Could you date a girl/guy who doesnt want physical contact?

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Absolutely, but only if I had a crush on her, or if I passed that stage and had a strong attachment. For me, a strong attachment is what defines a relationship, and I can do without sex and kissing.

For me, the difference between a platonic friendship and a relationship is a crush or a previous crush that has developed into a strong attachment. I simply will never get that with a friend.

How about an ex who is now just your friend? There is or has been a strong attachment, but it's not a relationship anymore. How would it differ to a relationship without physical contact?

That's simply not possible. I could never be friends only with somebody I once had a crush on. At least not before I have completely lost the attachment, which will typically take years in absence of any contact at all. That's another the reason I don't want to intermix friendships with relationships. If a friendship happens to develop into a relationship, there is no way back to a friendship again, so that will effectively terminate the friendship. OTOH, I don't think it is really possible for me to go from a friendship to a relationship either, as I typically cannot get a crush on people I know too well. The only other possibility would be if I had a relationship with somebody I never had a crush on, and in that case it might be possible, but I don't think that is an attractive option because then I would miss the best part.

For me, there is really only one possibility that would allow for continued talking and socializing with an "ex", and that is the polyamory route. I would accept if my partner got a crush on somebody new provided she still behaved the same towards me, and I could get a crush on somebody new and still behave the same towards my partner. However, if she got a crush on somebody new and neglected me, or broke up, that would be the permanent end of it. That's the polyamory equivalent of being friends after breaking up. It works by keeping multiple attachments, but there is really no change in the feelings involved, which is why it works and being friends after breaking up doesn't.