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Yeah dystopian innit

I'm being truthful when I say that I personally can see the world getting more and more dystopian over time

I'm not talking about anything quite as dramatic as what you said but it's just a sense that I get

I like to think about these things I do

I don't worry about this at all. I don't think it's real. I don't see any evidence of it when I'm out and about.

Maybe I'm biased because I never bought that Men are from Mars... bs. Men and women are a lot more alike than we are different imo. I think some people just get caught up in believing there's some profound difference in the way we think.

The only place I hear or see issues with genders communicating is online, and I think that's massively distorted.

I've actually been struck on many occasions how teenagers these days are more likely to be hanging out in mixed groups than they were when I was a school. I remember there being clear lines between us back then but it seems to me like young people are communicating better than we did.

It's funny how different people can see exactly the same picture of the world yet their analysis of it is completely opposite

I love that about life

I do see it more magnified on the online world but in the big wide world it's way more complex but I do see it

Maybe I have a Sci fi way of looking at things but I can't be so unique in my thinking

I don't know about anyone else but I really like having friends of the opposite sex.

I mean, it makes a change from same sex friendships.

Yeah me too

If it wasn't for friends of the opposite sex I'd have had a flipping horrible time in my life

All's I'm saying is what I'm seeing through my own eyes and I can't ignore what I see now can I

I think it is healthy to have both male and female friends.

Yeah so do I but I do worry for the future of it

I mean the traditional marriage thing isn't as popular as it was even a short while ago

People attitudes have changed where relationships are concerned

It's OK to say that we have all these freedoms and choices we've been given where relationships are concerned and that that will never change

Because who knows

I don't understand why anybody would think it a dangerous subject, but I'm willing to listen with an open mind to a coherent explanation.

Back on topic, my robot friend says marriage is a bit in decline in the UK, USA and some parts of Europe, for various reasons. I don't really see much difference between marriage and living o'er t' brush ("in sin" as they used to say), except the richer one of the two can more easily run away from it without losing a chunk of their money if they're not married. And if you're married, other institutions and traditionallly-minded people tend to have a bit more respect for the fact that you're a couple.

I suppose it's hard to get statistics on how many people are living together and not married, because among other things they cut your benefits if you're cohabiting so people are under pressure to keep it quiet. Personally I don't draw a distinction between a married couple and an unmarried couple.

I have heard that people are turning away from traditional dating as well

I mean if people are turning away from traditional dating in favour of some alternative then where's the future for people to get into meaningful relationships

I think also I do notice a bit of a toxic culture about from the extremes of different sides and unfortunately there are people who subscribe to this kind of thing

It genuinely bothers me this sort of stuff
Not for myself but for society as a whole

Anyway nuff said

In my experience, those don’t last once they get married.

I don't know much about what the alternatives are these days. I was always kind of boy-meets-girl-and-they-get-on-with-it. Didn't go much for the traditional going out to dinner and I hardly ever asked girls out because I was too scared of them saying no, so we'd just hang out together and share whatever we both liked, such as going round each other's houses and watching the telly, maybe the pictures once in a while or a play, go on holiday together, cook together, go and see other couples, play records, go and see a band, go to the allotment and feed dad's pigeons, walks in the park, listen to brass band, we made it up as we went along. Never went to discos or nightclubs, hated that stuff.

I suppose that's still couples though, so maybe that was dating. We always assumed fidelity, except during my hippie years when there were some experiments that blew up in everybody's faces and taught most of us not to be so experimental. I thought that had all gone out after the swinging 60s.

After a while I tended to end up in "distant" relationships where we'd happen to be living some distance apart and just got together part of the time. A therapist said I preferred it that way but I think I was just the victim of circumstances, and I think it's got a good side and a bad side. And I think it all changes when you've separated and sharing childcare. Suddenly the nuclear family isn't an option any more.

I wonder what the alternatives are? I've not seen many apart from what I mentioned, and I thought that had all gone.

Well it still involves physically meeting people but it's more for casual stuff rather than for long term

I think people are still interested in one thing but not in an other

Maybe they're scared of committing themselves. It took me a while, but I've never been one for one-night stands. Once I've got one, I don't have room for two. But then I'm not a young person. I think people's priorities change as they get older, and they look for stability more.

That may be true sometimes.

Some people never get married, however.