I want to give up on love but can't

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Yeah, but was he actually not talking to her? Not bothering to text or phone her or invite her anywhere?

That's the difference.

I would call her up, and ask (if she's cold again) why she seems so distant. Say that you hope you had a nice time the other evening....I certainly did, and really enjoyed your company.

Make sure you indicate some good quality in her, like class/culture/intelligence. Nothing about her looks

This will inspire a true reaction from her, I believe.

Chronically love-deprived people get into a denial phase first; it is the phase where they get upset and sensitive.

Then they become like me: stop loving.

ps for b9: I don't accept to be the punching bag for ladies on the rag.

I wish someone would tell the story. I love stories. And, all women act different when they are on the rag. I was quiet, or I cried. So, She might be acting off for a number of reasons, but he's not going to know, until he asks her. As far as the one way texting or calling thing goes, how often was he texting or calling her? There are a lot of veriables we don't know here yet. I don't understand if things were so great as he described in his last post, if they had so much in common, why this sudden blow off? There is only one reason a man or woman would do that. So Boo, Hurtloam? Ya gonna tell us a story? I'm curious now.

It's not interesting. He said something mundane and I overreacted because I was feeling overly sensitive.

I was at that point where I didn't want to accept that the guy I liked didn't like me back. And I was just angry anyway.

I'm surprised noöne's yet mentioned the obvious possibility that she's seeing someone else and doesn't want the OP to bother her. It's the first thing I'd expect if it happened to me. I know she could just tell me and stop wasting my time, but why would she? Why waste a few minutes of her time for something that not only wouldn't yield any benefit to her, but also would take away from her the fun and the ego boost of watching how desperate I get for her company and how inconsiderate she can be with me, since she doesn't give a crap about me? Why give up the laughs and the possibility to use me a bit again, for a time, if her true relationship fails?

I sent her a message today. I told her I wouldn't be writing her again, and that I was doing all the communicating, and she never called or wrote me. I said this was too one sided and it wasn't fair to me. I left the door open, but she has to reach out to me. Otherwise, I'm done. f**k this BS. f**k these games. I'm not perfect but dammit I ought to be shown the same courtesy everyone deserves. I just want someone who likes me like I like them.

When a woman never initiate contact, then she was never ever interested.

I am so extremist on this principle.

From my experience (beware, bitterness below)


A man who is not a subject of interest or never been seen as attractive to the woman means that he is ....sexually invisible to her and barely visible for her overall. Such men for her, have no deeper self, no soul, no mystical thing to bind to.

People don't address to invisible beings.

In my experience, even female friends/coworkers/colleagues don't (extremely rarely) initiate contact much. Only those who were interested in me dating-wise/sexually were the ones who initiated contact.

There are women I slept with in the past are married/engaged now, and those are still among the few ones who still initiate contact with me. Ex-Fwbs/flings still initiate contact every while.

Brian, I feel like it was way too early for that ultimatum. You had one date with her?

That's something that's more suitable for when you're seeing each other at least a few weeks.

How long does it take her to text back? Sorry people but please don't give this member false hope. If she never bothers to text she isn't interested. If she is aloof, she doesn't care. He is better off dropping it. I know people. I know how they act when they do or don't like you.

Welcome to human life. Now if you can avoid burdening a new soul with the same predicament, you'll be on my good book.

^ it wasn't a proper/mature reaction from him but he didn't blow it, nothing gained from it but also nothing lost.

She was never interested.

Interested people talk to you too.