Girls, The Answer To Dating - Date Older Men

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I've never been attracted to older men.

Here's some advice for younger women: Value good, kind, and responsible men. Whether they turn out to be older, younger, or the same age as you to the day.

There are still a few young women in my life. I see them all make (and repeat) the same mistake. They go after "the hot guy," "the bad boy," "the guy who makes me feel awesome" (usually by buying them shiny things and engaging in cheap and shallow flattery). Then I see them wonder why men are such a**holes, why their men are not there for them when they're down, why their boyfriends aren't understanding when they have to give time to their kids (by some other "bad boy" who has given them nothing but sperm, custody hassles, and nervous breakdowns)...

Meanwhile, I see good, kind, responsible men who can't seem to get a date because they are __________. Overweight, depressed, autistic, "too serious," "too intense," "not fun," some other stupid judgment here.

Bluntly put, ladies (and this might be a pointless thing to say to autistic women, who do seem to be somewhat more practical than the average chick)-- Stop dating a**holes (that includes "objectifying yourself to attract male attention" and "hooking up with that hot guy"), and "a**holes" will stop being a rewarding thing for men to be. Pay attention to good, kind, responsible men (and be the kind of woman a good, kind, responsible man can feel safe loving), and it will become rewarding for men to be good, kind, and responsible.

So young guys are all the same & that's why you've become equally impatient? I think if responsibility were really a superlative quality of older generations, you wouldn't be predicating life choices on a website. I know I don't.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

I agree fully with that. Many young women will probably be better of with older men. And if they do, the young men will have to change, or be left out.

Good for you I suppose. Try to remember not to talk s**t about those buying your retirement though.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

@rdos: If you're going to espouse ageist BS at least publicly insult young people in coherent sentences. If you're really an academic, stand up straight.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

I wouldn't have wanted to date someone twice my age, just too much age difference. However I am 5 years younger than my current boyfriend, and when he first sent me a messege on okcupid I did actually sort of consider being 30 rather than say 22-25 he might be a bit more mature in some ways than guys I previously tried dating...like maybe more sure of what he wants in a relationship and more ready for a serious relationship than younger guys I tried dating.

I'm 18 years older than my wife, but I hadn't heard that this was a trend.

This immediately made me think of my cousin. She always only dated men older than her, sometimes almost twice her age. None of the relationships lasted long and they didn't care about her. Now she's with a guy who is four years younger than her. It's the first time she has a boyfriend who actually loves her and cares about her. They have been together for more than two years now and so far it's going a lot better than any of her previous relationships.
There might be many young men who are irresponsible and selfish, but it's not all young men. There are old men who are like that too. People simply are individuals and not everyone is the same.

I don't think I'd be more compatible with someone a lot older than me than with someone who is closer to my age. In some ways I feel younger than my actual age, which seems to not be too uncommon for autistic people.