It is possible to simply not have what women want?

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please note, that most AS are not in the category of "most people." kindness coming from the uncanny valley is usually taken wrong by most NTs, such kind AS people impart a creepy vibe more often than not, that has been my experience.

Well it depends. An autistic person who doesn't get in people's way, maybe is a little quiet but nice as well wouldn't be thrown barrels of contempt.

I did my best to stay out of the way and to stay invisible, yet still I was heaped with backstabbing and open scorn. my consolation is that I know that I myself tried my best to not be part of the problem. now and then, a visiting nurse would confide in me that this workplace was a hellhole, one nurse of a religious bent, told me "the devil's got this place!" I agreed with her.

I am not denying that people with Asperger's experience bullying I have seen it, most of the time happening to my best friends. But not everyone participates in this group thinking the religious nurse didn't.

non-bloodyminded people seem rare.

I wouldn't say that from my experience their are plenty. These people are my parents, my class friends, my teachers, my physcologist, my dad's and mum's friends. There are plenty of them all around the place. Sometimes it can be tough to find these people but they are there.

the odd thing about all this is that the good people tend to clump together, and the bad people tend to clump together also, but mostly in different places. I've never been lucky enough to find the good people en masse, just one here and there. but that's still better than nothing, I suppose.

Its also not just black and white their are many good people who can be slightly prejiduced. What you gotta do is tell them to shove it up their ass and accept you.

those people were diabolical, it was all I and the union could do to make them behave even as they were. anyways, to get back to the OP's purpose, women see men who are put upon by others, and the first thing they see is "low man on the totem pole, not a good provider, probably bad genes not suitable for pairing with my own." I would have to see the OP and watch his physical behavior but I suspect his is as mine, that of an omega male. omega males are the ones first booted from the pack in lean times, the "lone wolves" of life who generally can't attract mates for the aforementioned reasons.

Well you've got it tough auntblubby and so do many people with Asperger's and the conditions you have. But what I still find it hard to believe is that you are forced into a life of lonliness on account of your condition.

all I know is what my life has been like no matter what I did.

In my life, there have been the rare guys I've bumped into that I could be friends with. One was a co-worker with a major movie and music fixation who collected a ton of Albums on CD. More recently, a guy who owns a PC Repair Shop.

There are people out there I can be on the same wavelength or whatever and have a very good rapport with. They are rare though and any women I could relate to on this level may be even more rare.

I think it's possible that someday if I ever get a reasonable career, preferrably telecommuting, I could have the time, money, and flexibility to improve my chances of meeting these rare like minded people.

That came out wrong. I guess what would be better said is that you are not doomed to life of loneliness.

Well as I like to say sometimes, the longer you wait for something you desperately want, the more you appreciate it and not take it for granted. Like yeah it sucks you don't have a girlfriend or you're not having sex or you haven't found someone yet but just think how nice it's going to feel when you finally do have it. Think about Lebron James, he led his team the Cleveland Cavaliers to the NBA finals and brought a championship to Cleveland for the first time in 50+ years, and during the after-game ceremony when he gave his speech, he mentioned about how nothing is given to you, it has to be earned. That actually inspired me to go out and get an education and to go find a girlfriend and I won't stop till I find it too.

I'm rooting for you!

oh, I had my brief moment in the sun when a fellow WPer almost literally fell into my lap, but that relationship blew itself to smithereens. that is when it dawned on me that I lack the proper genes for relationships.

Speak for yourself. I don't have a single redeeming feature.

I expect the OP may just be too career-focused. That can upset people because they don't want to be put second to ambition.