sly279 wrote:
Would you be willing to be the one always driving to a guy? Always being the one to drive him around with you, or would you become upset and think he’s just mooching off you and hang you as a taxi? That’s how I’ve seen women here and onlin expr ss the idea of dating poor men without cars. So I won’t accept rides, I won’t stay at their place, accept gifts food, etc
I think you’re seeing it from a woman’s view where most guys would be fine driving to a woman all th time, giving her rides and all the above. I certainly would be fine doing so.
From what I’ve seen men don’t see women poorer then them as mooches like women see men who make less then them. I haven seen a seemly universal desire from men to only date women who make as much as them or more.
So it would seem any such woman would come to resent and hate me because she’s always having to travel to me and not the other way
Yes, I'm seeing it from a woman's view, because I'm a woman. And my view is I don't mind driving a guy or girl around. I've dated people without cars. E.g. I've been in a relationship with a guy 4-5 hours away by car or train, who had no car. If he visited me he caught the train to the nearest station and I drove an hour to pick him up from there to save him catching the bus (and to spend an extra hour together).
If they can drive, though, but just don't have a car, then sharing the driving in my car seems fair while we are hanging out together. Whatever works.
Do you have female friends or relatives? Ask them how they’d feel driving a guy around or dating men who don’t own cars. What if that guy couldn’t afforded the train up to you?
You’d let them drive your car? Most people here won’t even let their own family drive their car, nor friends they’ve known for years.
08 Jul 2018, 5:24 pm
