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11 Jun 2018, 9:24 am

If I have to catch a plane-----yet my lover feels like she HAS to apply makeup before she'll get in the cab, I'd be mighty irritated....



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11 Jun 2018, 11:24 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
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Abusive.
Doesn’t want a job.

Apart from that, I’m pretty flexible if I like them enough.


Doesn't want a job, or refuses to work? Because there's an awful lot of people who'd rather have nothing but free time, yet work anyway.



When it comes down to it, nobody really wants to work, but most people do anyways, because they are responsible, and have bills and food to pay for. Some people expect someone else to take care of them, though.



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11 Jun 2018, 11:31 am

SilverStar wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Abusive.
Doesn’t want a job.

Apart from that, I’m pretty flexible if I like them enough.


Doesn't want a job, or refuses to work? Because there's an awful lot of people who'd rather have nothing but free time, yet work anyway.



When it comes down to it, nobody really wants to work, but most people do anyways, because they are responsible, and have bills and food to pay for. Some people expect someone else to take care of them, though.
What about people who are disabled :?:


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11 Jun 2018, 2:04 pm

SilverStar wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Abusive.
Doesn’t want a job.

Apart from that, I’m pretty flexible if I like them enough.


Doesn't want a job, or refuses to work? Because there's an awful lot of people who'd rather have nothing but free time, yet work anyway.



When it comes down to it, nobody really wants to work, but most people do anyways, because they are responsible, and have bills and food to pay for. Some people expect someone else to take care of them, though.


I actually get depressed if I don't work. I feel like I need to be a part of something, a system and contributing in some fashion. I will probably work till I die.


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11 Jun 2018, 3:46 pm

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11 Jun 2018, 5:06 pm

nick007 wrote:
SilverStar wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Abusive.
Doesn’t want a job.

Apart from that, I’m pretty flexible if I like them enough.


Doesn't want a job, or refuses to work? Because there's an awful lot of people who'd rather have nothing but free time, yet work anyway.



When it comes down to it, nobody really wants to work, but most people do anyways, because they are responsible, and have bills and food to pay for. Some people expect someone else to take care of them, though.
What about people who are disabled :?:


Being disabled isn't really by choice. Some people on disability are actually able to work (at least part time, or certain jobs), but choose to abuse the system, instead. For me, those people fall into the same category as the people that expect someone else to take care of them.



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11 Jun 2018, 5:29 pm

Traits that I absolutely DON'T want:

Anyone with Cluster B Personality Disorders.

These Include:

1. Antisocial Personality Disorder
2. Borderline Personality Disorder
3. Narcissistic Personality Disorder
4. Histrionic Personality Disorder

I can deal most people that have mental health issues, but people that have these disorders generally drive me, and everyone else around them crazy. Not only do they generally lack empathy toward other people, but they are usually unstable, create unnecessary drama, and it's almost impossible to make them aware of their wrongdoing.



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11 Jun 2018, 6:11 pm

SilverStar wrote:
Traits that I absolutely DON'T want:

Anyone with Cluster B Personality Disorders.

These Include:

1. Antisocial Personality Disorder
2. Borderline Personality Disorder
3. Narcissistic Personality Disorder
4. Histrionic Personality Disorder

I can deal most people that have mental health issues, but people that have these disorders generally drive me, and everyone else around them crazy. Not only do they generally lack empathy toward other people, but they are usually unstable, create unnecessary drama, and it's almost impossible to make them aware of their wrongdoing.
I'm actually attracted to some people with Borderline & Histrionic Personality Disorder. I'm weird thou cuz I really like women who are needy & clingy with me. I was diagnosed with BPD when I was going through a bad psychotic depression. I think I seemed to fit the criteria then but I doubt I'd meet that now cuz I'm a little bit of a different person than when I was going through that hell. I think this may be some of the reason I'm attracted to women with it. I know what it was like for me & I know I could of done alot better if I had someone there to help me who really related. My girlfriend is actually kind of on the border of having BPD(her mom has it too but isn't on the border) & yeah it can be problematic sometimes & frustrate me but other times it doesn't bother me. I have more than my fair share of faults & Cass can deal with me aLOT better than anyone else so I can deal with her.
I really don't like Antisocial & Narcissistic Personality Disorder thou.


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12 Jun 2018, 4:35 am

SilverStar wrote:
nick007 wrote:
SilverStar wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Abusive.
Doesn’t want a job.

