Anyone epic fail in a conversation before?

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In terms of me actually making an attempt to be social, then yes.

But this leads to the base reason as to why I should remain being anti-social...

No it doesn't. It proves nothing, other than you have some obstacles.

Yes I have done this. Often I don't realize till later how much of a failure the conversation was. I tend to do this because I get really nervous which makes it harder for me to think of something to talk about it. I've also been negative in conversations which also causes the conversation to fail. This is because they find negativity to be a turn-off.

You're assuming you creeped her out. It might be good to either chat by text or send an email. Women appreciate honesty too, you don't have to tell everything but you could tell her that your shy and it's hard for you to call people but she was important enough to try.

Im afraid that trying to communicate with her further will only make matters worse... My social interactions have a reputation for being damaging at times... hence why I'm in this situation to begin with...

why don't you give another go? try a different way this time, like what butterflair said-a text or an email will do for the meantime. then when both of you are relax then go on with the next step. if you really like the girl, don't just stop on the first attempt.....you carry on trying..

It's not so much that I want to stop... to the contrary, I wanted this to actually become something. My issue is that I feel whatever communication I attempt will worsen the situation...

It may worsen this situation, but you might learn what not to do next time. On the other hand you may be able to turn things around, you never know. The danger is you allow a negative experience turn into an anxiety out of proportion to what really happened. Take it from a hypocrite. That why it best to continue so you don’t dwell on these negative experiences. There is a term called resilience. That is the ability to overcome life’s hurdles. Reliance applies here. Some believe that resilience is something that you are born with. While some people may have a greater propensity toward resilience, I don’t think there is such thing as ownership of resilience and anyone is capable of it, in my opinion.

how is it goin now? i hope everythings goin on well....

I won't know until tomorrow...

yeah i've had epic fail in a conversation but that girl still speaks to me

update:

I was able to explain the rather large faux pas I made, and, thankfully due to her down-to-earth attitude, she merely shrugged it off to begin with. So now I'm back to square 2, along with some learned experience in what not to do...

Yes. Plenty.

The chance of Epic Fail in a conversation is directly proportional to the length of the conversation.

I think in concepts and graphs so I sometimes find myself in the middle of a sea of people looking at me with the 'wtf is he trying to say?' look.


Sucks to try to compress a complex CONCEPT into words.


Luckily for me some think i'm just so smart I went over their heads. I hope they never figure out i'm even more confused of what im saying than they are lol!

YES! all the time!

Don't talk because you feel like you have to. Do you feel comfortable telling her that you are shy? You can say it more than once.
There is nothing wrong with that.

I was fine telling her I'm not exactly the most sociable person (quite the opposite, actually), but I feel like saying that too much kinda dilutes the statement...

But in any case, I made that phone call because I was trying to communicate on an NT level... Obviously I really can't, though fortunately there was no harm done (though repeating that may cause harm...)