My boyfriend used to wake up with bruises. I was really sad and kind of horrified when he told me that I was kicking and smacking him at night. We had to learn to sleep with separate blankets because apparently not only did I have a lot of problems with being held, restricted, or blocked in any way, I also was freeing myself from these 'holds' rather aggressively, in my sleep.
Committed relationships require compromises, communication, and change, equally from both parties. Each person figures out what they can change to help the other one, and does their best in good faith to make the change. In our case, we had to agree to embrace and be intimate while we were awake, and then move apart when we wanted to sleep. There were many nights of insomnia on my part and him waking up with injuries on his, before we worked that one out, but we finally did and now we both feel loved and sleep well.
Sleep is very important to you, and it is in your boyfriend's best interests as well as your own, that you get enough of it. As has been suggested by others, try discussing it with him while you are both calm, alert, and rested. I'll add my own two cents which is, talking about it once may not be enough, so be ready to be patient but persistent since this is critical for your wellbeing and his.
13 Dec 2015, 6:50 pm
