"Boring"

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So you don't want people to find you boring but you don't want to listen to "boring" small talk?

I like listening to the ramblings of my Aspie friend, why? Because I love the sound of his voice. He could read me the phone book and I'd be happy. But as much as I like listening to him, I also like to have him listen to me sometimes. Two way street kind of thing.

Girls are all different too, if you want one that likes video games, you have to look in the right place. I know of several right now that like to RP and make creatures and game. One of which has Asperger's. Try a forum that has something to do with your interests. There are bound to be girls there who have similar interests as you.

I'm an NT, I play games and I don't find you guys boring. I keep coming back here because I think you guys are interesting and have a good sense of humor. I'm just older than all of you.

Ive honestly never had this particular problem. Women often describe me as "intense":Some are scared off by it, som.e find my incessant pedantry irritating, but no one has ever even hinted that Im uninteresting. I cant talk someones ear off, and conversations with me can become quite lively within minutes. I think women are captivated by men who are either highly entertaining and humorous and/or are emotionally dynamic.

lol I'm an aspie!

I wish I could find more NT girls like me too, then I might have more girlfriends as opposed to just guy friends...

That's true, but I have a few NT girl friends that are quite understanding people.. I think NT girls tend to be a lot nicer and understanding one on one than if they are in a large group with lots of other NT girls... (A group of mixed girls and guys is good too in my opinion)

Oh sorry... I don't know what made me think that...


Well it also depends on the person in question, and the culture they're in. Many cultures in the United States tend to emphasize advancement of self at the expense of all others, and that's what causes many people (men and women) to be self-absorbed and/or greedy...

That's why I tend to advocate being in community organizations (if you are into organized religion, that counts). Volunteerism tends to attract a group of people that isn't so self-absorbed by default. In my life, seeing that a woman was self-absorbed was generally a turn-off for me, while the opposite was something I was attracted to. 4 of the 6 women I've been attracted to in life I met at my church (and another through a local community musical theater group...)

Invest into humor and knowledge, they will certainly make you seem and appear charasmatic. Humor is naturally attractive to girls, but combine it with wit and knowledge, you can really keep their interest going

Buy some marijuana and smoke out with her and then invite her to play video games. Playing video games is so much fun when you are stoned.
While high, you can pontificate all you want and I guarantee she will find it more interesting.

Nerdy guys are not boring! They can however come across as being not interested in a girl. Most guys who are interested in a girl would be kissing and showing her all of his attention. Perhaps the girls you meet expect this too and are put off by you talking about other things besides her.

Grow a pot plant.

Believe me, nerdy guys are always thinking about kissing women (or other things along that line for that matter)... since we rarely actually get to put it to practice... The only problem is that as the nerdy guys are actually more conscious of the woman's feelings, we're more nervous about it than the guy who doesn't care...

^Yes, I believe it's called "respect."

Aww... You guys are the best.

All it takes is someone like Jessica Simpson to date some nerdy college guy and then all the girls will suddenly think it's cool to date nice guys.
Hopefully things will change soon.

Musical theatre rocks my world! *high fives*

I admit I can be a bit self absorbed but I also like to help other people and make other people feel happy too. I think wanting to reach out to others is a good trait in people.

About the aspie thing, it's no problem, I can do a pretty damn good NT impersonation

And to Magnus: Nerds rule the world. Simple as that. I am proud of being a nerd, and wouldn't want it any other way. And I can't speak for all girls, but I can certainly speak for myself and a few of my intellectual girlfriends: We wouldn't consider dating a guy who wasn't a nerd (a.k.a. another intellectual). Like date like. The kinds of girls who like to date perhaps less intelligent or intellectual jocks or a**holes (now I'm generalizing, I know not all jocks or a**holes are unintelligent) probably wouldn't be the kind of girls you'd enjoy dating anyway. Believe me, you're not missing out on much with those girls.

You need to date some women then with experience you will become more confident. Like anything.

If you think you are boring then think of ways to make yourself more interesting.

Im very boring and Im obnoxious too!

I will be alone forever......

sometimes life sucks...

Except when I have to start dancing... ugh...
I got into musical theater because there are very few basses in the field that can sight-read music and memorize music and lines at the speed with which I do (very few people regardless of the section for that matter...)

But trying to even understand a dance move takes freakin forever...


Well everyone's a bit self-absorbed to an extent... but certain NT's knowingly and willingly trample other people down because of it. Aspies that tend towards the self-absorbed don't even realize what they're doing most of the time and feel remorse when told about how hurtful a certain action was...


As can I, but I can't do an NT impression in romance... everything else is okay though...


...by any chance, are you taken?

Hey, I am very boring and obnoxious too!

And I was always alone ,

let's get married and procreate very boring and obnoxious kids who would kill even the trees and any life form when they pass by a forest.

Bore power united!

Its a deal!