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28 Jun 2020, 7:12 am

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He asked me for money,he said his ex was involved with drugs, he lives in NY, the police arrested his ex & they thought he was involved with the drugs, the government froze his bank account. He kept asking if you love me, you would help me. Am I ever going find a man for me? I feel like a loser. I always have bad luck with men.


You don't have bad luck with men, just like my daughter - you make poor choices. The smart choice you made this time was to dump that guy QUICK. He's just trying to extort you by making you feel sorry for him.


That's a bit harsh. When your choices are from noone, nobody and that one guy who actually shows an interest, you give the guy a chance to see how it goes.

She really did do the right thing and stop talking to him when she saw these red flags, but it's unfair to blame her for making bad choices when there are no choices.



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28 Jun 2020, 7:20 am

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He asked me for money,he said his ex was involved with drugs, he lives in NY, the police arrested his ex & they thought he was involved with the drugs, the government froze his bank account. He kept asking if you love me, you would help me. Am I ever going find a man for me? I feel like a loser. I always have bad luck with men.


You don't have bad luck with men, just like my daughter - you make poor choices. The smart choice you made this time was to dump that guy QUICK. He's just trying to extort you by making you feel sorry for him.


That's a bit harsh. When your choices are from noone, nobody and that one guy who actually shows an interest, you give the guy a chance to see how it goes.

She really did do the right thing and stop talking to him when she saw these red flags, but it's unfair to blame her for making bad choices when there are no choices.


Agreed.
How was it a "Bad Choice"?

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28 Jun 2020, 7:23 am

Kitty4670 wrote:
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He asked me for money,he said his ex was involved with drugs, he lives in NY, the police arrested his ex & they thought he was involved with the drugs, the government froze his bank account. He kept asking if you love me, you would help me. Am I ever going find a man for me? I feel like a loser. I always have bad luck with men.


You don't have bad luck with men, just like my daughter - you make poor choices. The smart choice you made this time was to dump that guy QUICK. He's just trying to extort you by making you feel sorry for him.


And while hurtful,
Kitkat has more experience about the sort of people out there, and why it is important to always keep your guard up, initially.


You are right, about 4 years ago, a man took $400 from me, I was still badly grieving over my mom, I wasn’t in my right mind. I learned my mistakes :D


Yep,
The bastards look for people who are grieving.
I got targeted badly when my father died.



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28 Jun 2020, 8:44 pm

Some scammers on the internet can pretend to be a female, but are male.


OT: I don't know if I can say much useful, since I just discovered your age.

I personally don't see dating sites as a good way to meet someone.
If you have some female friends, they could give you a hand maybe? Like going out sometimes. But I have no clue how it is for you as someone with AS, since many of us don't like going to places with too many noises/people for example..
But sure is that it's better to meet new people in real life, especially if you plan to have a long-term relationship.



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30 Jun 2020, 2:59 pm

LunaticCentruroides wrote:
Some scammers on the internet can pretend to be a female, but are male.


OT: I don't know if I can say much useful, since I just discovered your age.

I personally don't see dating sites as a good way to meet someone.
If you have some female friends, they could give you a hand maybe? Like going out sometimes. But I have no clue how it is for you as someone with AS, since many of us don't like going to places with too many noises/people for example..
But sure is that it's better to meet new people in real life, especially if you plan to have a long-term relationship.



There’s always a reason why some single people end up on using dating sites - it’s often the last resort after many years of failed attempts to find someone in all stages of life (school, college, work...etc); not all of us are .... genetically gifted in health, looks and social charms in order to naturally attract people via “real life” means. Even my last ex have told me that I wouldn’t have even gotten her attention if she first met me in real life.

Kitty is no exception in that struggle.



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30 Jun 2020, 3:13 pm

If we stop using genetics as an excuse, we will all go further in life and love.



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30 Jun 2020, 3:14 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
There’s always a reason why some single people end up on using dating sites - it’s often the last resort after many years of failed attempts elsewhere; not all of us are .... genetically gifted in health, looks and social charms in order to naturally attract people via “real life” means. Even my last ex have told me that I wouldn’t have even gotten her attention if she first met me in real life.

Kitty is no exception.


Yeah you're probably right. I can't judge this with my 25 years.
I just know how my mom tried it many times on many different sites and now she's pretty much done with it, after the last failed relationship.

And I tried to suggest Kitty in particular to find someone that lives at least closer to her, so it's not gonna be an "online-relationship" only.

I'm sorry to hear what your ex told you. I like your picture tho. :wink:



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30 Jun 2020, 3:18 pm

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If we stop using genetics as an excuse, we will all go further in life and love.


