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05 May 2020, 6:24 am

My answer to the "Do women simply just dislike Aspie men?" would be mostly : "Almost yes, for most NT women, at least, they may not know what AS is but they generally dislike the typical aspie traits and that what all matters really".



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05 May 2020, 6:25 am

XFilesGeek wrote:
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fluffysaurus wrote:
Are you looking for sexual experience (to put it about) or a long term serious relationship?

Or a serious relationship but preferably after you've put it about for a bit?

I'm not waiting to judge but I would give very different advice depending on what you actually want. Don't just say you'll settle for anything, you must have a preference.

I've just read 11 pages and no one asked this question, why?



But you are a pig, no one here can achieve your sexual experience.


Careful with the jokes, Boo.

I get you're joshing us, but other posters don't.

Thanks.



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05 May 2020, 6:26 am

Aspie/autistic men are not dead in the water when it comes to women digging them.



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05 May 2020, 6:28 am

fluffysaurus wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
fluffysaurus wrote:
Are you looking for sexual experience (to put it about) or a long term serious relationship?

Or a serious relationship but preferably after you've put it about for a bit?

I'm not waiting to judge but I would give very different advice depending on what you actually want. Don't just say you'll settle for anything, you must have a preference.

I've just read 11 pages and no one asked this question, why?



But you are a pig, no one here can achieve your sexual experience.

Is this a David Cameron joke :oops: it wasn't me. It was a different pig.


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05 May 2020, 6:34 am

funeralxempire wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
fluffysaurus wrote:
Are you looking for sexual experience (to put it about) or a long term serious relationship?

Or a serious relationship but preferably after you've put it about for a bit?

I'm not waiting to judge but I would give very different advice depending on what you actually want. Don't just say you'll settle for anything, you must have a preference.

I've just read 11 pages and no one asked this question, why?



But you are a pig, no one here can achieve your sexual experience.


Careful with the jokes, Boo.

I get you're joshing us, but other posters don't.

Thanks.


I'm not a likely Boo-defender, but anyone who's seen Fluffy's avatar should get it if they're capable of getting jokes at all. Even Commander Data would have smirked.



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05 May 2020, 8:41 am

funeralxempire wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
fluffysaurus wrote:
Are you looking for sexual experience (to put it about) or a long term serious relationship?

Or a serious relationship but preferably after you've put it about for a bit?

I'm not waiting to judge but I would give very different advice depending on what you actually want. Don't just say you'll settle for anything, you must have a preference.

I've just read 11 pages and no one asked this question, why?



But you are a pig, no one here can achieve your sexual experience.[/quote



Careful with the jokes, Boo.

I get you're joshing us, but other posters don't.

Thanks.


I'm not a likely Boo-defender, but anyone who's seen Fluffy's avatar should get it if they're capable of getting jokes at all. Even Commander Data would have smirked.



I know, but his post got reported, and, given recent events, I don't want Boo to become a target of people who just don't like him and start reporting him and attacking him.

I'm trying to avoid a repeat of what happened with Fnord.


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05 May 2020, 9:27 am

This needs to be applied to some asap.

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05 May 2020, 10:28 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Aspie/autistic men are not dead in the water when it comes to women digging them.



I'm not sure about that.How many aspie men have EVER experienced a single one relationship throughout their lives?I go one step further. How many aspie men ever even made to a friendship level with a female before? From my experience,aspie women seem to struggle to find the correct men to be in a long term romantic relationship with,while aspie men tend to struggle to even make women like us AT ALL,and also often struggle to get past Acquaintance level with them. Atleast me anyway, this would suggest that many,if not dare I say most aspie men would on the bottom of the list women it comes to attracting women. Based on my previous failures with women,I have to agree with The_Face_of_Boo here.I think a large majority,if not the vast majority of non aspie women would likely dislike the traits that comes with Asperges Syndrome, and there's only so much that can be done to mask these traits.



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05 May 2020, 10:34 am

rick42 wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Aspie/autistic men are not dead in the water when it comes to women digging them.
I'm not sure about that.How many aspie men have EVER experienced a single one relationship throughout their lives?I go even further. How many aspie men ever even made to a friendship level with a female before? From my experience,aspie women struggle to find the correct men to be in a long term romantic relationship,while aspie men struggle to even make it past Acquaintance level with women,mainly due to women not liking us. Atleast me anyway, would suggest that many if not dare I say most aspie men would on very bottom of the list women it comes to attracting women. Based on previous failures with women,I have to agree with The_Face_of_Boo here.I think most non aspie women just dislike the traits that comes with Aspergers, and there's only so much that can be done to mask these traits.
None of which negates the fact that some aspie men ARE in long-term relationships with their girlfriends or wives.

