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You seem to have pretty good self awareness and awareness of your surroundings, which is critical.

Yeah I’ve adopted this attitude as well and even though I’m still rejected quite a bit, I feel I’ve gotten more dates and attention then even a lot of NT guys do. I guess confidence is attractive? Perhaps it helps that I’m an extroverted person with ASD. But still..... it’s hard. In all fairness I could probably get a girlfriend tomorrow if I really wanted just anybody. A surprising number of women respond well to being asked out if you aren’t a dick about it. But my issue is the connection and compatibility. The connections I have hit one of those 9 (see: snags and the romance ends.

I did end up meeting one girl a awhile back who was ASD who didn’t want kids and I thought things were actually going to go somewhere. Until our introvert and extrovertness clashed. She didn’t respond well to my passion as a person and when things got sexual she didn’t seem interested in sex. I’m fine with waiting on something like that because we all have different confort levels and it’s ok...... but my issue is women need to communicate that sort of thing. If I like you, I’m gonna desire you, I’m gonna want you, and I’m gonna make a move. If you don’t want me to let me know and I’ll kindly back off. It’s called respect...... but don’t paint me as a monster when I show I desire you and because I don’t hesitate to express myself, and you don’t communicate and aren’t honest, that things get awkward. This is an example of one of many ways my extroverted ASD causes me a lot of trouble. I’m even more rare in this case.

^^I think you're pretty much on the right track.

There are women who like the "direct" approach. Many, though, do not....for many reasons either in their control, or beyond their control.

If you can find a direct woman who likes quantum physics, I feel you'll be in hog heaven.

Yep....those women do exist.

Oh my god where lol. That would be love at first science joke for me!

A place like Stanford or MIT would be a good place to start

Herbert Hoover married his soulmate. They were both engineering students at Stanford.

rats..... can't do the college thing

That’s a vague and meaningless term without you describe what your like. If your posted on a dating site guy has to have likemindedless that’s just be confusing and turn guys away. Everyone wants a so who’s similarmined to themselves but the list what that means

And maybe if I grew up in 1970s/80s New York City that’s happen too but I’m young in 2018 not the 1980s culture, society and women are different now. You’d have no such success today
There’s blogs and videos of what dating was like then vs now where most of what was romantic then is now considered creepy and stalkerish. Times change.

Uh huh. My profile is lengthy, with lots of insight into the type of person I am. Ultimately, though, even if we look good on paper, I have to get to know someone in person to find out if we are truly compatible. It could take one date, or many months, to figure it out.

I wasn’t actually commenting on your profile. I haven’t seen it. I was just using an example.

Would you give poor men who don’t have a car a chance?
Most women here specifically say not to message them if you don’t have a well paid job, car and own place. So it seems rather hopeless for me since none will ever even get to see my personality or common interests

I've dated plenty of people without cars. I don't care. I prefer poor to rich, because I am poor. This stuff is waaay less relevant than whether we are like-minded.

Yes and what's your list of positives?

My odds are 3.1416......to 1.

I think the point is just not giving a s**t. I think this idea that women as a whole are closed off and gaurded and are skeptical of all men is an illusion. A lot of women are...... but many are not as well. If you encounter someone who doesn't respond well to you, move onto the next one. At least thats what I think. It's true that times change, but deep down people never change. Choosing to not give a s**t was the greatest gift I ever gave myself. Yes I'm still alone, yes I get rejected a lot, yes it sucks, but I just choose to say that if they can't handle all of me then it's for the best anyways. moving on.

I think the point is just not giving a s**t. I think this idea that women as a whole are closed off and gaurded and are skeptical of all men is an illusion. A lot of women are...... but many are not as well. If you encounter someone who doesn't respond well to you, move onto the next one. At least thats what I think. It's true that times change, but deep down people never change. Choosing to not give a s**t was the greatest gift I ever gave myself. Yes I'm still alone, yes I get rejected a lot, yes it sucks, but I just choose to say that if they can't handle all of me then it's for the best anyways. moving on.

Women hate it if you give too much of a s**t—point blank.