Guys my type aren’t into me

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If you don't mind me asking, where are you from? What is the culture like there?

Perhaps you can try looking for places you can meet guys who share similar interests as you.

I live in rural New England

I like goth girls but I don’t limit myself to them or pixie girls
Does that mean I don’t have a type?
I like most women

Can you post pics of guys who are of your type?

In the US quite a few guys are into "full-figured" women. I think it's pointless to tell any woman she should lose weight if she wants dates.

I would describe her style as more like Flower Child. She looks like an American college student from almost half a century ago.

Don't change for the sake of getting a man but broaden your scope a bit more than one fashion type. It isn't even really a physical type you have, simply a fashion one.
Which is fine if you're like me and ok about being forever alone, but it's not really a realistic standard. What if you met the right guy and then he changed his look...
Of course, have standards. But those should be around finding a decent guy who shares your values, a guy of your own intellectual level and a guy who shares interests with you. Not a fashion type.
You're young. You'll find someone, no doubt. And like I tell everyone, nobody worthwhile will love you until you learn to be happy being single first.

The following are honest questions that I don't know the answers to:

I'm nearly fifty so I grew up in a different time. I could be wrong, but the prevalence among the younger generations to have quite specific criteria for physical appearance of potential mates seems to be of much higher than I ever had or that my peers ever had.

Is that a generational thing? Is the prevalence of being particular/picky higher among Aspies than NT?

In my life I've dated and been in relationships with a variety of women: blonde hair, brown hair, black hair, red hair (ginger), green eyes, brown eyes, blue eyes, long hair, short hair, medium length, shorter, taller, curvaceous, thin, very buxom, small, conservatively dressed, punk/goth dressed, outgoing, shy........

I've never had a single or very specific image of the "ideal woman" in regard to attractiveness since I find beauty is such a broad thing and in addition to someone's looks I would say I'm probably more attracted to the person. Their wit, intellect and personality. Certainly physical attraction has to be a part of it for me, but personality and person first.

Am I weird that way?

Also, I don't think you have to change yourself to "be more attractive" or whatever other advice some might give you here. If you look for someone with a compatible personality to yours, someone you have fun being around, someone who respects you for you, etc. That's the kind of person you can have a meaningful long term relationship with.

Why? Men here are told thst ever time as well as to get better jobs.
I don’t think men are anymore into fat women then women are into fat guys.

Doesn't thinking this way insulate you from people and experience. Who does it benefit?

My ex was taller and skinnier than me. We broke up due to being in all of the same classes and that being very awkward. There were other things too like people meddling in our business nonstop. When you say "high quality" I'm assuming you think I'm after the athletic, muscular, fit guys that are clean cut and have short hair...right? That's not what I'm into. My ex wasn't fit despite being skinny and he told me that because he ate junk constantly and I very rarely did. I don't eat crap. My mom makes paleo food for me at home. WE ALMOST NEVER EAT OUT LET ALONE EAT FAST FOOD.

I started taking meformin today and starting my exercising again (I had an ankle injury because I ran downstairs so I wasn't able to do much exercise, doctor's orders). I also am getting a gym membership next month. Also, wanna see a picture of my yoga mat I got for Christmas? It's super cute. I got it at Five Below.

To all of you critiquing my fashion sense: From what I recall, most people her, male and female say that they don't like fashion. I love fashion. It's my special interest. So, you all probably like edgy guys and girls.

I'm saying this not because of hurt feelings. It just fascinates me how people here say that they don't like fashion yet y'all are being preachy.

It’s based off experience. Humans are suppose to be thin not fat. That’s why it’s called obese and is a medical condition that’s harmful to health.
Being attractive is natural and being thin is natural it makes sense most people prefer thin people.

I don’t limit myself to thin women but I certainly find them more attractive and preferred.

How does it insulate me I don’t understand.
Just stating what’s obvious to most people. I’m not saying she should lose weight but it would help just same as it would help me if I was able to, though most women also want good job and car so it would t make much a difference.

Do you honestly think most men or women prefer fat people? Cause if so you need to get out more.

I think xxZeroXX is attractive.

As long as her weight doesn't affect her health, and she comfortable with it, I wouldn't bother too much with "losing weight." More with "keeping healthy."

I don't think you're all that "fat," either, Sly. You're more like the "big teddy-bear type."

There are women who like to use men's bellies as pillows....

Didn’t say she wasn’t
We are discussing what most men find attractive nit what I or you. There’s a reason female models are all thin and why male models are thin with six packs, same for most actors or other celebrities. It’s only recent Time that people could even be fat. Go back 100 years and only the rich could be fat most everyone else was thin from low food and working. We’ve become more seditive and have way more food thus become fat, it’s not our natural size. We still find thin people attractive and preferred b cause that’s the best chance of survival of the human race. That’s a fact.

People don’t have to give into their natural desires or preferences. I’d like to think that while most people prefer thin they find chubby people attractive too and could be with them. I certainly can. I’m not trying to shame fat people im fat, but same time it’s nit healthy or natural and certainly not the preferred type. I don’t see how anyone could say otherwise.

I don’t think she should lose wieght for men, those men wouldn’t like the real her just the new her. Same for me with women, I think when you change yours of to attract people they can never love you. They love the changes.

I’m fat, I’m medically obese. I’ll have a shorter life span. No single women in my area want fat or chubby men. Most single women here are thin they want thin athletic men so do the chubby or obese women. I get flak on wp for suggestions they should date chubby men like me and told to hit the gym or be single forever.

Teddy bear is a insult. Only good to be a friend it is, another way of saying I don’t find you attractive

I share this ladies dream of a world where no one sons or daughters cries because they don’t fit in with what society has taught them

I've known quite a few "teddy bear types" who had girlfriends-----because the girls dig "teddy bear types."

I sort of wish I was more of a "teddy bear type." I'm too short for that.

I see happy couples who are overweight all over the place. Overthinking the issue seems like a convenient obstacle to hide behind. I don't know what other people think Sly or pretend to know. I've dated someone who was 20 stone, she felt herself to be very desirable, that's more of a winning outlook.



Where did you inform yourself? Was it really "out" or was it actually "in"?