22 Jan 2015, 5:19 pm
I guess you are right.
I will take this on board 
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22 Jan 2015, 5:37 pm
Daveytn wrote:
I've been with my girlfriend 11 months yesterday (21st). She has adhd as well as me.
What annoys me is, her mum has a lot of say on if she can "go out" or not, as in, come out with me to mine etc. I am nearly never allowed at her house. Her mum is ill an stuff, so she needs to help her mum out with various things which I don't have any problems with as long as I get to see her you know?
She always stays at mine at the weekend usually friday/saturday night. Last week, she wasn't allowed to stay 2 nights which I was annoyed about as it was our time.
Today, she is told "you must change your plans because I need you to be here sunday". I was like okay, can't I pick you up from college on thursday and you stay over til saturday then? She asked and her mum just said "no" with no real reason.
It's really getting to me because she is 18!! ! Everytime I say something to her like 'just come out anyway' or 'for gods sake why not now why can't you do your own thing you're not 5' and all she ever does is get anoyyed and say "you're making it worse" but she is making it worse by not saying anything?
I totally understand where she is coming from, but she gives up the right moaning about it saying "oh i wish i could see you whenever i want i really want a cuddle" by the fact she wont actually talk to her mum about it, she just lets it go?! She continuously moans about her mum and how she controlls her entire life, she goes out to college, and has to be straight back home. She can't see me on a wednesday (day she has off college) because "you see him too much".
She won't say anything, so what am i supposed to do or say when she comes to me upset saying she hates her mum and she wants to be able to have her own life?!
She just gets mad at me and says "shut up, you're making it worse".
I get so sad, and i am so confused because I cant seem to help her by convincing her that she needs to have a chat with her mum and make her realise she is technically an adult now and can legally do what she pleases as of 16? (with regards to going out etc)
I'm so really confused. Am i over thinking this or??
What annoys me is, her mum has a lot of say on if she can "go out" or not, as in, come out with me to mine etc. I am nearly never allowed at her house. Her mum is ill an stuff, so she needs to help her mum out with various things which I don't have any problems with as long as I get to see her you know?
She always stays at mine at the weekend usually friday/saturday night. Last week, she wasn't allowed to stay 2 nights which I was annoyed about as it was our time.
Today, she is told "you must change your plans because I need you to be here sunday". I was like okay, can't I pick you up from college on thursday and you stay over til saturday then? She asked and her mum just said "no" with no real reason.
It's really getting to me because she is 18!! ! Everytime I say something to her like 'just come out anyway' or 'for gods sake why not now why can't you do your own thing you're not 5' and all she ever does is get anoyyed and say "you're making it worse" but she is making it worse by not saying anything?
I totally understand where she is coming from, but she gives up the right moaning about it saying "oh i wish i could see you whenever i want i really want a cuddle" by the fact she wont actually talk to her mum about it, she just lets it go?! She continuously moans about her mum and how she controlls her entire life, she goes out to college, and has to be straight back home. She can't see me on a wednesday (day she has off college) because "you see him too much".
She won't say anything, so what am i supposed to do or say when she comes to me upset saying she hates her mum and she wants to be able to have her own life?!
She just gets mad at me and says "shut up, you're making it worse".
I get so sad, and i am so confused because I cant seem to help her by convincing her that she needs to have a chat with her mum and make her realise she is technically an adult now and can legally do what she pleases as of 16? (with regards to going out etc)
I'm so really confused. Am i over thinking this or??
This is exactly why my ex-boyfriend quit our pitiful relationship.
My dad is EXTREMELY protective of me to the point where he had to be everywhere with me and my old boyfriend, Chris(his name was also Chris).
Then after months of pure silence, Chris told me he was already with another woman.
I am sure he did this b***h move also because I am bold as hell and refused sex to him unless we were married, which probably would never occur. Chris was very immature. He mentioned sex many times as if he were a stalker.
I can honestly say I am glad we parted ways. I got to see who he really was!
Anyways, the reason your girlfriend's mom does this stuff is that she is not ready to let her go and be an adult.
And that is apparent because she is grown livin' up under her mama's roof.
As long as she is in HER(the mama) house, she can't do much.
Your girlfriend will have to get her own place for you guys to be together the way you envision....
23 Jan 2015, 9:49 am
