the sort of woman you?re interested in wants and consider doing something to change yourself in that direction. It may certainly not be worth it, but that?s for you to decide, and, in that case, you have to be consistent and accept the conclusion that a woman who wants that isn?t worth your time, either. Perhaps it?s time to get better at the who-pays-the-least-attention-to-whom game.

4) Don?t fall prey to the temptation to believe there?s some sort of universal female conspiracy. If anything, evidence suggests large groups of women are worse than those of men at getting along, so such a conspiracy is at least as unlikely as the one keeping us from knowing the Earth is flat. The only thing all women have in common is that they?re women: some will just be jerks, but, if all of them seem to side against you, you must be doing something disrespectful or intrusive to them. Find out what that is and stop doing it. We all have to learn. It?s not always easy to put yourself in their shoes?their perspective is that of a being adapted by evolution to living most of the time with a bigger and more muscular partner, and to the need to choose him well, because he can make her pregnant and then go away, leaving her behind with the baby. It?s natural for them to have many defensive or cautionary behaviors we don?t understand very well at first.

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21 Jul 2014, 8:11 am

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4) Don?t fall prey to thehe temptation to believe there?s some sort of universal female conspiracy. If anything, evidence suggests large groups of women are worse than those of men at getting along, so such a conspiracy is at least as unlikely as the one keeping us from knowing the Earth is flat

I've heard countless of women attesting to that, if this is true then doesn't it mean that it's harder for men to get along with women than to deal with men? I can't see this as a good news for men.

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21 Jul 2014, 11:34 am

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The only thing all women have in common is that they?re women: some will just be jerks, but, if all of them seem to side against you, you must be doing something disrespectful or intrusive to them. Find out what that is and stop doing it. We all have to learn. It?s not always easy to put yourself in their shoes?their perspective is that of a being adapted by evolution to living most of the time with a bigger and more muscular partner, and to the need to choose him well, because he can make her pregnant and then go away, leaving her behind with the baby. It?s natural for them to have many defensive or cautionary behaviors we don?t understand very well at first.

This is absolutely, completely true.

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21 Jul 2014, 11:48 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Man, you still have a long way to go in how to talk with people.

Tell us about your parents.

I think the op is truly clueless as he makes a lot of "what did my mom/dad/brother/sister/uncle/aunt/neighbor/friend mean when they said "_______"? " type of threads.

We shouldn't forget that this is a forum for people with autism.

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21 Jul 2014, 12:00 pm

Hmm ok yuzu.

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21 Jul 2014, 12:32 pm

Funny when a women does something intrusive or offensive to men she gets no flack for it.

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