How exactly do you tell that a girl is interested in you?

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Monsoon77
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11 May 2009, 5:31 pm

thanks for the help im going to look out for the playing with hair and exposing wrists thing.

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11 May 2009, 5:44 pm

Fudo wrote:

also why not assume everyone is interested in you?

Because that's the textbook definition of megalomania?

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11 May 2009, 6:37 pm

CrinklyCrustacean wrote:

The interesting thing is this girl is almost certainly an aspie.

What I would take from that, then, is that she was informed of the social cues that indicate interest and decided to make use of them, but without much discretion they may have been more obvious/apparent than they would normally have been from a better communicator.

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11 May 2009, 6:58 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Fudo wrote:

also why not assume everyone is interested in you?

Because that's the textbook definition of megalomania?

If that's what it takes, then why not?

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11 May 2009, 7:21 pm

MDD123 wrote:

If that's what it takes, then why not?

You don't want to be a narcissist. Trust me, I've been there before... Up until about sophomore year in high school, I thought everybody loved me, and anyone that didn't was just being aberrant... I didn't realize how much of a jerk I was being towards everyone around me... As I matured and moved away from that, I got more friends as a humble human being than I would have ever gotten as Eric Cartman...

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12 May 2009, 9:30 am

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ah an example of expectation dictating outcome. Seriously dude, girls are highly socially aware. She will unconsciously pick up on the fact that you assume she doesn't like you and conclude that it must be true. In contrast, I assume all girls love me so a girl will unconsciously be aware of my belief and consequently like me. This may sound counter intuitive to you but girls rely heavily on what others are feeling in order to determine what they are feeling. This all occurs subconsciously.

A half truth, girls do indeed pick up on how confident people are. However someone who isn't confident requires more work, more effort and are more easily offended. So in general a girl will be more guarded around someone who lacks confidence and more likely to speak around someone who has confidence. You can assume everyone hates you and still make friends, you'll just not make as many.

What you actually described in your post is something called "Borderline Personality Disorder" and is the result of excessive "splitting". I can assure you that the entire female population isn't afflicted with it.

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12 May 2009, 12:08 pm

alex wrote:

I assume every girl I talk to is interested in me.

a friend of mine does that. hes an obnoxious ass, we dont talk anymore.

i think a "golden middle path" is better, than being a totally self-dilusioned casanova.
i saw your other post, and yes, attitude is important, but dont be a self-obsessed douche, cus women notice that stuff as well ;]

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14 May 2009, 10:49 pm

ducasse wrote:

alex wrote:

I assume every girl I talk to is interested in me.

I always start from this assumption & become rapidly confused.

Also,

CrinklyCrustacean wrote:

exposing their wrists

is a sign of interest?

What does that even mean?

I assume every girl dislikes me.

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15 May 2009, 8:51 am

The problem is I can't, plus 9 out of 10 of them already have boyfriends anyways so the odds are always against me. If only the girls could make the moves but no, it's not suppose to happen that way, god forbid.

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