Hence why we use dating sites; to hack the genetic flaws. Ha.



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30 Jun 2020, 3:22 pm

LunaticCentruroides wrote:
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There’s always a reason why some single people end up on using dating sites - it’s often the last resort after many years of failed attempts elsewhere; not all of us are .... genetically gifted in health, looks and social charms in order to naturally attract people via “real life” means. Even my last ex have told me that I wouldn’t have even gotten her attention if she first met me in real life.

Kitty is no exception.


Yeah you're probably right. I can't judge this with my 25 years.
I just know how my mom tried it many times on many different sites and now she's pretty much done with it, after the last failed relationship.

And I tried to suggest Kitty in particular to find someone that lives at least closer to her, so it's not gonna be an "online-relationship" only.

I'm sorry to hear what your ex told you. I like your picture tho. :wink:



Oh you misunderstood; my ex told me so in a lovely way (while in bed lol), she was complimenting me but saying how she would have never found out my good traits if there was no online communication in prior - you know, honest conversations.



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30 Jun 2020, 6:25 pm

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Oh you misunderstood; my ex told me so in a lovely way (while in bed lol), she was complimenting me but saying how she would have never found out my good traits if there was no online communication in prior - you know, honest conversations.


Oh excuse me. I get it. :mrgreen:

I love the internet for that. It helpled me going through my teens.
I actually still like having conversations without being face-to-face. Sometimes I even prefer it.



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30 Jun 2020, 11:44 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
LunaticCentruroides wrote:
Some scammers on the internet can pretend to be a female, but are male.


OT: I don't know if I can say much useful, since I just discovered your age.

I personally don't see dating sites as a good way to meet someone.
If you have some female friends, they could give you a hand maybe? Like going out sometimes. But I have no clue how it is for you as someone with AS, since many of us don't like going to places with too many noises/people for example..
But sure is that it's better to meet new people in real life, especially if you plan to have a long-term relationship.



There’s always a reason why some single people end up on using dating sites - it’s often the last resort after many years of failed attempts to find someone in all stages of life (school, college, work...etc); not all of us are .... genetically gifted in health, looks and social charms in order to naturally attract people via “real life” means. Even my last ex have told me that I wouldn’t have even gotten her attention if she first met me in real life.


Well, Igor,
That hunchback of yours doesn't help. :mrgreen:

So tell us,
How did you get your ex's attention, in the end? :chin:
What magic potion travelled the internet cables to capture her interest, in the first place?

I am actually serious, here.

What started the connection?
Just general chat?
Common interests?
Your sense of humour?
Did she contact you?

"Lucy, you've got some 'splaining to do!" :mrgreen:



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30 Jun 2020, 11:48 pm

LunaticCentruroides wrote:
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There’s always a reason why some single people end up on using dating sites - it’s often the last resort after many years of failed attempts elsewhere; not all of us are .... genetically gifted in health, looks and social charms in order to naturally attract people via “real life” means. Even my last ex have told me that I wouldn’t have even gotten her attention if she first met me in real life.

Kitty is no exception.


Yeah you're probably right. I can't judge this with my 25 years.
I just know how my mom tried it many times on many different sites and now she's pretty much done with it, after the last failed relationship.

And I tried to suggest Kitty in particular to find someone that lives at least closer to her, so it's not gonna be an "online-relationship" only.

I'm sorry to hear what your ex told you. I like your picture tho. :wink:


Hands off!
He's mine.
Well, the top picture "him". :mrgreen:



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30 Jun 2020, 11:53 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
LunaticCentruroides wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
There’s always a reason why some single people end up on using dating sites - it’s often the last resort after many years of failed attempts elsewhere; not all of us are .... genetically gifted in health, looks and social charms in order to naturally attract people via “real life” means. Even my last ex have told me that I wouldn’t have even gotten her attention if she first met me in real life.

Kitty is no exception.


Yeah you're probably right. I can't judge this with my 25 years.
I just know how my mom tried it many times on many different sites and now she's pretty much done with it, after the last failed relationship.

And I tried to suggest Kitty in particular to find someone that lives at least closer to her, so it's not gonna be an "online-relationship" only.

I'm sorry to hear what your ex told you. I like your picture tho. :wink:



Oh you misunderstood; my ex told me so in a lovely way (while in bed lol), she was complimenting me but saying how she would have never found out my good traits if there was no online communication in prior - you know, honest conversations.


That's it?
Then I should be up to my eyes in women.
I ooze honesty.
Gott damn it!
I am the "Oracle of Truth" after all, FFS!
But get nothing, nada, nix!

