Responsibly disclosing asexuality

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rdos
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29 Dec 2014, 10:46 am

NerdGeekMom wrote:
My online dating profile says:

Hey, listen. I'm tired of people who come here to ask me what my favorite position is. If you can zip it long enough to get to know me, then read on.


That seems ok. You at least give a hint, which should be enough.

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I think that's about as much disclosure as I am comfortable with. From the few who have reached out, they immediately turned to talking about sex, once we got past the 'what's your name, what's your major" questions.


My daughter is also asexual, and she kind of makes the same complaints. I once told her to block them, and this is what she does directly with guys that start talking about sex now. I don't know how effective it is, but at least they can only start talking about sex once.

In your case, since you did hint that you are not overly interested in sex, blocking them seems only fair.



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29 Dec 2014, 12:08 pm

@nerdgeekmom

I did a quick search for asexual dating sites, and the first few that popped up were:

www.asexualitic.com
www.asexualdatingsite.com
www.agreaterdate.com/Categories/Celibacy-Dating.htm
http://www.asexualdatingservice.com/

This site also popped up:
www.asexuality.org


I think you should check those out. I think you'll have better luck on them than on a typical dating site. Just as lesbian or gay man would probably have better luck on a dating site geared towards lesbians or gays than they would on a site geared towards straight coupling. With any hope, both of you would be on the same page with the same expectations. Best of luck.