I will never find someone...

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He's right. Now, I'm not saying that just for the sole blessing of comfort, but he is right; mathematically you're more likely to find someone if you persevere and never quit. Also, since our souls are immortal, there's an unlimited amount of time for you to find someone. Where does the math come in? Let me explain:

Let's say that the probability of a girl saying yes to you after you ask her out is 5% (I'm not saying that it statistically is; it's just an example). After one time, the probability of a rejection is 95%. If you persevere and give it another go--let's say you ask someone else and the probability of rejection is the same--the probability of rejection from both girls is a little more than 90%. If you ask someone else and the probablity is the same, then the probability of getting a rejection is about 86%. If you do it continuously, the probability of getting a rejection from all the girls you ask exponentially decays.

Thus, if you ask 100 girls and the probability of individual rejection is the same, the probability of rejection from every girl is only a little more than half of 1%! Thus, you are much more likely to find someone if you never give up looking.

Yes, I am a math fanatic. Get used to it.

Of course, if you are like me, and cannot bear asking,
the probability gets much lower.

Plus, there's some assumption that ANYONE
would be alright. This is just not the case,
in my experience. The percentage of people
with whom I could even get along is pretty
damned low.

People say to me you'll find someone one day. Will they saying that when I'm 70. I want someone NOW.

Well, there's more than one kind of asking. Going and having a cup of coffee with someone after class, or some form of hanging out which is not specifically dating, is a lot different from calling them up and asking them to dinner, but both can get you to the same place. I'm partial to the casual, no-expectations sort of start to things, because of the low pressure involved. It's kind of pathetically NT in its indirectness, but it avoids a lot of potential barfing situations.

Nope. Can't even do those. Pretty much have
to just fall into bed with them. Either that, or they
have to ask me. Pity that I'm chasing something
that seems kinda shy, right now. Well, maybe she'll
get the clue.

heh.

with my first girlfriend, she was the one that ended asking me out, even though I was working up the guts to ask her. okay, so the fact that we had been together since valentines and it was now the end of school( or close to at least) she asked me. haven't let that down, and nere did half the female population at the school ere.

Asking repeatedly without success will undermine your confidence, hence the probabilitiies are not independent of previous outcomes. In my case, I wouldn't ask someone I ddin't know I could get along with well and i that I liked. Since I'm terrible at getting to know people, that dramatically reduces the possible number of trials.

Yeah, I understood about the age evidence, but I just wanted to throw in there that I still get scared (not going to sugar coat it with "anxious" or "apprehensive") in these kinds of situations. I'm still not sure how I made it through basic, but I did get pneumonia pretty early on, so I think I had a little easier time with going to the hospital every so often. I was in a computer career field, so once I was out of basic, it was pretty easy for me (this is when it started to be hard for other people haha).

I asked for the girl's number the last day of normal class, and asked if she wanted to get together after the finals (the last actual day of class). I asked her about two weeks ago, and the last final was one week ago. I am reluctant to call her now, since I would assume she would probably just chew me out.