Long distance relationships

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I love the way you worded that.

I am more concerned about what kind of person someone is than where she lives. Of course we would all like to find someone on here who lives locally, but personality is more important than location.

And I have a great level of appreciation for couples like KBABZ and Starbuline, Anubis and RedMage, and now Flagg and Graelwyn for having that way of thinking.

This is the type of attitude I like to see on the Love and Dating forum.

Tim

Well I have to start this by saying I am biased from previous experiences. (OK, just one, but it was enough...) That being said...

Long distance relationships can work, if both parties are mutually invested in it. I'd say a relationship with someone you've already met is a much better idea than starting it online and proceeding. (This is where the bias comes in.) Online relationships that become something more are possible, but there are risks involved. It isn't possible to get a 100% accurate perception of someone based upon interaction on the internet alone. Even if you talk on the phone, you only have part of the whole. You won't be able to see if this person really is what you expect, in part or in whole. If you find out otherwise, it can be a bit devastating.

Distance can cause problems, but problems can be overcome if both people are dedicated enough. If the relationship is strong enough, nothing can come in the way of it. It isn't always easy to tell if that is the case.

It depends on the people involved in the relationship. Some people can make a long distance relationship work out, others can't because they need to physically be with the other person a lot of the time.

So I think relationships should be judged on an individual basis.

Thanks for all your responses. (I had tried to add a third option "bad idea in most, if not all, cases" to the poll, but for some reason it didn't add.)

There is one main reason that long-distance relationships don't work. In most cases there are people within a closer proximity that have the attention of the person you're interested in. Hard to compete with a someone who can show up within the hour. No elaborate planning or vacation time required.

I'd definitely consider long distance relationships, no matter where in the world the person is

If I cannot see them in person for a while then I can use my webcam to see them provided they have one too

I believe they can work

In actual fact I KNOW they can work as I am in one now

I like the webcam idea.

Tim

I currently use my webcam for the purpose I described as I am in a long distance relationship at the moment

I get to see her, and she gets to see me

I think they're a bad idea, personally. The ones I had were with people who were more unbalanced than I was, that and I could never tell if they were being 100% honest with me. They're not worth it for me. :\

Been there, done that. I wouldn't do it again, it's simply not worth the heartache, either it's worth managing to find a way of being together, or it's not worth continuing. At most i would consider a weekend relationship. not sharing daily experiences (which is inevitable if you're not together, period) tends to pull people apart, even if both are faithful and try to make it work.

I'm in a long distance relationship right now and originally it wasn't that way, but then certain things on both our parts made it long distant. It is hard work and sometimes you feel like it will never work out, but for me, we're still at it and we've been together for a little over two years.

I knew that long distance relationships were always going to be hard, but someone told me once that having a long distance relationship with somebody is a test ( of everything, from love and committment down to the smaller stuff) between two people and if you can get through that test and still be together, than you can pretty much get through anything together.

Agreed, I voted bad idea because I was thinking NT girls are impossible to keep a long distance relationship, hell most of us having trouble even getting into one, but you raised a good point. I'd definately go long distance for the right aspie girl, I think that might make the odds of it working out alittle better. I mean it's still possible the two of you could clash when meeting offline, so it would pay to have met this girl first and spend some time with her.

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I agree with you 100% with the part about meeting each other IRL first.

Tim

I agree 100%.

Tim