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02 Oct 2012, 6:45 am

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Nobody gets an ego boost from getting a message from a stranger.


I can't even begin to tell you how wrong you are there! Many people (women in particular) will openly admit they aren't interested in meeting anyone but they enjoying getting so many messages. Some of them have such inflated egos they are ready to pop.



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02 Oct 2012, 7:02 am

You guys have been watching too many movies

Comparing dating success with nice/not nice, is like comparing surfing ability with nice/not nice

They are not related in the slightest

You fellas are dreaming, get your hand off it

'I'm too nice to get a mean nasty woman....' sheesh



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02 Oct 2012, 8:12 am

spongy wrote:
And here comes the shocking part... Wait for it...:

The very same can be said about boys.

Theres a male member that has had no success online dating, one of his main complaints isnt not being contacted by girls or anything like that, its being contacted by girls that he feels superior to.
Lets face it we all do it and theres no point pretending that you are perfect and women need to grow up


Spongy, there's guys who have no success with any girl. At all. I'm not talking about they don't get the pretty one and everything under that is not good enough. There's guys that just can't get any woman at all. There's guys that are desperate and would go out with any woman and they just can't.



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02 Oct 2012, 8:13 am

GiantHockeyFan wrote:
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Nobody gets an ego boost from getting a message from a stranger.


I can't even begin to tell you how wrong you are there! Many people (women in particular) will openly admit they aren't interested in meeting anyone but they enjoying getting so many messages. Some of them have such inflated egos they are ready to pop.


Getting this ego-boost that we speak off would require: spending some time writing a somewhat decent profile.
Taking the time to check their profile somewhat regularly so that their profile doesnt become inactive.
Also youd be getting it from a stranger.

If a woman truly needed an ego-boost she´d put somewhat provocative clothes and make a point to notice the way some males she meets on everyday basis react to this change.

Online dating has a big stigma for quite a lot of people so people tell themselves all sort of stories to make it seem like they arent that desperate/resorting to that to find a partner(Im only there to make friends/Im just looking for a penpal/I just want an ego-boost).


I just spent over a month exchanging messages with someone as mutual ego-boosters in a joke-y way.
Eventually one of us took the step and ask the other one about where things where going... We could have just said hey you seem nice, I want to get to know you better but this route was safer because it gave both of us the time to become comfortable with the idea of starting something online and both have ended in the same place.



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02 Oct 2012, 8:26 am

"A human being is a part of the whole, called by us 'Universe,' a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts, and feelings as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty. Nobody is able to achieve this completely, but the striving for such achievement is in itself a part of the liberation and a foundation for inner security."

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02 Oct 2012, 9:08 am

Greb wrote:
spongy wrote:
And here comes the shocking part... Wait for it...:

The very same can be said about boys.

Theres a male member that has had no success online dating, one of his main complaints isnt not being contacted by girls or anything like that, its being contacted by girls that he feels superior to.
Lets face it we all do it and theres no point pretending that you are perfect and women need to grow up


Spongy, there's guys who have no success with any girl. At all. I'm not talking about they don't get the pretty one and everything under that is not good enough. There's guys that just can't get any woman at all. There's guys that are desperate and would go out with any woman and they just can't.


Have I ever denied that there are people of both genders that are just unable to find anything offline?.
Someone mentioned that some girls are there for no apparent reason, I brought up that there are several males that do the same and an explanation youve chosen to ignore.



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02 Oct 2012, 9:18 am

dating sites have only two kinds of women on them:
(1) fat, ugly chicks with kids
(2) snobby b*****s that are midly to good looking that think their future boyfriends/husbands already owe them something



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02 Oct 2012, 9:23 am

steviewonderau wrote:
dating sites have only two kinds of women on them:
(1) fat, ugly chicks with kids
(2) snobby b*****s that are midly to good looking that think their future boyfriends/husbands already owe them something


Hey don't make fun of OKstupid. :lmao:



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02 Oct 2012, 9:25 am

steviewonderau wrote:
dating sites have only two kinds of women on them:
(1) fat, ugly chicks with kids
(2) snobby b*****s that are midly to good looking that think their future boyfriends/husbands already owe them something


That is extremely close to making a personal attack on half of this website and I encourage you to avoid it if you want to remain for a long period

You may also want to have a look at the sticky at the top of this section regarding generalizations



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02 Oct 2012, 10:05 am

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JennaMarbles is so full of herself it's not even funny. Just another YT celebrity riding the wave.

The other lady seems like she's kinda intelligent though. The one in the video AspieOtaku posted. I'd trust her over a 20-something anyday.


She brings up some good points though. But whatever, selectively ignore what you want.


She acts as if all women are perfect. The good guys, the ACTUAL good guys, don't do that. There are plenty of women who say "I'M SO NICE! WHY DON'T GUYS LIKE ME?!" just like men do, and they can sometimes be worse about it. So some 20-something girl who probably gets boyfriends left and right and tosses them out like yesterday's garbage isn't the right person to consult about these types of things. She's just as bitter as the so-called "nice" guys are.

