Am i the only one who thinks dating has become shallow?

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I don't agree that it's very unlikely to be because of something shallow. Shallow factors can get you through the gate. But I do agree that personality is definitely a very big factor. Whether you're incredibly rich, or have an incredible personality, just one of those is enough to get into relationships. I think the thing that makes people uncomfortable(especially since this is a forum for autism)is that personality, like many other traits that can make one succesful, is genetic aswell. Like IQ is genetic.
I think for many smart people especially, this pisses them off, because being smart and having a good personality is often at odds with eachother. I have yet to meet a high IQ person, who was also very charismatic.. Not to say they don't exist, but they are probably very very rare.

When it comes to aspies and relationships we tend to fall into to categories. Either completely desperate or completely disinterested. Both of those attitudes will almost guarantee failure from the get-go.

No, you're certainly not. I've stayed out of the dating "scene" for a good while now for the same reason - I think it's gotten way too shallow.

There are list items that should be "red flags" that you shouldn't casually ignore.

vegetarian
anti-Trump or similar strong political opinions
hunting

24x7 special interest

If you have issues with any of these you should just move on. People don't change and these sorts of things can't be compromised around. But, it could be that you also share a special interest, and want to spend the rest of your life on golf courses around the world!

You don't have to obey the spellcheck you know though it can be a bit weird seeing red lines all over your text.

Last I heard most Americans (over 50%) are single and alone.
There’s loads of women on dating sites who due to heir shallowness and superficial ness remain single for 10 years. If they weren’t sticking to their list of requirements certainly they’d met someone by now certainly I’d had met someone. No most do stick their their lists. Most of them have highly attractive personalities atleast to me.

Glad to see you posting again. Sorry if your mad at me.

Half the vegan or vegetarians I’ve met say they ok with their SO eating meat. They just won’t eat it.

No a anti trump or super liberal or left leaning person wouldn’t work with me. They’d see me as a nazi or child killer for owning guns.

Why hunting?

I don't think many people would see you as a "Nazi" or "child killer" for owning guns.

Only nuts would think that way.

Suppose she wants to go big game hunting for a couple days. Would it be OK for her to go with a couple guys? While you stay home.

Unless you are happy with a companionship, sexual chemistry is very important.
She can have the most amazing personality, the kindest girl ever, if she doesn't get your motor running, it's not going to last for long.
If he lacks of masculinity it might last longer as women can fake orgasm, but guaranteed she will venture on greener pastures, unless he's got a lot of money.
Yes, dating might be shallow but in my country we have a saying. You have to be really picky whose farts you want to smell for years.

No no. I’m a Nazi for supporting trump.
Anyone who owns guns is responsible for newtown don’t you know. If one person does something everyone that similar to him is guilty for it too

Have we been dating for while? Probably then. She’d probably be going with her dad or brothers. So highly unlikely she’d cheat on me :p if she did then she has really bad problems beyond loyalty.
Most women hunt with family, boyfriends, or the 3rd likely female friends.
I don’t and won’t hunt. So that’ll probably be a issue more for women then me with them hunting. As long as they eat the meat, respect the animal and don’t take trophy.
Likewise with fishing I don’t fish and won’t.
I won’t kiss or touch them until after they shower though.

My dad is a huge gun nut.

You can't be anywhere in his house without being at least two feet away from a loaded gun.

The only people he's a danger to are anyone dumb enough to break into his house.

I think people who support Trump are foolish---but an infinitesimal amount are Nazis or Neo-Nazis.

I don't feel being a "gun nut" equates to being a Nazi. I really don't think about guns all that much.

But there are people who like guns who are perfectly reasonable people, and are careful with them.

Which country does that saying come from?

Best saying ever.

I’m not foolish I voted him in to stop the social security gun ban and it’s one of the first things he did. Hillary would been terrible for our nation.