Is being viewed as sweet bad?

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Bad for the diabetes.

Than you shouldn’t eat your honey.

What can I say, she must have drove him crazy.

I think being sweet usually is a good thing, but most guys think it's not masculine, and if you're a girl people think it's stereotypical.

Usually when Sweet is used on a guy it's by a girl & she means she likes him in a best friend sorta way instead of romantically. However when a guy uses Sweet for a girl, it means he thinks she's nice & lots of guys are attracted to that but not all. It's the Your Confusing part the guy said I'd be worried about however LOTS of guys have a hard time understanding lots of women(comedians joke about that a lot & lots of guys sang songs about it) so it could be that.

Oh yeah, never call a guy you're into that he's "sweet" or "kind" or "a good person" or anything of the sort. That's an instant alarm bell to us men that you only see us as a friend.

The easiest way to get a guy's attention is to comment on his looks. Give him comments that imply you're impressed by him "cool", "strong", "smart". Find any excuse to spend time with him or touch him. This sort of stuff gets out attention. Being called nice just makes us assume you're not interested.

Last edited by Sabreclaw on 08 May 2019, 1:12 am, edited 1 time in total.

Yeah ladies , take note. For someone you like sexually use instead terms such as 'hot', 'handsome' or sexy.

I think you all realize that, but let's pretend that we are all naive.

Being "sweet" implies a high degree of harmlessness or lack of threat. In other words, someone who comes off as "sweet" also appears nonthreatening. That can be very endearing in a woman. Especially today, when women have the power to change a man's life with a false accusation, controlling personality, or unflattering social media post. So a "sweet" woman puts a man at ease with her nonthreatening demeanor, and by extension, lack of risk in letting her into his life. But it's a double standard: being "sweet" is a kiss of death for a man. Because a man must be able to protect a woman, and for that, the ability to actually be a threat is a must. So, being sweet is a no-no.

Now, three years ago, I met a really sweet girl who I found totally endearing from the get-go. To the point of feeling guilty about dating her, because she came off as innocent and somewhat fragile, while I was already jaded and hardened dating-wise. At that time, my friends got into relationships and no longer wanted to spend time with me. Plus, their girlfriends didn't exactly win me over right away; in fact, I felt ill-at-ease around them until I got to know them better. I felt like they were judging me as a single loser who won't quit tagging along. That girl, on the other hand, somehow won me over in less than an hour on the first meeting, with no special effort on her part. I don't know if it was her younger age (22 compared to my 33), her jumpy conversation style that became endearing once I used to it, her playful personality, or her cute face. But whatever it was, the word "sweet" was a perfect descriptor for her. (Since then, she became my best friend, and I wouldn't have it any other way.)

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I like to be seen as a Sweet Pea.