How many of you are adults and have never had a girlfriend?

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No girlfriend, no real friends, no chance at ever being happy. My mother insists that I'd be a great boyfriend and that I would have heaps of women interested in me and it's going to be really depressing when she finally realizes that's a load of bollocks.

34 years old
never had girlfriend
never had boyfriend

when i was younger, got a couple crushes. they lasted a long time and they were intense.

however, sincei was about 21, have not gotten any crushes.

maybe subconsciously, my brain points out that it would be hard to get someone when i am trans and autistic and clinically depressed. when there are so many cisgender neurotypical men/women that make better dates.

likewise, chronically unemployed. plenty of employed men/women to date.

on the other hand, starting to doubt i even want one. sure, stability would be good. (fine). but it takes a lot of work. and half of marriages end in divorce.

I've been on several dates, but no girlfriend.

About to be 25, never had a girlfriend. Plenty of girls have been interested but they've tended to give up after dropping tons of obvious (to them anyway) hints. Nowadays they tend to like me for a bit while I use my "meeting people" persona but once they realize that I'm not a charming man and just someone acting like one they run. Might help if I didn't drink quite so much either I guess. What frustrates me most is when I lose out to someone that isn't better looking, funnier, more intelligent, or more charming than me. I just can't help but wonder what the hell is wrong with me.

Yeah I get a tiny bit of interest, but then I don't seem to be able to make it go anywhere. I feel like I only have to make one tiny slip up and the man loses interest.

That's why I'm so anxious when I meet someone new these days. I keep hoping I won't do something wrong and push him away and that in itself isn't easy to deal with and my anxiety and stressed out behaviour turns them off.

I've given up now. I wish I could tell my heart that I've given up, it keeps getting it's attention caught, but my brain knows that no one will ever reciprocate.

Much more interesting to me are the number of adults who have never had boyfriends. I don't care about how many have never had girlfriends--not in the sense that I don't wish that they find a girlfriend, but to the extent that their numbers already seem to exceed the opposite. A girl who has never had a boyfriend, looking for a guy who has never had a girlfriend, will have some sort of options. Never mind that some of those options won't be to her liking--some girls are not to my liking either. But having a greater pool to start with will tend to increase the probability of success, in the same way that applying for several jobs will increase your probability of getting hired (even if you, in fact, end up not being accepted for any).

never had a gf

me. and im old.

I've had two very short-term relationships, one of which I wouldn't really even count since I wasn't the one interested, she was plainly obsessed with me and had to be actually restricted from seeing me.. Both happened same year about 6 years ago and since, I have had nothing going on.

Tried finding company on dating-sites and Tinder and such to no avail. I did initiate a few conversations in the dating site but the only girl who seemed really interested, suddenly lost all her interest when I said I don't have a job (clearly a gold digger). On Tinder I had actually hundreds of matches but they only lead to one date with a girl who contacted me first (the date was a catastrophe anyway). My biggest flaw on using Tinder was my inability to start conversations, which I believe most of the girls pretty much expect men to do..

Then one day out of drunkeness and stupidness, I posted every girl on my contacts same message, "Talking isn't prohibited..". Responses I got varied wildly from being outright butt-hurt to telling me if I would have talked with them long ago, they would have been very interested.. After that I've just stayed away from all dating sites etc and don't really know when I'll have the motivation again for these 'games'...

Yep it sucks

I've never had a girlfriend and I don't see that changing.

You must be able to enjoy life alone though?
I certainly am not living to 38 alone.

Wish I could obtain happiness through hobbies and objects alone.

I wish I could as well. I hate being lonely.

Saaaaame here.

Well unfortunately me too, even though I'm about to turn 27. But now that I'm done with grad school and I'll be out on my own soon (unfortunately I'm back living with my parents while I'm looking for a new job after I just completed an internship out of state), I've decided that I'm going to really start dating women. And hopefully, I'll also finally have an actual real social life too.