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sly279
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15 Jan 2018, 2:05 am

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15 Jan 2018, 2:07 am

magz wrote:
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"Don't feel this, don't feel that" is never a good advice. You don't control your feelings. You can choose to act or not act upon them.
Don't act upon your feeling sorry for yourself if you want to improve your relationships.
Sort out your life so you are happy enough with yourself before getting a partner – yes.

Not everyone is able to sort out their life.

Don't delude yourself a relationship would do it for you. It wouldn't.
The Cinderella fairy tale has done a lot of damage to our mentality.

Why would I think a relationship would get me a well paid job, nice car, and a House?
A relationship will give me a loving companion. That’s it, that’s all I want. The idea that I have to get my life together according to s superficial society’s standards is ridiculous. Fact is not everyone can meet those standards



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15 Jan 2018, 2:09 am

nick007 wrote:
magz wrote:
sly279 wrote:
magz wrote:
"Don't feel this, don't feel that" is never a good advice. You don't control your feelings. You can choose to act or not act upon them.
Don't act upon your feeling sorry for yourself if you want to improve your relationships.
Sort out your life so you are happy enough with yourself before getting a partner – yes.

Not everyone is able to sort out their life.

Don't delude yourself a relationship would do it for you. It wouldn't.
The Cinderella fairy tale has done a lot of damage to our mentality.
A realtionship really did help me sort my life out. I was very lonely when single cuz I didn't have anyone in my life who really understood, related or accepted me cuz of my many issues & disabilities. I was trapped living with my parents because my vision is too bad for me to drive & my SSI was not enough for me to afford living on my own. I was doing my best to find a job but my disabilities made it pretty rough. I posted aLOT here about being lonely & my problems finding someone. Cass sent me a message after reading a lot of my posts & like me she also has some disabilities & issues & was wanting someone to accept her the way she was. We met up after a few months & after a couple more times of meeting up, I moved from Louisiana to Vermont to be with her. I no longer feel trapped living with my parents & I'm very happy I found someone to share my life wtih.

According to people here you really should break up with her. As you need to be happy alone.



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15 Jan 2018, 5:07 am

fluffysaurus wrote:
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You know what, I'm single, but I live my life, I go to college, I go to the gym, I am going to learn to drive. I go to football matches. I will meet the person I love one day but you know what, I am happy and that is all that matters. :D


What if you drive, go to college, go to sporting events, and still feel lonely? I feel like happiness is only real when shared :/


I have observed happier people tend to attract other people to them more than unhappy people do too.


This is 100% correct. When I’m down on myself, people at work avoid me like the plague, and on happy days they are much friendlier.

But

I don’t know whether it’s my self defeating mood that is seeing avoidance, maybe it’s not there, and I’m seeing what my mind projects? Who knows.

I’ll choose happy over sad anyday. Started a new type if counselling, hopefully it helps.