Eligible Odd-Bods! - The Premier Aspergian Singles List

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Oi!!

Hy there- im buried in central NZ. It is good to know there are some NZers here. This isnt a yell out for a mate cos i can't handle that right now.
But wondering about other NZer AS experiences with the curve balls of life. Especially with health system in your area how dx'd and personal discoveries.
im 31, female, like physical moving best, music etc,intelligent according to other people, (dunno what they see) not particularly fussed whether you are male or female, old or young. connection happens for other reasons i think.
becca

I am 19 year old girl from New Jersey, USA. I have been diagnosed with Asperger's for three years. I am looking for a fellow Aspie who can understand me.

Well, I'm a 20 year old male from NZ who's also single. I'm into almost any kind of music except anything that makes it onto any top 20/40 anywhere. I enjoy reading, especially spy novels/thrillers/horrors/scifi. I like movies, generally mindless action ones that let me kill a couple of hours and not really remember it.

Aaron Mason, age 20, and I'm from Bathurst, NSW Australia. Looking for someone who understands. Age not important. Doesn't necessarily have to agree with my views, just to be on the same page. I enjoy relationships of any lateral distance, as distance in a relationship is how far apart you feel you are from someone, not the lateral distance between the places where the two people live. Here's a pic.



You can contact me through MSN or pmsg - I plan to come here as often as I can.

edit: Here's some of my vitals:

Height: 183cm (6'0")
Birthdate: 16 July

As if inspired by PhoenixKitten, I am going to post the things that disgruntle me about the female race (who at one stage I decided were all shallow, manipulative b*****s!) to outline my selection criteria. This is from personal experience.

* You will not, after I tell you about my condition and how I diagnosed myself, declare that it's impossible to diagnose oneself and therefore I must be a hypochondriac;

* You will not, after I have done the above, declare that I'm only making excuses for my poor social ability without any knowledge of me apart from that;

* You will appreciate that I look for personality in girls and put looks second, and not declare that I am gay, spineless or stupid because of this;

* You will not try to fix me. I am not a broken down car;

* You will not play with me, or my feelings. I am not a toy;

* You will not blame me for everything that happens to you;

* You will not fake your feelings to me. That is wrong and hurtful;

* You will appreciate that all I want at first is a friend.

* You will appreciate that I am a guy and (if you are female) that I do think about sex every 4 minutes on average (about 238 times a day over 16 hours).

That's all I can think of for now...

P.S. PhoenixKitten, given your experience, you are not a bleeding heart, you have more experience than most girls I've met over the years. Be proud of that.

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Carla, you found me and trust me i understand you pretty well , you're free to bite wherever you want

*blinks* I broadcast my what now?

Oops, missed the "not"... sorry. I edited my post.

Well I don't really broadcast it, I just have it on my web page - I'm thoroughly against jamming it down people's throats.

Sorry about that

Hey Maria, too bad your in New Zealand, I would've been interested. I'm in Brisbane, Australia. If you're interested in chatting online, I'm game

Anyways, I'm a 19 yr old uni student. Major interest in film, wanting to be a film director (unsurprisingly, I go for brilliant visuals and sound over great dialogue and story... so naturally I'm in love with Revenge of the Sith). Also fascinated by computers and Xbox and almost anything in the physical world.

I try to play pool, with various levels of success... My sense of humour ranges from random logic (see my signature for details ) to the absurd, a la Bill Bailey (favourite quote from him: 'My mind is unravelling so soon. Like kittens on a tapestry!! ')... My social skills vary. Small talk and deep talk with good friends are easy. Girls are hard work, but I'm striving to improve. Most of my errors in the past have been because I was to scared to make a move.

I've noticed in myself that I often need a physical attraction to start with, and then allow opportunity for the relationship to build. However, physical isn't enough. If I'm not mentally turned on as well, I lose interest quickly. Attraction is only first gear, need to change the ratios if it's gonna go any further.

Any takers?

Hey Phoenix Kitten, you sound really interesting to me.

If you want to know a little more about me, I can tell you that more than a few people have said that I don't have an evil bone in my entire body. I am someone who always tries to understand others. If there was another thing I could advertise, it would probably be, for no other reason than irony, that my defining quote features a cat...

'My mind is unravelling so soon. Like kittens on a tapestry!!' - Bill Bailey.

Expect many quirky statements like that... they flow through me like a river.

Interested?

girl 15 usa san antonio texas my interests are horse back riding and reading non fiction books also volnteering,surfing the websites
Quite, kind, caring, hard working, cuddly,non judgemental,friendly!!
Blond Hair Blue Eyes Normal Build About 160 pounds 5'11 tall think!!

