Ever been in love?

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I love both my ex girlfriends as well as my current & a celeb crush. I realized it was love when I realized I care about them about as much as i care about myself. Being in love id s little different than regular love thou. I was in love with them all & still am in love with my girlfriend & the celeb crush. I feel high sometimes looking at them or thinking about them & they're on my mind ALOT.

Not real love; I've had mutual crushes and attraction before but wasn't in a relationship with the girls in question (met a girl once who we both had a crush on but she was already married and didn't want to leave her relationship for example) - so I didn't really know the person well enough.

Plus I think real love ultimately doesn't come from the world or people, it comes from being in harmony with yourself and nature; or "God" if you're of a religious mindset. This is what world religions whether Christianity or Buddhism have tried to tell us; thinking that we need external things to be content is the root of suffering.

Yes, I've been in love before. But it was never returned.


For at least once in my life, I wanna love someone who loves me back.

No I have had strong attractions to one women and a "crush". But I don't think I knew them well enough to call it love. I was physically attracted to them and I thought from I knew about their personality I liked them. But I never really knew them enough to accept their flaws. Even though I have not had much relationship experience I know that it's easy to care for someone before they have had time to annoy you. The real test is to feel the same way years latter.

I did once. She lives right down the street from me. It's a long and complicated tale, but unfortunately, it didn't exactly turn out the way I'd hoped...

Ever been in love? No.
Ever been in lust? Yeah, a few times. I find a lot of women attractive, but just don't want to date them.
I don't really get dating. Only ever been on a few dates and found them excruciatingly boring. Just mindless chitchat that didn't engage me at all. I'd have rather just stayed at home and cut my eyelids off with razor blades.
As for relationships, have never really had one. A week here or there doesn't really count, does it?
Most people (including me) are boring. I mean, what does anyone do that is actually interesting or exciting?
Most people wake up, shower, go to some lame job, come home, eat, watch TV, go to bed, rinse, repeat.
It's the same old s**t, different person, different day.

Yup. I wonder what that's like.
I don't think I will ever experience it.

I love my current GF as much as she loves me!

We first met in grade school, but after the fifth grade, we thought we would never see each other again. This changed a few years ago when we began seeing each other again and we neither were expecting it. She was in a relationship at the time, they broke up in 2014, but we didn't begin actually dating until the beginning of this year. I have, ever since we began seeing each other again, often wondered if my GF and I have more in common now than we did as kids.

I know right? I have tried but I just don't get it, or at least I feel like my date's getting something out of it that I'm not. It's worse than regular social situations too because there's an act people put on for dates that just makes it all the more bland and pointless.

The one time I was in love (I still love them I suppose) I didn't have to go through dates etc. because we already knew each other. Nowadays though I meet very few people, and I don't connect with any of them, so I'd be surprised if I got a second chance. I don't think I mind, though, I'd much rather be alone than fake my way through a conventional relationship.

I agree with the dating comment. I know that in order to meet guys, I have to go on dates, but I find them exhausting. Booze helps, but eventually I get tired of pretending that I am interested in the topic of conversation, and I have not yet been on a date with someone who shares my interests. And there are so many rules about what you are allowed to discuss or not discuss! I just want to talk to someone normally and not have to "ration out" information. My friends try and give me dating tips, but these tips just seem like ways to trick someone into thinking they want to date you.

I cannot say that I have loved any man that I have dated (or slept with), but I have certainly had some short term fixations on some of them. These can be disappointing because I eventually learned that some people will go through a great deal of trouble to pretend that you share the same interests.

But I am staying positive! This website has given me a lot of hope, and I think that if I keep trying, I can meet a man who will not expect the nonsense and get to know me just for me.

Twice and twice only, both times at age 18.
First time, it was a girl in my class, my senior year of high school; she was the first girl to ever show romantic interest. Which meant she agreed to go on a date with me. But she stopped liking me when I told her I didn't have a car. I had to endure having class with her for the rest of the school year. It was not a pleasant experience in the slightest! Good thing all this happened in spring, so it wasn't for too long.
Second time, it was with a girl in my class, my first year of college. She also showed interest. Unlike the last girl, she didn't care that I didn't have a car. Which made me fall in love with her instantly. But man oh man, she was quite unattractive in appearance and boring to be around. Despite me being in love with her regardless, it all fell apart a few months later; she must have picked up on my resentment or something.

I'm now 33, and have not been in love ever since. Not with anyone whatsoever, not even my latest girlfriend 3 years ago. I still wonder if I'd have kept my ability to fall in love, had the first girl actually dated me, lack of a car nonewithstanding. Or had the second girl been a cute and/or a fun girlfriend; she was neither.

I thought, in my fifth decade of taking up space down here, that I had belatedly done the miraculous and finally attracted somebody's love to me, but it turns out they were mistaken. or more likely, they were severely disappointed and I was the mistaken one. either way it hurt like wang. "love" [the kind humans are prone to, outside of a mother's love] hurts.

I have 2 ex girlfriends that I thought I loved, but I don't know if it was "real" or not. Then again, maybe it's like what Admiral Adama said:

"If you thought you loved her, then you loved her. Because that's what love is, thoughts."

Who knows.

I hadda learn to be to me, so I learned to love me

i had forgotten that the feeling exists. i sort of remember what it's like though (it involves a variety of pleasant bodily sensations -- and no, i'm not talking about "down there" ). it still happens from time to time, though it's hard to tell how often. the same feeling can also happen without someone in particular in mind, which is the best thing

i suspect that, all or most of the times when i experienced it (which have been many), the feeling itself came first (spontaneously and sort of randomly, caused by a confluence of psychological and physiological factors) and the association with a particular girl came later. even back when i was a teenager, it was already clear to me that whatever "love" could mean in the real world, it was almost completely separate from the feeling of "being in love"

fortunately, i think it's not unlikely that i'll never have a crush on anyone again (which goes beyond just experiencing the feeling, and is more like a kind of addiction to it). partly because of age, partly because of having gone full circle, to the point where i honestly not only think but also feel that i'm better off by myself, despite all the good things about being together with someone i was devoted to and, on and off, in love with. i don't just theorize tradeoffs anymore, i instinctively remember and picture them, which changes everything

I've been in love once, right now actually. I thought I was in love before that to realize I actually wasn't. Being in love for me is having someone who understands me and is there emotionally. It also involves always having someone to go out and do things with. Not to mention a lot of snuggles and involved and those never get old. Being with my boyfriend has changed my views on the whole romance thing as it was quite negative from bad past dating experiences. I was just too stupid to realize how amazing my boyfriend is, considering we met at 14 but didn't start dating until age 21.