The other lady is probably twice her age, but makes better points and has lived more of her life, so she would know better than some generically attractive 20-year-old.


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02 Oct 2012, 10:11 am

DialAForAwesome wrote:
blue_bean wrote:
DialAForAwesome wrote:
JennaMarbles is so full of herself it's not even funny. Just another YT celebrity riding the wave.

The other lady seems like she's kinda intelligent though. The one in the video AspieOtaku posted. I'd trust her over a 20-something anyday.


She brings up some good points though. But whatever, selectively ignore what you want.


She acts as if all women are perfect. The good guys, the ACTUAL good guys, don't do that. There are plenty of women who say "I'M SO NICE! WHY DON'T GUYS LIKE ME?!" just like men do, and they can sometimes be worse about it. So some 20-something girl who probably gets boyfriends left and right and tosses them out like yesterday's garbage isn't the right person to consult about these types of things. She's just as bitter as the so-called "nice" guys are.

The other lady is probably twice her age, but makes better points and has lived more of her life, so she would know better than some generically attractive 20-year-old.


you don't know anything about her and are judging her for being young blonde and female

bitterness isn't really her thing...except maybe about her master's degree from time to time :)


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02 Oct 2012, 10:12 am

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No wonder plenty of men end up hating women due to their bad experiences. Guys are sick of being flaked/having their time wasted or used by selfish females who only care about boosting their own egos. Feminist/communist equal rights nonsense has created a lot more problems within society than it has solved.


this is how I am towards it, getting rejected is one-thing, getting teased and lead on is another, i hate it when a girl, woman makes me think i have a chance with her, but only to deny my further advances



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02 Oct 2012, 10:19 am

maybe in a stampede of rebellious and alpha lemmings, the last timid lemming may decide to stop before running off the cliff.



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02 Oct 2012, 11:08 am

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
DialAForAwesome wrote:
blue_bean wrote:
DialAForAwesome wrote:
JennaMarbles is so full of herself it's not even funny. Just another YT celebrity riding the wave.

The other lady seems like she's kinda intelligent though. The one in the video AspieOtaku posted. I'd trust her over a 20-something anyday.


She brings up some good points though. But whatever, selectively ignore what you want.


She acts as if all women are perfect. The good guys, the ACTUAL good guys, don't do that. There are plenty of women who say "I'M SO NICE! WHY DON'T GUYS LIKE ME?!" just like men do, and they can sometimes be worse about it. So some 20-something girl who probably gets boyfriends left and right and tosses them out like yesterday's garbage isn't the right person to consult about these types of things. She's just as bitter as the so-called "nice" guys are.

The other lady is probably twice her age, but makes better points and has lived more of her life, so she would know better than some generically attractive 20-year-old.


you don't know anything about her and are judging her for being young blonde and female

bitterness isn't really her thing...except maybe about her master's degree from time to time :)


with all the silly rants she gets on id say that there is some bitterness



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02 Oct 2012, 11:18 am

MXH wrote:
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
DialAForAwesome wrote:
blue_bean wrote:
DialAForAwesome wrote:
JennaMarbles is so full of herself it's not even funny. Just another YT celebrity riding the wave.

The other lady seems like she's kinda intelligent though. The one in the video AspieOtaku posted. I'd trust her over a 20-something anyday.


She brings up some good points though. But whatever, selectively ignore what you want.


She acts as if all women are perfect. The good guys, the ACTUAL good guys, don't do that. There are plenty of women who say "I'M SO NICE! WHY DON'T GUYS LIKE ME?!" just like men do, and they can sometimes be worse about it. So some 20-something girl who probably gets boyfriends left and right and tosses them out like yesterday's garbage isn't the right person to consult about these types of things. She's just as bitter as the so-called "nice" guys are.

The other lady is probably twice her age, but makes better points and has lived more of her life, so she would know better than some generically attractive 20-year-old.


you don't know anything about her and are judging her for being young blonde and female

bitterness isn't really her thing...except maybe about her master's degree from time to time :)


with all the silly rants she gets on id say that there is some bitterness


Yeah, really. I've watched a lot of her videos, and she is one of the more bitter YT members I've seen. Most of that bitterness is directed at men too. She comes off as being the typical stereotypically attractive preppy girl who hates guys who aren't perfect and is too damn concerned about her makeup, rather than more important things. That's what gets my goat about her.

If ALL women were like her, we'd all be screwed. :P


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02 Oct 2012, 11:43 am

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Have I ever denied that there are people of both genders that are just unable to find anything offline?.
Someone mentioned that some girls are there for no apparent reason, I brought up that there are several males that do the same and an explanation youve chosen to ignore.


Make an experiment. Open a couple of online profiles, a male and a female one. Use this picture for the male one: http://img.izismile.com/img/img2/200907 ... erd_02.jpg and this picture for the female one: http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_Jl7RawJe-jc/T ... rdgirl.jpg

Write some standard stuff.

Then send some mails using both profiles. And check how many answers gets the girl. And how many (probably zero) gets the guy.