Amity wrote:
How can you develop a relationship with some who has committed to the decision that she doesn't want to be married to you anymore?
She also made the decision to vow to be with me in the good times and the bad, for richer or poorer, for better or worse, for as long as we both shall live. So if she can make a committed decision to actively violate her marriage vows then she can also make a committed decision to stop doing that and renew her vows.
Amity wrote:
You cant go back, only forwards, even IF you and Jackie got together again it would be different to before, there is no going back to how it was. It is impossible. Too much has happened now, it cant be undone. It would be like having a relationship with a totally different person (lack of trust, guarded, bitterness etc).
Trust and respect can still be earned back, I'm willing to do whatever it takes to fix what's broken and remain committed to her and our lifelong marriage vows.
Amity wrote:
It hurts a whole lot, accepting this reality is the point that she reached, before she made the decision to end the marriage.
It would have been nice if she had talked with me first, but in the week right before she left she said, "I'm never leaving you for anything ever."
Unfortunately, my friend, not all people take their vows or their word as seriously as people like evidently you do.
Perhaps what's "broken" is actually incompatibility. This cannot be fixed. Only ignored. And only for so long.
Has she ever given you any reasons, or just left and no word ever again?
15 Jan 2016, 8:20 pm
