What should I do?

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Well you should first check if this guy is shy around girls he likes. Remember that shyness and being uninterested are often mixed up. This is why shy guys or those who have difficulty with social communication often come off as uninterested when in reality they may actually really like a girl. Trust me, I have this problem and i'm trying to work on it because you can't get anywhere if you never at least show some interest. The best way to talk to a shy guy is to be the one who initiates the conversation because shy guys have difficulty starting conversations. If you're the one who starts the conversation, then you may find he's actually a pretty cool guy and may open up to you more.

These are just some examples if a guy likes you but he's shy.

1. He has trouble looking at you in the eyes. He acts more open and friendly to other people but closes up when he's around you because he's nervous when you're around. A good test is to catch him looking at you and if he immediately looks away then he probably likes you but he's shy.

2. When a guy likes you he will try to impress you. But for shy guys, he tries doing this indirectly. For instance if you two are in the same class, he may say something funny and look over to see how you reacted to his joke. He's trying to get you to like him indirectly because he's too scared of actually talking to you. I think the goal of this is to get a girl to like him so either he knows she likes him then he can make a move or she will initiate the conversation which is every shy guys dream.

3. When a guy likes a girl, he wants to be around her. He's always glad when the girl he likes shows up and is disappointed when the girl doesn't. For instance, class, youth group, work etc... But for shy guys this may be less obvious as they try to not make it obvious they like you because he's scared you may not like him back.

It would help if you provided more information about what his interaction is like with you. So far he does not seem seriously interested (most guys generally end up having to take lead in approaching).

Today after lesson I was talking to a friend and he tagged along. This particular friends dislikes him for some reason, and never talks to him, so I suppose he came to talk to me. We walked together to his bus stop, but our exchange was a bit awkward because of my friend's silent presence.
I think it's early to make anything definitive out of this, though. I probably need to talk to him some more, maybe not on facebook

Yep...I think it's beyond mere Facebook now!

I'm almost a little jealous. Because you have a good heart.

I hope it all comes to fruition for you.

Yes, I need to be braver, but there's always too many people around and all they talk about is lessons and exams, I can't just barge in asking what his favourite band is!
And thank you

Last edited by TheCrookedFingers on 18 Mar 2015, 10:25 am, edited 1 time in total.

Yep...that's the way life is.

You have to "pick your spots."

NT's have to as well---and sometimes, even they screw up.

I'm sure you'll do okay

Are you in any of his classes?

If so, perhaps you could arrange to meet to be "study partners."

Last edited by kraftiekortie on 18 Mar 2015, 10:33 am, edited 1 time in total.

Interested. I'd say just give it some time to work itself out, guys might be more patient/slower.