Apart from that, I’m pretty flexible if I like them enough.


Doesn't want a job, or refuses to work? Because there's an awful lot of people who'd rather have nothing but free time, yet work anyway.



When it comes down to it, nobody really wants to work, but most people do anyways, because they are responsible, and have bills and food to pay for. Some people expect someone else to take care of them, though.
What about people who are disabled :?:


Being disabled isn't really by choice. Some people on disability are actually able to work (at least part time, or certain jobs), but choose to abuse the system, instead. For me, those people fall into the same category as the people that expect someone else to take care of them.

O.0



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12 Jun 2018, 6:34 am

fromamegaverse wrote:
SilverStar wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Abusive.
Doesn’t want a job.

Apart from that, I’m pretty flexible if I like them enough.


Doesn't want a job, or refuses to work? Because there's an awful lot of people who'd rather have nothing but free time, yet work anyway.



When it comes down to it, nobody really wants to work, but most people do anyways, because they are responsible, and have bills and food to pay for. Some people expect someone else to take care of them, though.


I actually get depressed if I don't work. I feel like I need to be a part of something, a system and contributing in some fashion. I will probably work till I die.


Working doesn't necessarily mean you're contributing to society. A lot of jobs just see you contributing to some corporate fat cat's wallet. Meanwhile there's tonnes of way to help society through volunteering. Just something to keep in perspective.



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12 Jun 2018, 6:37 am

Existing.



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12 Jun 2018, 6:39 am

Peacesells wrote:
Existing.


Hmm. Possibly limiting your options a bit there.



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12 Jun 2018, 7:29 am

Closed-minded
Conformist
Ignorant
Materialistic
Shallow/Superficial

I definitely relate to the too much texting thing. I've broken up with a few women because they wanted to text constantly. I'm not sure if there is a nice way to go about saying that you don't want to do it. I believe that I enjoyed dating a lot more before texting became popular. You actually had time to miss the person and look forward to your next encounter with them, they weren't trying to force themself upon you all day long. I enjoy meaningful conversation, I don't enjoy someone telling me everything about their day as it happens, this is a good example of why I don't have any social media accounts. The action of them doing so too frequently and the content of what I am being told can be a huge turn off. If you're an aspie that is easily drained socially and dislikes shallow conversations, this is quite possibly the worst part of modern dating.



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12 Jun 2018, 5:26 pm

nick007 wrote:
SilverStar wrote:
Traits that I absolutely DON'T want:

Anyone with Cluster B Personality Disorders.

These Include:

1. Antisocial Personality Disorder
2. Borderline Personality Disorder
3. Narcissistic Personality Disorder
4. Histrionic Personality Disorder

I can deal most people that have mental health issues, but people that have these disorders generally drive me, and everyone else around them crazy. Not only do they generally lack empathy toward other people, but they are usually unstable, create unnecessary drama, and it's almost impossible to make them aware of their wrongdoing.
I'm actually attracted to some people with Borderline & Histrionic Personality Disorder. I'm weird thou cuz I really like women who are needy & clingy with me. I was diagnosed with BPD when I was going through a bad psychotic depression. I think I seemed to fit the criteria then but I doubt I'd meet that now cuz I'm a little bit of a different person than when I was going through that hell. I think this may be some of the reason I'm attracted to women with it. I know what it was like for me & I know I could of done alot better if I had someone there to help me who really related. My girlfriend is actually kind of on the border of having BPD(her mom has it too but isn't on the border) & yeah it can be problematic sometimes & frustrate me but other times it doesn't bother me. I have more than my fair share of faults & Cass can deal with me aLOT better than anyone else so I can deal with her.
I really don't like Antisocial & Narcissistic Personality Disorder thou.


I do like women with some Histrionic traits (dramatic people), because they can be interesting, and entertaining, but there's a difference between being dramatic, and creating drama because of an obsessive need to get attention.



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12 Jun 2018, 8:32 pm

Asexual/low sex drive/saving themselves for marriage
Doesn’t like to travel
Cheater
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Has no career ambitions


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13 Jun 2018, 1:48 am

Superficial
Ambition
Smokes
Ownsndogs,reptiles, anything but cats or fish
Low sex drive
Likes to travel
Liberal
Has a good job.
Has a car
Wants to wait til marriage
The other normal bad stuff