Go with my instinct or give me advice?

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Sorry for not replying but just came to say it has been done. Went quite well although there is one little issue.

She seemed a fair bit uncomfortable/awkward talking about it, but I felt just as awkward/uncomfortable.

She said yes and agreed to it and wrote the date down in her notebook and everything and I found a place where we can meet for coffee and she said she would find it, etc.

I was just a little thrown-off by her behavior.

I am not sure if it is all in my head or if i have done something wrong.

Like I said it was awkward for both of us to talk about it and I'm not sure why.

I don't know what she thinks. She might think it's a date she might only see it as a hangout I'm not too sure.

It's even possible the awkwardness between us was because of confusion if it is a date or hangout.

Maybe we both just need to wait and see how the other person dresses/acts to confirm what it is.

Me? I personally just see it as a hangout and will dress laidback and casual but still slightly change my usual look to look just a tiny bit more attractive physically.

Like said don't know what she will wear when i meet her obviously by what she wears will help me determine what she thinks it is.

Basically if she dresses up very nice and obviously thinks it is a date I will look at her and say something like "Oh my god, (X), I'm going to be really honest here and say I think you look nice. But, why? You didn't have to dress-up like this, I just wanna hangout" or something like that.

Would it be a bad idea to say this if she dresses up very nice and clearly thinks it's a date?

If she just dresses laidback and casual then I will obviously NOT say this and just act like it's a hangout because, well, it is...

My advice would be to just go with the flow. I wouldn't over-analyze things too much (easier said than done, I know ) Look on the bright side...she didn't tell you no...

I agree and thank you again very much for all the help so far. It has helped me overcome all the anxieties I had for asking her out and now the anxieties for actually seeing her.

I would dress a LITTLE less casual than usual, if I were you. I would make sure my hair is neat, too. Probably a polo shirt-khaki pants kind of outfit would be perfect.

Sometimes, even girls/women don't care about dress. It's possible that the way she dresses has no bearings upon her feelings for you.

Otherwise, I would just "go with the flow" as the other posters have been saying. Talk about what you've been talking about previously. Don't say anything about dating, romance, gender issues, stuff like that.

Good luck! And tell us about the date/"hangout" session!