There must be more to it. :scratch:



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01 Jul 2020, 3:46 am

Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
LunaticCentruroides wrote:
Some scammers on the internet can pretend to be a female, but are male.


OT: I don't know if I can say much useful, since I just discovered your age.

I personally don't see dating sites as a good way to meet someone.
If you have some female friends, they could give you a hand maybe? Like going out sometimes. But I have no clue how it is for you as someone with AS, since many of us don't like going to places with too many noises/people for example..
But sure is that it's better to meet new people in real life, especially if you plan to have a long-term relationship.



There’s always a reason why some single people end up on using dating sites - it’s often the last resort after many years of failed attempts to find someone in all stages of life (school, college, work...etc); not all of us are .... genetically gifted in health, looks and social charms in order to naturally attract people via “real life” means. Even my last ex have told me that I wouldn’t have even gotten her attention if she first met me in real life.


Well, Igor,
That hunchback of yours doesn't help. :mrgreen:

So tell us,
How did you get your ex's attention, in the end? :chin:
What magic potion travelled the internet cables to capture her interest, in the first place?

I am actually serious, here.

What started the connection?
Just general chat?
Common interests?
Your sense of humour?
Did she contact you?

"Lucy, you've got some 'splaining to do!" :mrgreen:


Which one? :lol:

In all cases, it was them who initiated stuff. Things started as casual flings, I am not seeking for formal relationships, at least not anymore.



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01 Jul 2020, 5:34 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
LunaticCentruroides wrote:
Some scammers on the internet can pretend to be a female, but are male.


OT: I don't know if I can say much useful, since I just discovered your age.

I personally don't see dating sites as a good way to meet someone.
If you have some female friends, they could give you a hand maybe? Like going out sometimes. But I have no clue how it is for you as someone with AS, since many of us don't like going to places with too many noises/people for example..
But sure is that it's better to meet new people in real life, especially if you plan to have a long-term relationship.



There’s always a reason why some single people end up on using dating sites - it’s often the last resort after many years of failed attempts to find someone in all stages of life (school, college, work...etc); not all of us are .... genetically gifted in health, looks and social charms in order to naturally attract people via “real life” means. Even my last ex have told me that I wouldn’t have even gotten her attention if she first met me in real life.


Well, Igor,
That hunchback of yours doesn't help. :mrgreen:

So tell us,
How did you get your ex's attention, in the end? :chin:
What magic potion travelled the internet cables to capture her interest, in the first place?

I am actually serious, here.

What started the connection?
Just general chat?
Common interests?
Your sense of humour?
Did she contact you?

"Lucy, you've got some 'splaining to do!" :mrgreen:


Which one? :lol:

In all cases, it was them who initiated stuff. Things started as casual flings, I am not seeking for formal relationships, at least not anymore.


I see. :chin:
So that is why you chose your avatar.
To discourage unwanted attention from the chickie babes. :thumright:



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01 Jul 2020, 4:30 pm

Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
LunaticCentruroides wrote:
Some scammers on the internet can pretend to be a female, but are male.


OT: I don't know if I can say much useful, since I just discovered your age.

I personally don't see dating sites as a good way to meet someone.
If you have some female friends, they could give you a hand maybe? Like going out sometimes. But I have no clue how it is for you as someone with AS, since many of us don't like going to places with too many noises/people for example..
But sure is that it's better to meet new people in real life, especially if you plan to have a long-term relationship.



There’s always a reason why some single people end up on using dating sites - it’s often the last resort after many years of failed attempts to find someone in all stages of life (school, college, work...etc); not all of us are .... genetically gifted in health, looks and social charms in order to naturally attract people via “real life” means. Even my last ex have told me that I wouldn’t have even gotten her attention if she first met me in real life.


Well, Igor,
That hunchback of yours doesn't help. :mrgreen:

So tell us,
How did you get your ex's attention, in the end? :chin:
What magic potion travelled the internet cables to capture her interest, in the first place?

I am actually serious, here.

What started the connection?
Just general chat?
Common interests?
Your sense of humour?
Did she contact you?

"Lucy, you've got some 'splaining to do!" :mrgreen:


Which one? :lol:

In all cases, it was them who initiated stuff. Things started as casual flings, I am not seeking for formal relationships, at least not anymore.


I see. :chin:
So that is why you chose your avatar.
To discourage unwanted attention from the chickie babes. :thumright:



Yeah, they would line up at my doorstep. :jester:

And I would be harshly yelling: NEXT.... NEXT..!