Autism is NOT a social death-sentence; at least, not for everyone!


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05 May 2020, 10:43 am

You're staring yourself blind on statistics. Unless you are in fact looking to date "most women", which seems unlikely and somewhat difficult logistically, your aim should be to attract the sort of woman who would be attracted to you and your traits, not changing yourself to game the odds. Just because getting struck by lightning is exceedingly unlikely doesn't change the fact that there are people to whom it has happened. Repeatedly.


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05 May 2020, 11:27 am

I think that women dislike ugly guys.

And if a man is ugly and poor then he stands absolutely no chance of ever getting any attention and affection from any girl and that's the crazy part of life.

Handsome looks and a lot of wealth matter quite a lot to many pretty young girls and especially to young and pretty Caucasian girls and that's a fact of life.



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05 May 2020, 11:32 am

Wolfram87 wrote:
You're staring yourself blind on statistics. Unless you are in fact looking to date "most women", which seems unlikely and somewhat difficult logistically, your aim should be to attract the sort of woman who would be attracted to you and your traits, not changing yourself to game the odds. Just because getting struck by lightning is exceedingly unlikely doesn't change the fact that there are people to whom it has happened. Repeatedly.



Here's the problem,most non aspie women simply don't find aspie traits in a man to be very appealing.How many women would find aspie male traits to be attractive or even something that isn't a big negative?If I had to guess,I say it probably be a very few and far between, and even then I believe most of those women would likely ether already taken,or women who I find to be very uninteresting.Even the Nerd/Geeky and shy women that I have met so far tend to see aspie traits as big negative,which at one point I though it was bit surprising,since I though they would be more accepting. Most of my dating struggle comes from that non aspie/autistic women are simply not accepting of men who have aspie traits.Non aspie/autistic men on the other tend a lot more accepting of aspie traits than women,which one of biggest reasons why there's many more single aspie men than are single aspie women. It's also the same reason why we tend to have more friends with people of the same sex than aspie women do as well.



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05 May 2020, 11:36 am

rick42 wrote:
... most non aspie women simply don't find aspie traits in a man to be very appealing...
So?

By your own reasoning, this means that SOME non-aspie women DO find aspie traits in a man to be appealing, maybe even very appealing.

Go out there and get 'em!


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05 May 2020, 11:42 am

Go out there and get’em tiger! Rawr!

Don’t get corona on the way tho.



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05 May 2020, 12:05 pm

rick42 wrote:
Wolfram87 wrote:
You're staring yourself blind on statistics. Unless you are in fact looking to date "most women", which seems unlikely and somewhat difficult logistically, your aim should be to attract the sort of woman who would be attracted to you and your traits, not changing yourself to game the odds. Just because getting struck by lightning is exceedingly unlikely doesn't change the fact that there are people to whom it has happened. Repeatedly.

Here's the problem,most non aspie women simply don't find aspie traits in a man to be very appealing.How many women would find aspie male traits to be attractive or even something that isn't a big negative?If I had to guess,I say it probably be a very few and far between, and even then I believe most of those women would likely ether already taken,or women who I find to very uninteresting. Non aspie/autistic men on the other tend a lot more accepting of aspie traits than women,which one of biggest reasons why there's many more single aspie men than are single aspie women. It's also the same reason why we tend to have more friends with people of the same sex than aspie women do as well.


You know, after reading Fluffy’s post above where she asked you a question, it occurred to me that there’s a whole series of questions that you haven’t been asked and that it might be worthwhile to ask them, so, her goes:
• 1) What do you want out of this thread?
Are you after advice and encouragement from those of us who have wives/husbands/significant others, or, do you want sympathy with your current situation? (If option two: ignore all subsequent questions, they’re irrelevant in that case)
• 2) Repeating Fluffy’s question: what do you actually want in terms of a relationship with a woman?
Sex? Friendship? A date two-three times a month and see where that leads? A girlfriend you see a few times a week? Marriage/long-term commitment?
• 3) Assuming the answer to (2) is one form or another of serious/potentially serious relationship: what do you think these are like?
what do you anticipate would be a positive change, are there any potential drawbacks you’ve thought of?
• 4) What are you priorities as regards the hypothetical woman you would have a relationship of whatever form with?
looks? hobbies? tastes in general? sense of humour? character traits? background & upbringing? beliefs (religious and/or political)? Other?
• 5) Where & how have you been trying to make a connection with women in the past?

That’s probably enough interrogation! :lol:
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