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Hello! I like to be called Tasci, Pandora, or just synx. synx13 by handle if you like. I'm here because I like learning what other people are looking for! ^.^ I like philosophy and especially blurring of the lines of good and evil. Stories are my most favorite thing in the whole world. I have more diverse fixations than most Aspies, but the major ones are algorithms, stories, ferrets and um... Biology.

By that last one I mean two things. The science of life, ecology and the amazing interactions of our sun-powered plant powered world are just so beautiful and amazing. The sheer diversity and detail to which we have evolved from chaos is stunning and inspiring. And secondly I like talking about and learning from people's personal experiences as biological beings. So... um... to be frank... I've had more than a handful of people stop being friends with me because they were offended by my refusal to treat their bodies as something not to be spoken of, or worse to be worshipped in poetic lies and euphamisms.

I am very, very literal, though literal in that I mean all of the denotations and connotations in everything I say. That's something I'd warn people about in hindsight too. The only time you will see me saying something many-layered, or implying something, is when I'm trying to be ironic. If I don't like the hat you just bought for me, then I don't like the hat you just bought for me. Doesn't mean I'm not grateful and happy for the gift, but, I have trouble couching my words sometimes when it just makes more sense to tell the truth and be done with it.

Oh and if experience is any guide, I'm about 80% sure I'm nonsexual. I can be perfectly slu*ty and perverted, but don't be surprised if much of the time I get more out of the thrill of trading story ideas, than out of that weird icky physical ritual known as sex. Enough of my instincts are malformed (I do NOT like kissing on the lips) that it's kinda an unpleasant prospect, though I hear the writhing, screaming ecstasy is quite pleasant. I'm really ambivalent about the whole thing sometimes. I really should try it sometime just to not be so unsure, but I fear it would give me less of a unique perspective on life.

Guess that's all the warnings. I see more nice people here with whom I might make good friends (and not JUST friends either!) than I have seen most anywhere else; so I'll be sure to PM a few people. To everyone else: when you post your self up here, do think about PMing some others who have posted in return. It's so sad when so many people come forward, but nobody ever gets up to reaching back and taking hands.

Most guys, aspie or no, as far as I've been able to tell, really aren't that in need of sex. I mean, sure they've got the drive, and it's really strong, but slaking the thirst does not quench the hunger, if that makes any sense.

What guys have is insecurity. They are shown big, brawny hulks of men, who achieve superhuman feats, never give up, and achieve things through their own isolated cunning, tenacity and fearlessness. Boys are expected to play with trucks and guns, harsh angular things, destroying things. I'd say most guys would be a nervous wreck by the time they grew up. It's a horribly restrictive standard, and dreadfully isolating. Imagine the boy, trying to be a boy: he must not show weakness or emotion, he must not turn to friends for help. If he does, then he will literally get beaten up. Beaten up! People will bruise boys and break their bones, just because the boys weren't man enough to "stand up for themselves." Say nothing of the bones boys are expected to break when they are drafted into the pre-military sports like soccer (aka football), and football (aka USA rugby).

So besides the obvious nookie, I think the best thing you can do to get guys what they need is to offer them validation. Make them feel like people, feel worthwhile. It's not romantic when a man must kill himself for those he loves--there's almost always a better way out of such a situation. If you can find a male friend who you can talk to like a girlfriend, then you might be onto something. What males need in our society really is acceptance and community.

Gosh, and especially Aspies. NTs are usually way more able to be aggressive, and less vulnerable to both emotional and physical pain. So if you're looking for some sweet loving with an Aspergers man, definitely consider letting them know they can always come to you for help and solace. (And nookie.) Gah! Quiet you! (...)

Not that you'll be able to pull a Beauty and the Beast. Some guys are just damaged goods, dangerous to be around, and not anyone's responsibility to bring to healing. I recommend treating them as you would a vicious dog, seriously. Pity them: perhaps, help: maybe, save: not a chance, get close to: bad idea. Or worse than a vicious dog, treat them like a nonswimmer drowning in molten lava. (Woo, I'll never see episode 3!) They'll chase you, grab you, drag you down and kill you, and themselves, and whether it's a symbolic social death (i.e. marriage) or actually getting killed, definitely not something you ever should have to deal with.

sure what i am yet so yeah and cant date yet so just looking for friends that are boys and friends that are girls to talk to over the internet on pm's and forums so let me Know if interested

I'M J.D.

i'm 32 and going to a trade school. i appear normal but always struggle communicating with people even online! not really ready for anything serious right now anyway,just looking for shared experiences and interested to read stories from female
aspies.
my interests
radio,news,nfl,comic books,new wave music,dogs,