RightGalaxy wrote:
Lunella wrote:
You can still be autistic and narcissistic. One doesn't cancel the other out. Narcissism is learned behaviour. Autism is delayed brain development.
I have known very autistic people who have had narcissistic parents and they have copied the awful parents behaviour.
It's definitely not unheard of. Narcissism is one of those traits that appears to be programmed into a person’s behavioral repertoire after birth, not before.
Don't think for a second because someone says they're autistic they are innocent from stuff because I have known plenty of autistic people to be absolute bastards as much as I've known them to be lovely people.
Sometimes I think that Narcissists are 1/2 psychopath. I honestly think that they are born this way. The training comes on after birth because one or both parents are like this too. The are born this way and the skills are sharpened by being raised by the same sort. Like a kid being born with musical talent and has a mother who is already an accomplished musician. I think it goes like this from small to greater: ADHD, Borderline PD, narcissism, sociopathy and then full-blown psychopathy. It's just a thought. There is a good book out: "Do You Know Who I Am?" by Dr. Ramini Dervasula She has Youtubes also.
It's a very interesting concept, I believe there have been studies done on narcissism, in particular, to see if it was genetic and there was some speculation of it actually being real but it's hard to say because the parent could be a covert narcissist and they just picked the traits up from them because kids brains are like sponges and soak it all up.
I agree with what you are saying about having an autistic person being brought up in a toxic environment though, we kind of will just form into the toxicity around because we think that's normal and how you are supposed to act then becomes second nature to basically just be a bastard in life.
the way you put things.
especially that last bit. Thank you!! I needed that. It made me laugh out loud but it is SO true!