Do you fall for people who are different from you?

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Oh, there's some strong opinions here!

I tend to like people similar because being able to discuss something we both like is just more stimulating than listening to someone talk about what we don't understand, and I feel like I can express my true personality more when I'm with someone who shares my sense of humor or at least doesn't find it offensive. There's more room to bond and share the kind of experiences that make me feel understood when we've been living similar lives and pursuing similar goals, and they know firsthand the kind of struggles I face.

I don't like my opposite, the loud, silly type who's very sensitive, at all. They don't enjoy my sense of humor and I don't enjoy theirs, and they always want to play around while I always want to talk. I don't see what's attractive about that... to anyone. Especially compared to someone with a cute smile who'll sit comfortably with you in silence and share in your excitement. My mom and dad followed the "opposites attract" line of thought, were miserable for 20+ years, then divorced and bolted for someone more similar.

That said, there is room for compromise. For every rebellious person who desires to be understood by kindred spirits, there's one who wants someone more laid-back as an escape or who doesn't think that's important as long as they share x or y. People who are very rebellious and people who are very not seem likely to have a lot of differing worldviews, though.

These days, no. But I did when I was younger.

I tend to go for people who are more like me however I had a huge crush obsession with a celeb who's very different from me in lots of ways.

You do not know for a fact that is what she is talking about.

You do not know my husband at all, who he is and what he does.

One can not just assume experience, one must undergo it.

Your assumed knowledge is just assumed knowledge, not fact!
You wouldn't know true rebellion if it bit you on your bum.
You just enjoy spewing your predigest banter and imposing your fascism on the rest of us.

Different in interests, level of extroversion and physical type, but the same level in level of intellegence, humor, attentiveness, sensitivity, goofyness and way of thinking and reasoning about life and societal issues (intellectuality).

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"Utmost"

Ah, yes! Oops! Thanks.

As far as the topic of the OP goes, I would have to say yes. Opposites attract. So if in fact you are a dork, you may not want a relationship with a dork.

Ever see a couple in public wearing the same outfit.

Very annoying.

It's clashy.

Chimp females were recently discovered to pick/prefer mates with detectable physical differences. The current theory is that it is an innate selection process to ensure the most different genes, which produces stronger/healthier offspring.

So on a subconscious level, if you do like different people, it may actually just be partly an instinctive vestige.

I have never met anyone like me?

I've been attracted to opposites as well, but generally it does not work out. If you really want to attract those people, then you probably have to change yourself a lot to be like them. So you have to decide if it is really worth it.

A lot of the time I tend to be attracted to guys who are different from me looks-wise. I'm not attracted to anyone who looks like me or has similar facial features. I don't tend to fall for the rebellious types all that much now. In the past, I've been physically attracted to the guys with the "rebellious look", but I know that a real relationship with that type probably wouldn't work out.

Is this how you make yourself feel better for being born a beta male, blaming others? Blaming others will always, always guarantee you to be single forever. Being rebellious or "a bad boy" stereotype whatever doesn't mean you're going to beat your girlfriend. My sister's boyfriend has maybe 40 tattoos, probably could kick just about anyone's ass and usually anyone who's around him knows it. But you know what? He's never laid a finger on her and would take a bullet for her and her kids that aren't even biologically his.

It's not about being an a**hole, it's about being strong willed, strong minded, confident. Basically, not being the kind of person who will get punched in the stomach and apologize for it. I realize I'm defending something I shouldn't be, cause I'm surely the person getting punched in the stomach apologizing. Difference is I'm not shaming myself for it or blaming anyone for my own behavior. I'm just shy.

Anyways, to answer the OP - I prefer people similar to me. I prefer the introverted awkward type.. I can't stand the type who wants to go out partying every weeekend.

I fall for people who are different from me, but only because everyone is different from me! I have met maybe 3 people who I would say were "like me" in my life, so they're certainly in short supply.

Same here. The introverted awkward time is really CUTE