Do you feel pressure to be in a relationship?

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My father expected me to find girls who liked me as a teenager, because that's what teenage guys go through right? One day when I was sixteen he said to me, quite out of the blue, "I think it's great that you're holding back." I think he learned better, but he didn't have very much to say on the subject beyond that. Eventually he stopped asking me if I found a date or a new girlfriend.

My mother also couldn't relate to my lack of success, but she tried to be more reassuring. She had friends who never dated anyone, and seemed to think that a girlfriend might prove an unhealthy distraction from my studies.

A couple of my college friends also asked me every once in a while, early on in my days, if I found a date or a new girlfriend, and I'd always say no and probably then begin a string of negative comments. Eventually they stopped asking, too.

That's pretty much the full extent of the pressure, so in other words not much and nothing explicit. I put a lot more pressure on myself because I can't see myself being happy down the line without someone.

My parents have known that I was on the spectrum since age 5. They pressure me to by NT in every way posible. What is really annoying is that they always ask about the girl situation (don't get me started on career/grad school questions). It seems that, after 25 years, they would have realized that I dispise any sort of question about me, gf or otherwise, and usually respond with monosyllabic answers.

In other news, I think that my mom has, more or less, accepted that she is counting on my youngest brother for grand children - my (NT) sister doesn't want children and me... well... you know...

Just my whole life. I didn't get my first gf till I was 19. And my friends pushed me and the girl into the relationship and she ended up ignoring me. I've had three gfs and only had one longer then a month. But my parents and sister are always asking me what I am doing with my life. They get pissed when they find out that I don't go out and socialize. They don't understand that I have nervous breakdowns when I go to social places. Hell I can barley get through a walmart without thinking someone is staring at me or laughing at me.

My friends and family keep trying to get me to go places like clubs, bars, etc. And I literally start to shake sweat and go crazy just thinking about it. I've sat in a car while everyone went inside without me just because I couldn't take the pressure. At this rate I'll never find a gf.

I don't feel pressured by any friends or family. They seem to accept me as I am, although some of my now-former "friends" would gloat about their own girlfriends to me...

The only place I feel pressure is from within. I am all alone in this world... with nobody to share my life with... it definitely feels like a giant void in my personality... not so much in that there's a gaping hole in my personality, but in that I feel that my personality is void, without purpose in life...

i'm not native so i'm not sure the word "pressure" implies pressure coming from outside.

for me, parents and friends mildly try to push me, but i couldn't care less. i won't tell them, but their relationships is not something i envy.

but i feel a very strong pressure from inside. i have so much dreams and plans and ideas. "only" i need to find a girl.

If by pressure you mean horniness, then yes; otherwise, no.

I've felt pressure from time to time. Because I wasn't like everyone else; my mom keep asking me if I was homosexual (and I'm not) just because I've never had a girlfriend. I get pissed off when people assume someone is homosexual (not that there's anything wrong with that) just because they aren't in any relationships. Who are they to judge? Not everyone has to be in relationships and I'm glad I'm not like everyone else. I've saved myself misery and embarrassment from staying out of relationships.

No. I feel no real pressure regarding relationships, because I stopped caring about them many years ago.
I occasionally get the questions and subtle prods from family/friends, but that stuff doesn't happen very often.

I really don't like people (not counting family/close friends), and I find relationships in general to be a complete waste of my time.
A significant other has never been and never will be a requirement for my survival in this world.
I have enough problems of my own - the last thing I need is to have to deal with someone else's.