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He got that phone from his work company, he never had video on the phone, so we never video chat, but we voice chat.

He bought a new phone with my help, but the phone is at custom service, he is in Asia for work, he needs $300 to get the phone, he doesn’t have any money.

My boyfriend only has a phone.

Your "boyfriend" is scamming you.

Kitty, I am afraid but this is one of the typical scam tricks.
There are forums about romance scam, why don't you have a look at them? There are several different but also similar stories posted by many users, men and women, from all over the world. I think it would help you to understand and clarify the situation you're in.
Please don't trust him anymore.

I hate to say it but this is a pretty common SCAM. He says he has a job so he should be able to afford a new phone on his own.

I do so hope it is genuine and not a scam. I hate peoples hearts being broken if it is a scam. Let's hope it is not and all is OK.

Kitty, it seems also to me that he is scamming you. Please don't give him your details or any money. He is probably not video calling you because he doesn't want to expose his identity. How did you help him get his phone? Did you send him money? Have you given him your credit card details, ID number or bank details? Keep posting here before you take any action, good girl for asking us questions, well done! Is he the guy that you are talking to about lingerie and sex? He sounds like a criminal who is setting you up. It nearly happened to me, it can happen to anyone.

I teach engineers and they always have access to internet because much of their business is conducted by email and they must be available 24/7. He obviously is building up an emotional/ romantic co-dependency in order to exploit you.

It is disappointing when we develop feelings for someone and they turn out to be a fraud. Please don't contact him again, he seems like big trouble. You are worth more than the likes of him. You cannot trust a word he says. Sending you a big hug Kitty. Be firm and decisive, you must disconnect from this villain. If you feel sad remember he is the one at fault. He chose you in order to lie and steal.

This doesn't sound good to me either.

If this dude is an engineer who travels internationally, then he should be able to afford his own phone.

It sounds like he got what he wanted from you (money), and is now using his phone is "dying" as an excuse to not talk to you any more.

Oh honey, he's not your boyfriend. He's scamming you for money.

Block him asap. And DON'T send him any more money.

I agree with the posters above. It is a romance scam. Drop all contact immediately and give the information to the local police. They will likely not do much, but will have the information on file in case he keeps contacting you. I am very sorry that this happened to you. You deserve much better than this.

Never give money to someone that you haven’t met in person.

Never give anyone money if you are low income and/or living on disability!

I’m sorry that you are going through this.

If he has sent you any photos of himself, you could use https://tineye.com/ to see if they’re stolen from the Internet. Even if they aren’t stolen, any websites with his photo could have some more information about him that would be helpful for you to see.

If you know his first and last name, you could Google his name with quotation marks around it to see what you find. You might need to add more information if it’s a common name, like a city he has worked in or lived in.

If you have him as a friend on any apps that let you see his other friends and there are a lot of women on his friends list, that could be a sign he’s a scammer (or a player) and is doing the same thing to other people.

If you actually gave money to this guy, you got scammed. I didn’t know you gave him money.

Report it to the police. It might not benefit you immediately ....but if 10 (or 100) people call about this guy, they’ll be more willing to pursue an investigation.

The police won't do anything if you gave the money willingly, despite being warned many times on WP.

Unfortunately, all you can do is report it and warn others on the website. Then block him.

I would change my phone number too.