Romantics are no longer wanted or needed anymore!

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^^ at least the old fashioned Romeo and Juliet kind of romance is.

What you think of as 'romantic', others might see as emotionally unstable. Most people want stability in a relationship. Being really overbearing and 'romantic' might be a nice gesture to some, but to others they might find it creepy and weird.

You do realize they died in the end right? Not particularly viable for a long term relationship.

Creepy and weird never hurt my chances that much. What killed me was the pressure to keep up the whole romantic act long-term. If you are a millionaire and manage your life in such a way that you have virtually unlimited free time, it's possible to keep the gifts rolling in, hand write love letters with perfect calligraphic script, write poems/songs, play the piano/guitar, go out to the finest restaurants every weekend, and take European/Swiss Alps vacations twice a year. Some girls think they need that. If you have the time, energy, and money to do it, you can afford to be the knight in shining armor/Prince Charming. Us "regular folks" can't do that. If you try to please a girl like that, and you will fail, it's a short drive to the state hospital and she's just going to break up with you anyway.

For any American out there, you need to remember 4 dates: 1492, 1776, your mate's birthday, and your anniversary. And if you forget the first two, you need to also remember Feb. 14 and Dec. 25. Your local grocery/Wal-Mart usually sell roses on the cheeeeeeaaaaaaaaap, like $5/dz. Get the important days every year (b-day, anniversaries, Valentine's, Christmas), sprinkle in some "just because" days involving some kind of flowers, chocolate, and a bottle of red wine (Kendall-Jackson cabernet, or Beringer white zin HIGHLY recommended) will go a LOOONG way to keeping the fires burning. If your handwriting is bad like mine and you suck at poetry, just send a haiku in a text message. Do ONE of each of these kinds of things about every 3 months and you'll be in good shape.

Something that works for me and mine is we celebrate every New Moon. It doesn't happen the same day of the week every time since moon cycles aren't EXACTLY 4 weeks, not to mention they don't line up with the regular calendar. So even though we plan it 4 weeks in advance, it still feels spontaneous. That's the only time once or twice a month we blow money on a restaurant. Figure out your own "special occasions," keep them special by making them infrequent or periodic, and that will also help keep things romantic.

Agreed. Also, I believe you need to have quite a bit of creativity to be romantic, most people don't have that much and don't see the need for it.

Which is why i don't bother trying anymore, I give up the passion all together.