Living with parents kind of puts the kibosh on dating?
The_Face_of_Boo
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If I learned one thing living with my parents, it's that a man in his house—not a rented one, of course, let alone a single room—is the alpha male. And the alpha male is the only male who gets to have sex, period.
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I bet most parents struggle to have sex in their house once they have kids old enough to walk around, knock doors and attempt invading rooms.
I think most marriages become sexless because of that.
My parents' sure as hell didn't. They even told me openly.
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Unfortunately parents don't always remain in their own room. They have a tendency to barge in. Just because they knock it doesn't necessarily mean they're going to wait for permission to enter. If you tell them not to come in they may come in and ask why not.
Flatmates do this to. I hate people, life really does seem like a punishment.
I bought a lock for my door, has a key hole on other side and only I have the keys.
I should have done this in my last flat. Then maybe half my stuff wouldn’t have been stolen. Too trusting, too nice. People don’t deserve nice. It’s what life is teaching me.
My brother would come over and take my stuff then tell me to figure out what he took if I wanted it back. He also use to come in and terrorize me, so trust when it came to my room was a concept destroyed early on. If I ever lived in a apartment with others I’d take the door handle with me and install it
I'm sure the The_Face_of_Boo will confirm.
I'm not really interested in Red-Pill ideas. I said it in the simple biological sense.
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What woman in her right mind would want to have sex with a man knowing it has to be clandestine, when she can choose one who doesn't fear punishment? She'd be disgusted with the former and wouldn't consider him a real man, nor would she trust him.
Well, now that I think of it, a woman kept locked up by her father might fancy the idea once in a while ...
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*shrug* Heterosexual problems.
I’d imagine there are a lot of young women sneaking around in this, and ever expensive, city. With housing costs the way they are, nearly everyone either lives with family or has roommates. Guaranteed young people haven’t stopped boning because of it.
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I'm sure a few who would otherwise have started doing it like everyone else, never did.
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Lovely straw man. I see what you did there.
She’s 9 years old. We’re talking about decisions a teenager might hypothetically make. We prefer to keep things simple. If the culture is incapable of steering teenagers in the best direction, then we as parents are under no obligation to allow our teenagers to make those decisions. As long as our kids are in school, they are not allowed to date.
We will not financially support them in college if they are dating/partying/socializing or doing anything we cannot in good conscience support. If they can make it without us, then exactly what can we as parents do about it exactly? And what do they want to do with us anyway? If she insists on dating a crackhead, what exactly CAN we do to stop it? Our obligations end when they turn 18, and we legally have very little hold on them beyond that.
BUT...
If they are still financially dependent on us and we dislike their decisions, we are under no obligation to support them and maintain a degree of control. If we give them a car for college and they’re flunking out, it’s technically still OUR car. We’ll just take it back and leave them stranded. If our money is going towards alcohol, we’ll stop paying college tuition and let the school throw them out on the street. If they want to choose that path, they are free to do so. But they are also free to choose better paths.
It’s the better path we’re counting on. I’m not worried about it.
Dude, what you described was false accusations and lying under oath to ruin someones life. That's a crime right there, as well as breaking one of your Gods big 10.
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This has nothing to do with that, sly. It’s more of an ageist generational bashing thread started by someone who walked uphill, both ways, barefoot in the snow to go to school & then was able to buy a home for less than 3x annual income and wonders why Millenials earning $35k can’t just go be independent in an economy where the average 1 bedroom apartment rents for $2100/month.
Seriously, it’s as if they completely forgot to teach math, finance, and economics to the older generation in those moving schoolhouses.
Also, it's a bit weird that this ageist thread is allowed to go on here considering what typically gets locked. I guess there’s a double standard here that allows old women to speak ill of hard working young people. *shrug* I dunno, I don’t have time to inquire, I’m 35 and have to go to my Sunday morning job now in order to make ends meet.
Thanks GF. Precisely what I hate about BABY boomers, as well as their hypocrisy and holier than thou attitudes.
Here is my advice to everybody in this situation (dating and living with parents). First be up front about it with your partner. They may well be in the same situation, and knowing you are too may be a big relief to them. And if this IS a deal breaker, then the relationship wont work anyway and you should move on.
And don't listen to Bea and her brood. They were raised in a time of post war prosperity and just don't get it. Her whole spiel is that you don't deserve to be happy because she disapproves of how you live. Even though its not likely a choice. Thankfully they are at an age where nursing homes and the grave will begin to swallow them whole. Bye bye.
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Edgar Allan Poe, The Cask of Amontillado
It's not cool to wish Nursing Homes upon anybody.
I ain't going to one-----neither is my Depression-era mother.
Don't paint Baby Boomers with one stripe.....I certainly don't do that to Millennials.
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