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05 Feb 2009, 6:23 pm

Whoever said that a girl will mention her bf at some point in conversation is right.



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05 Feb 2009, 7:00 pm

zee wrote:
Whoever said that a girl will mention her bf at some point in conversation is right.


For the most part, but another thing you could do is to ask an indirect question that presumes she has a bf; even a question about her bf and if she's single she'll most likely respond by saying she doesnt have one.



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05 Feb 2009, 7:54 pm

Haliphron wrote:
zee wrote:
Whoever said that a girl will mention her bf at some point in conversation is right.


For the most part, but another thing you could do is to ask an indirect question that presumes she has a bf; even a question about her bf and if she's single she'll most likely respond by saying she doesnt have one.


That's not a bad strategy, actually. I remember seeing a great version of this approach in a James Cagney film, where he says to the girl: "So, who's carrying your books for you now?" :lol:

But I agree with Zee and homer that if a girl is taken, she is likely to bring it up in conversation herself. Assuming every girl is taken right off the bat seems like it'd be shooting yourself in the foot- that's like going into a job interview assuming somebody else will get the position.



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05 Feb 2009, 7:57 pm

ford_prefects_kid wrote:
But I agree with Zee and homer that if a girl is taken, she is likely to bring it up in conversation herself. Assuming every girl is taken right off the bat seems like it'd be shooting yourself in the foot- that's like going into a job interview assuming somebody else will get the position.


The reason I assume a woman is taken unless I have proof otherwise is because one time there was this woman I had a passing interest in... I went about 6 months before she revealed that she had a boyfriend...



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05 Feb 2009, 8:06 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
ford_prefects_kid wrote:
But I agree with Zee and homer that if a girl is taken, she is likely to bring it up in conversation herself. Assuming every girl is taken right off the bat seems like it'd be shooting yourself in the foot- that's like going into a job interview assuming somebody else will get the position.


The reason I assume a woman is taken unless I have proof otherwise is because one time there was this woman I had a passing interest in... I went about 6 months before she revealed that she had a boyfriend...


That really sucks. I remember being surprised that way once by a guy who'd been paying me a lot of attention, and that was only after one month. But that's her error, not yours. Most of us know better.



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05 Feb 2009, 9:17 pm

13 eh!
Then you had better hurry up, I left it untill I was 16 which was too late, by then, any girl you fancy will allready have a boyfriend.



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05 Feb 2009, 9:20 pm

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13 eh!
Then you had better hurry up, I left it untill I was 16 which was too late, by then, any girl you fancy will allready have a boyfriend.


Ha. Because we all know the relationships we make at age 13 are usually long-term and committed. :P



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05 Feb 2009, 10:42 pm

ford_prefects_kid wrote:
That really sucks. I remember being surprised that way once by a guy who'd been paying me a lot of attention, and that was only after one month. But that's her error, not yours. Most of us know better.


I wouldn't have said it was her fault... my standard operation towards all women, regardless of whether I'm attracted or not, is pretty much the same: friendly, but reserved... I can't make romantic overtures to women because it's one of the few things that still makes me incredibly nervous... even carrying small talk doesn't do that to me anymore... So for all I know, she didn't think I was attracted, and only dropped the boyfriend in natural conversation some months later...



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06 Feb 2009, 12:14 pm

zee wrote:
Whoever said that a girl will mention her bf at some point in conversation is right.


Yeah, we hate that, though.

I'm an NT female with an AS boyfriend of 1.5 years, btw. When guys hit on me, it's obvious and kind of pathetic.

You will find the right girl when you aren't looking for her-- that's the way it works.

My bf and I decided that I should wear a fake engagement ring so that I don't have to deal with it anymore, because it can get scary/stalkerish real fast.

If you just talk to a girl, but not for the purpose of finding a girlfriend, you will be surprised how well things go. If she is attracted and there is chemistry, she'll probably pursue you or tell her friends she likes you or whatever. When my bf and I were first getting together, that was a bit of a problem, because it took him a little while to realize I was interested. :)



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06 Feb 2009, 12:29 pm

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You will find the right girl when you aren't looking for her-- that's the way it works.

Is that how your boyfriend found you... when he "wasn't looking"?



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06 Feb 2009, 12:40 pm

How to tell if a woman's single....

If she's not making much eye contact

If she's alone sitting by herself

If she's not wearing a dainty ring on the ring finger

If she's not dressed up in a sexy outfit

If she wears too much jewelry and not enough skin

If she speaks awkwardly when in a conversation

If she has too many pets

If she looks around at guys when they're not looking.








Oh wait.....that'd be me. :roll:


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06 Feb 2009, 12:48 pm

MissConstrue wrote:
If she looks around at guys when they're not looking.

That's why she's single... if you keep looking, love will never find you. :wink:



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06 Feb 2009, 12:58 pm

girlyCOG wrote:
If you just talk to a girl, but not for the purpose of finding a girlfriend, you will be surprised how well things go. If she is attracted and there is chemistry, she'll probably pursue you or tell her friends she likes you or whatever. When my bf and I were first getting together, that was a bit of a problem, because it took him a little while to realize I was interested. :)

As I was mentioning earlier in the thread, I tend to address all women the same way, and don't make that many romantic overtures (due to such interactions making me too nervous, and an approach without them will still work)... The good news is that, by the time the conversation is over, I'm friends with her... The bad news is that, by the time the conversation is over, I'm friends with her...

I guess what I'm trying to say is that you need to actually attract said woman in order for that approach to work, and since I'm unlovable, that's not going to happen in my case...



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06 Feb 2009, 1:36 pm

Cyberman wrote:
girlyCOG wrote:
You will find the right girl when you aren't looking for her-- that's the way it works.

Is that how your boyfriend found you... when he "wasn't looking"?


Yup, we met unexpectedly and ended up talking to one another for 4 hours. We kept talking for 2 weeks, mostly online, for several hours a day. He would come home from his univ. (2 hours away) to see me and after it was clear he wasn't going to ask me out himself, I asked him out.

You have to wait for the girl who talks to you and understands you. There will be a girl who appreciates your quirks.



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06 Feb 2009, 1:39 pm

It usualy comes up.



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06 Feb 2009, 1:41 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
I guess what I'm trying to say is that you need to actually attract said woman in order for that approach to work, and since I'm unlovable, that's not going to happen in my case...


BS. Everybody is lovable. That's what my bf thought. He thought no girl in her right mind would date someone who made video game mods in high school, still liked dinosaurs at 20, and basically didn't eat anything but cheeseburgers.

I know it's hard for you guys, because you can't really tell when someone is interested in you, but I'll bet you $100 that someone has been. ...I don't know if that's comforting or not, Toad.

I hope that helps a little.